So , my girlfriend of *1 month* thinks she knows me. She doesn't actually know me first off. I've seen her around 5-10 times, and then i got grounded so i havent seen her in about two weeks. She calls me every day... texts me... leaves me voicemails.

Well the thing is, I like her alot, but I have a life and i cant talk to her all the time. I also don't have a desire to talk to her all the time. I can't see her in real life, so what is there to talk about on the phone? She calls me but i just want to go to sleep.

I dont feel like a relationship as short as ours could progress (relatively) long distance. She seems to think otherwise, she doesnt "mind" that she can't see me. Well i mind that i can't see her.

She keeps telling me how things "should" go. Like, "You should remember our 1 month date" What is this eight grade? "You should call me more" What is there to talk about on the phone with this girl i barely know? And we're still going to homecoming which is the only date i'm not supposed to be grounded...

She says this to me..

"Are you going to pick me up from my house?"

I respond:

"Uhh, I think everyone and the limo are meeting at my house"

She gets pissed off and says:

"You're SUPPOSED to pick the girl up"

I'm not supposed to do shit. There's no book telling exactly how a perfect romantic relationship should go. there's no SUPPOSED to, so why does this girl keep telling me how i'm SUPPOSED to do everything?

I've had lots of girlfriends, but we become close in our own way doing it our way, just letting things go naturally. But this girl seems to think, Everything has to be a certain way and Prince charming is going to come take her away?



WHAT THE FUCK TOTSE?

I'm ready to dump her for being so clingy / expecting so much shit from me.

This is just really pissing me off, she tells me im an ass because i dont want to talk to her on the phone all day, as if i HAVE to.

Anyway, am i unreasonable or is she?

It's her.

She sounds immature. You took a month to get to know her, you gave it 30 days worth of chances. Tell her to cool it or she's going to make you lose interest in the relationship. Be honest. If she cares she will make an effort and things might work out. If not she's an airhead and you can do better.

quote:Originally posted by Xiao Mei:

It's her.

She's immature, or she just has different standards than you. Either way, you aren't compatible. Let her go.

I hear homecoming is a big deal. Like a prom?

I would say you should make a memory of it for her.

Other than that, you need to talk to her and let her know that you have differing expectations for what takes place within a relationship.

Sorry, I didn't read your post but your name reminded me of Freakazoid and Dexter's cat, Mr. Chubbikins.

Maybe I'll read it later?

Get out , QUICKLY ,

Have suffered immaturity in a previous relationship . I tended to keep thinking no she will get better one day , any day now she will drop the act. No it doesnt work like that unfortunately .

Quite ironic our relationship was long distance too but i did get to see her .

But fuck it man , if you ever find yourself thinking of her as immature and not as smart as you get out of there quickly .

You have no idea how much damage people can do to you emotionally and they never will realise it