And he HATES the present I got him! I was so upset that I kind of lost it and screamed at him. But then again...He was rather mean about it...He said we should RETURN the present to the store!

AM I just overreacting, or was it a prickish thing for him to do?

He'll probably hate the cake I made, too...:*(

I'm gonna hate myself for asking...but what did you get him? Obviously not EAS!

The cake will be fine!

Return it so he can get what he really wants.

We cant tell you if it was prickish of him or not unless you tell us what it was

Does it matter what the gift was, if it was something he didn't like or want?

It's just a thing take it back.

I got him a book I THOUGHT he wanted. It was "America the Book" by Jon Stewart. He talks about that book all of the time, but we never bought it because it's like $20 and you know...That's pretty damn expensive for a book!

I think the cake will probably be pretty good. I don't mean to brag, but I AM a superb cook!

He'll probably complain that I'm trying to make him fat or something, though.



[This message has been edited by Xiao Mei (edited 10-15-2006).]

quote:Originally posted by Xiao Mei:

I got him a book I THOUGHT he wanted. It was "America the Book" by Jon Stewart. He talks about that book all of the time, but we never bought it because it's like $20 and you know...That's pretty damn expensive for a book!



Quit yer grizzling, girl! List price over here for it is $27.8! (although Amazon will do it for about $20).

And i think he forgot his good manners. You always smile and say 'thank you'...was he raised in a barn ?

Honestly, as a guy, I don't like getting presents. I'd rather my significant other just ask me to go out with her and do somthing I felt like doing either that day, or anytime. I do realize you have a child, but you know you could always get someone to watch her for a bit. As long as its not any other mother around, cause you know how they are.

You shoulda just given him the EAS, he'd be so greatful

Not until April.

Guys suck about receiving presents. The best thing to get them is a 6pack/26 of their choice, a pizza, a big fucking tv with hockey/football going, and then sex. That's a birthday present. A book? Not so much. Although good choice, Jon Stewart is the shit.

My husband hates both beer AND football and we have sex like every day, so I can't be all like, "Your awesome birthday present is...Me NAKED and willing!" I did tell him I would go down in him, but now I'm not so sure.

You should have bought him a TI89

quote:Originally posted by Xiao Mei:

My husband hates both beer AND football and we have sex like every day, so I can't be all like, "Your awesome birthday present is...Me NAKED and willing!" I did tell him I would go down in him, but now I'm not so sure.



Your husband hates beer and football? What the hell kind of crap is that?

He was being an arsehole he is completely out of order,

quote:Originally posted by Xiao Mei:

My husband hates both beer AND football and we have sex like every day, so I can't be all like, "Your awesome birthday present is...Me NAKED and willing!" I did tell him I would go down in him, but now I'm not so sure.





I'm afraid you've married a nancy boy and i fussy one at that.

$20 is expensive for a book?

Not in my 'book'.

Don't be offended, that's just silly. Sometimes you hit the mark, sometimes you miss.

Let it go.

quote:Originally posted by Demoiselle:

Guys suck about receiving presents. The best thing to get them is a 6pack/26 of their choice, a pizza, a big fucking tv with hockey/football going, and then sex. That's a birthday present. A book? Not so much. Although good choice, Jon Stewart is the shit.

Fucking idiotic stereotypes. The sad thing is that most guys are illiterate apes, but the worst part is that that's what women seem to like!

I hate football. I hate beer. I hate TV. I hate hockey. I would hate sex too - disgusting and fleshy - but my hormones are too strong for that. Seriously, the things you named are the things I hate most out of everything in the entire universe (except the people who like them). I do, however, love books, and probably have more than the city's public library. I would be happy to get a book. Books pwn the fuck out of bitter brain-killing beverages, disgusting greasy pizza, grunting muscle-bound idiots, and the passive, mind-numbing "entertainment" of the TV.

I was going to say that XM's husband sounds like a total prick indeed, except he hates beer and football. Now I'm going to say that he sounds fucking awesome and she should appreciate him lots (unless he likes hockey and TV).



. /rant



Edit: and before anyone says anything about "nerd" or "nancy boy", yes I am. At least, I like computers and being alone and reading fantasy/sci-fi and writing discourses on philosophy. However, I'm also willing to bet that I'm physically bigger than most of the males on Totse... I've got the physique of a linebacker (much to my dismay; I look like a fucking jock), just not the mentality.

[This message has been edited by Twisted_Ferret (edited 10-15-2006).]

He usually LOVES books...I guess just not the one I got. And we don't even own a tv, so I assume he doesn't like it.:P

He is definitely not a typical guy...Although he is pretty muscular, but that's for his job. I could never be with a guy who just hung around watching sports and drinking beer...I would find him so BORING.

Xiao Mei > Demoiselle x10000000 forever



Okay, okay. I'm calm now. Anyway. My opinion on the actual topic: it is kinda prickish of him. I mean, no matter what I get I'm probably going to act appreciative. It really is the thought that counts. However, perhaps this isn't the most logical way to look at it. Was he actually like "ew I hate it", or more like "wow honey, I really appreciate this but it's not what I wanted, let's take it back and get something new together"? The second one would still make me feel bad if someone did it to me; however, it shouldn't. It's possible to appreciate the thought and want something else; after all, if you don't say anything then you're kinda wasting $20 or whatever!

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quote:Originally posted by deiki:

You should have bought him a TI89

Shes not asian.

I got something I did not want for my birthday. Turns out I really like it now. It is useful and practical.

But, I was tempted to return it for something else. Normally I would have. I always give gifts with the receipt so they can return or exchange. It is something expected in my book.

quote:Originally posted by Twisted_Ferret:

Fucking idiotic stereotypes. The sad thing is that most guys are illiterate apes, but the worst part is that that's what women seem to like!

I hate football. I hate beer. I hate TV. I hate hockey. I would hate sex too - disgusting and fleshy - but my hormones are too strong for that. Seriously, the things you named are the things I hate most out of everything in the entire universe (except the people who like them). I do, however, love books, and probably have more than the city's public library. I would be happy to get a book. Books pwn the fuck out of bitter brain-killing beverages, disgusting greasy pizza, grunting muscle-bound idiots, and the passive, mind-numbing "entertainment" of the TV.

I was going to say that XM's husband sounds like a total prick indeed, except he hates beer and football. Now I'm going to say that he sounds fucking awesome and she should appreciate him lots (unless he likes hockey and TV).



. /rant



Edit: and before anyone says anything about "nerd" or "nancy boy", yes I am. At least, I like computers and being alone and reading fantasy/sci-fi and writing discourses on philosophy. However, I'm also willing to bet that I'm physically bigger than most of the males on Totse... I've got the physique of a linebacker (much to my dismay; I look like a fucking jock), just not the mentality.



Calm down, cupcake. Xiao's husband is in the military. Military men are supposed to fit that stereotype, am I right? Would you feel safe having a "nancy boy" fighting wars and blowing shit up? No, no you would not.

And for the record, I wouldn't date a 1-dimensional loser who's only interests are beer, football and sex. However, I've yet to meet a guy that would turn down even 1 out of the 3 as a decent gift. Shit, I'd be happy as a clam if someone planted me in front of a tv, gave me beer and pizza and said "enjoy." Why? Because it's free shit, dude. Everyone loves free shit. And whoever gets free shit and then says it's no good is a prick.



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Get the fuck off TOTSE...seriously...you should be celebrating or getting smashed right now.

Ideally you would have gotten him anal.

But...you didn't and he didn't like the book...so turn it on him and make him feel terrible for kicking your thought that counts in the proverbial nuts.

quote:Originally posted by Demoiselle:

Calm down, cupcake. Xiao's husband is in the military. Military men are supposed to fit that stereotype, am I right? Would you feel safe having a "nancy boy" fighting wars and blowing shit up? No, no you would not.

Yeah, because if you don't like football you're automatically a nancy boy. There has never been a tough man in history who didn't like to get drunk and watch meaningless bullshit.

quote:And for the record, I wouldn't date a 1-dimensional loser who's only interests are beer, football and sex. However, I've yet to meet a guy that would turn down even 1 out of the 3 as a decent gift.

Well, maybe I wouldn't turn down the pizza . But if someone got me anything football or beer related, they'd either be covered in beer or sodomized by a football shortly after.

Well, fine. I'd appreciate the thought and act happy, but secretly I would be plotting to destroy the football-related-item in a ritualistic manner.

quote:Shit, I'd be happy as a clam if someone planted me in front of a tv, gave me beer and pizza and said "enjoy."

Simple minds, simple pleasures.

quote:Why? Because it's free shit, dude. Everyone loves free shit. And whoever gets free shit and then says it's no good is a prick.

Those damn cancer patients. How dare they scorn their free disease!

why are you mad that he didn't like the present? you didn't get him the present to feel good about yourself, right? you got it to make him happy. you took a wild guess about what he would like, and you happened to pick something a bit off base....it happens. he was honest about his opinion, which isn't actually a bad thing. you're married, so it's not like there won't be many more birthdays to come. if he's not honest with you about what he likes, then he'll be doomed to get bad birthday presents for the rest of his life. and by returning it, he's making it so that the money doesn't go to waste. that way, he can get something he actually does like.

so there's no reason to be upset. it IS the thought that counts, and that's why it doesn't matter that the book is getting returned.

when you have an 11 inch dick, you really dont need anyting else

^^^except a reduction.

i call bullshit on this 11 inch dick until pics

Haha, one time one of my ex's got me a shirt that said nothing but "Hurley" on it.



Now, when we first started dating I told her one thing I absolutely despise, and that's t-shirts that say nothing on them except the brand. The type of shirts that have no cool design on them, just one bland color, and they just say the brand's name. It's like an advertisment that YOU are paying for. And for my birthday, what did she get me?! A FUCKING HURLEY SHIRT! I don't even like that brand, I hate all those gay skater brands.

But, when she gave it to me, do you know whta I did? I smiled, and said thanks, and gave her a hug and a kiss. I even wore it once or twice... until we broke up. It's now my cum rag.

Ps, it's actually not my cum rag, I just thought it would sound badass if I said it was.

quote:Originally posted by Chinese Food52:

Ps, it's actually not my cum rag, I just thought it would sound badass if I said it was.

Rofl.

quote:Originally posted by lauren7249:

It IS the thought that counts, and that's why it doesn't matter that the book is getting returned.

Quite true.

What does he want to get instead?

*dry humps Twisted_Ferret*

Anyhew, xiao.. That was pretty goddamn rude of him. It was a fucking gift, he had no fucking right to complain when you were doing your best to give him something that you didnt have to get him anyway!



Fuck him. What a nasty shit. Wanna come to the UK and live with me? We can freak the fukck out of people and pretend to be lesbian lovers.



Some people might argue that it's good to be honest and tell the truth about a gift. But a gift is a fucking gift, it's a gesture of love or affection, not something someone should complain about if you get them one and it's not to their liking!



My ex was like that alot. ALOT. I got him a Jo and Bokken for aikido, and he was upset because they were the wrong color. I got him a hoodie advertising his favorite band, and he didnt like the logo.

He's my ex for many reasons, and allthough those werent really important, they were still factors in it.



It fucks me off when people kick teh gift horse in the mouth.

I think you were in the wrong Xiao Mei, he most likely thought that you were both mature enough to deal with something as minor as not liking a gift one got for the other. Bringing it out into the open that he didn't like your gift was the best thing he could have done.

America: the Book? Hell, if he doesn't want it, I'LL take it, and I won't even need the birthday sex to go along with it.

quote:Originally posted by Euda:

Quite true.

What does he want to get instead?

Well we returned it earlier today and he just picked out a different book to replace it. Also he apologised for being insensitive and said that he really appreciated that I had gotten him the other book...It was just that he wanted a different one. The carrot cake turned out very tasty, so all has turned out well in the end.:P

Now I feel sick, though from eating too much cake!

Oh and yoyo! You should come to the US and be my au pere!

quote:Originally posted by Xiao Mei:

au pere!

Mon dieu!

Did I spell it wrong? Sorry if I did, my spelling kind of SUCKS!:P

quote:Originally posted by Xiao Mei:

It was just that he wanted a different one.

Glad the cake went well, what kind of icing?

But what book did he get?

It was cream cheese icing...Oh so good!

And he got a PHILOSOPHY book, but I can't remember what it's called. Something like, "Ghosts, the paranormal and philosophy."

quote:Originally posted by Twisted_Ferret:

Originally posted by Demoiselle:

Guys suck about receiving presents. The best thing to get them is a 6pack/26 of their choice, a pizza, a big fucking tv with hockey/football going, and then sex. That's a birthday present. A book? Not so much. Although good choice, Jon Stewart is the shit.

Fucking idiotic stereotypes. The sad thing is that most guys are illiterate apes, but the worst part is that that's what women seem to like!

I hate football. I hate beer. I hate TV. I hate hockey. I would hate sex too - disgusting and fleshy - but my hormones are too strong for that. Seriously, the things you named are the things I hate most out of everything in the entire universe (except the people who like them). I do, however, love books, and probably have more than the city's public library. I would be happy to get a book. Books pwn the fuck out of bitter brain-killing beverages, disgusting greasy pizza, grunting muscle-bound idiots, and the passive, mind-numbing "entertainment" of the TV.

I was going to say that XM's husband sounds like a total prick indeed, except he hates beer and football. Now I'm going to say that he sounds fucking awesome and she should appreciate him lots (unless he likes hockey and TV).



. /rant



Edit: and before anyone says anything about "nerd" or "nancy boy", yes I am. At least, I like computers and being alone and reading fantasy/sci-fi and writing discourses on philosophy. However, I'm also willing to bet that I'm physically bigger than most of the males on Totse... I've got the physique of a linebacker (much to my dismay; I look like a fucking jock), just not the mentality.



STFU no one cares. Just talk about the damn thread you faggot. Or go...Read A book!

But, yeah your husband is being a dick. You only take back gifts if it's offered. You don't suggest it. If the person doesn't give you the receipt or say you can return it its supposed to go in the closet!

That's what I'm saying!

I meant about how he should've pretended to like my gift, BTW.

[This message has been edited by Xiao Mei (edited 10-16-2006).]

quote:Originally posted by soro_one:

STFU no one cares. Just talk about the damn thread you faggot. Or go...Read A book!

But, yeah your husband is being a dick. You only take back gifts if it's offered. You don't suggest it. If the person doesn't give you the receipt or say you can return it its supposed to go in the closet!

That is an option. Unwanted gifts can always be regifted to someone else. It's rather like recycling, except they're new and unused.

Ever gone to a 'blue elephant' party? They're perfect for those.

quote:Originally posted by soro_one:

STFU no one cares. Just talk about the damn thread you faggot. Or go...Read A book!

On the contrary, that's the fifth time that post has been referenced!

Men don't need presents.

Just get naked and say "do whatever you want to me."

He'll be happy.

quote:Originally posted by deiki:

You should have bought him a TI89

Haha. TI > John Stewart

quote:Originally posted by Xiao Mei:

Well we returned it earlier today and he just picked out a different book to replace it. Also he apologised for being insensitive and said that he really appreciated that I had gotten him the other book...It was just that he wanted a different one. The carrot cake turned out very tasty, so all has turned out well in the end.:P

Now I feel sick, though from eating too much cake!

Oh and yoyo! You should come to the US and be my au pere!

Carrot cake you say! Well that changes everything!

Cream cheese frosting?

Isn't this the same guy who bought you some expensive jewelery not to long ago?

and u bought him a fuking book ?

Lady ,jebus christ. Like the man above me said. Alcohol and sex will do the trick.

peace,

Yes he bought me an expensive bracelet...It is so beautiful, but I can't wear it all of the time because it's so dressy/valuable. Sometimes I take it out and put it on during the day, though, just for a minute!:P

But how does that gift make the book I got him suck?? He LIKES books!

He is an arsehole. He shouldn't have blown up at you.

Unless he spent a few hundred and you spent $20

He got me the bracelet as a random gift and I got him the book for his birthday.

Anyway, he's not superficial enough to judge the cost.

..or is he?



I didnt realise how superficial men could be untill recently. My /ex/boyfriend isnt one of those guys who would appreciate the beer/pizza/sex present, either, so I allways took sooo much fuckin effort over what I bought for him.

To find that he didnt like any of it!



We were sorting our possesions out a few days ago, and I find a load of these beatifull crystals and rocks Ive bought him over the past few years. Now these were expensive, and considering how enthusiastic he acted when I got him the first one, I was stupid enough to beleive him when he said he loved it.

And so when I found them chucked into a forgotten box in a dark corner a few days ago and asked if he was going to take them with him, he shrugged and said he didnt know how he acquired them.

Your ex is a TOTAL slimeball, though and my husband is a prince amoung men!:P

How are things going with your breakup?

How can anyone enjoy any aspect of life if their happiness depends on the monetary value of gifts/posessions/experiences, etc? Sure it's great to like the finer things of life, but it you can't get any pleasure from something common and simple... well, what the fuck?

I dunno.. A 'prince among men' doesent really sound like a guy who'd turn down a gift from his lady.



If you ever want some subtle revenge for something your husband does, email me at

yoyobek@yahoo.co.uk

such methods would involve laxatives, and a magnet.

I'd be happy with anything, and it was mean of him to do that to you.

'Course.. I'd rather everyone forget my birthday entirely.

Actually Yoyobek and Xiao Mei in my opinion YoYoBek's ex boyfriend's behaviour was more normal and decent.

Yoyobek crystals are a shit gift and your ex liked them because you had given them to him and he loved you. They were transformed into symbols of your love and that made him happy.

Now he doesn't love you and he doesn't give a shot about them. He was probably trying to turn the knife a little.

Xiao Mei- Your husband's behaviour was so disgraceful that there may be something else on his mind.