So yeah, I got into my girlfriend's myspace and saw some messages between these two. Some background: all three of us used to be really good friends but he kind of drifted away. She always complained about how they never talked abd stuff. It bothered me too, but I never liked him that much anyway so I was down with it. Now she definitely used to like him, but she says she doesn't anymore. But a good example of what has kind of made me disbelieve this is when recently she spent upwards of 40 dollars on him for a birthday thing and spent a whole weekend sewing him some dragon or something. And for my brithday, she spent like 10 dollars on something she obviously didn't give any thought to. So anyway, the messages:

(Nate=other guy, and Laura=girlfriend)

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Nate,

If you read this and I haven't already called you,

call me please.

I need to talk to someone.

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Natez0rz,

I was all like, "omg, I should talk to Nate instead of complaining about never talking to him" which was somewhat of an epiphany except not really.

Okay, so now I'm going to start making sense.

Is our school thing due tomorrow? See, I kinda forgot the written copy at school and I've forgotten what the different paragraphs were supposed to be about. I'd really like to not have to do it but I have this feeling that it’s supposed to be done by tomorrow.

Also, I'm pretty amazing. But enough about me, are you staying after any day this week? Honestly, I totally need to get you this present because every time I see it I start to feel guilty. It's giving me sad faces because it wants to see you and be your best friend. Except I'm your best friend so I told it off and then threw it against the wall.

Anyway, you really need to get it, as you've been sixteen for a week and two days and let's face it, dear, you're not getting any younger.

So, I hope your weekend is going fabulously.

I might call you later, when I'm not swamped with work.

luv u (omg i cant bleve i just sed that lolz n00b 123!)

Lauraz0rz

(I know, I know. I'm so awesome.)

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OHNOES IT’S NATE!

I better run, he's got a lv. 30 shield and necromancy powers!!!1111!!!!

Anyway,

I wanted to tell you about your face.

Well...it's really, really...

not ugly. (Gasp!)

Sorry, I really didn't want to tell you, but someone had to say something. People were talking, I tried to defend you, but they weren't listening.

Just so you know, I'm writing this instead of doing Bradford. And that's bad. You're keeping me from my homework, what with your pretty face and all. (Look at me, dishing out complements. I obviously want to get on your good side...so I don't get fed to German shepards or get my pencils broken again.)

Ugh, so anyway. Tomorrow, can you spare 10 minutes or so? Maybe take a short break from the ALL-CONSUMING drama? It prolly won't even take that long.

But you might faint from amazement, and it might take awhile to revive you. (Also, I made you brownies but you might have to share with me. This will probably cause a fist fight between us, which then might take another 10 minutes or so, you know, to stop the bleeding.)

Okay, I think that's all.

<3+50 defense,

Laura (the destroyer)

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i am a pretty BAMF blood necro. lvl 20. hellz yeah.

sounds good.

10 min is all you get though.

I need to spread the Nate.

Like butter baby, like butter.

(yeah, that was dumb).

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So yeah, what do you guys think? I am kind of worried and confused about all this.

I love my male friends! And tell them all the time that i do!

But anyway, just ask her about it... and tell her you're a tad worried about him. Meeh.

But how would I bring up how I found out about it? Cause I don't really want to sound all creepy stalkerish for going onto her myspace, because that really wasn't my original intention.

quote:Originally posted by Bollocks:

But how would I bring up how I found out about it? Cause I don't really want to sound all creepy stalkerish for going onto her myspace, because that really wasn't my original intention.

Haha. Yeah .. I usually look through anyones myspace if i'm bored.

But. Hmm. It's not that creepy is it? You're her boyfriend.. She should find it weird at all. Unless she's weird, and still likes the other guy, if she gets all defensive about it, and thinks it weird you were looking at her myspace. I think you have an idea of what's going on then. Maybe.

I wasn't just looking thru her site, I was on her actual profile and reading her "private" messages. And earlier (about a month or two ago) I got a bunch of people's passwords from my school, his included. I read some messages of a similiar nature, and I guess I acted kind of weird the next day cause she figured out that I read the messages.

Ahhhh I see. Well that's a different issue. So just don't bring that up then. Just ask her about him then, without telling her you know somethings up or whatever.

Or just talk to the other guy.

it sounds overly flirtatious to me. at the same time, flirting is pretty harmless. are you worried that something will happen with her and this guy, or just jealous? you need to figure out your boundaries and communicate them somehow. in some relationships, it's ok to flirt. in others, it's forbidden. figure out where you stand and make it clear to hear without revealing the fact that you hacked her myspace. because that is a serious breach of trust and if you tell her you will lose all credibility.

Well, I would be down with it if she wasn't so anti-flirting on my end of the spectrum. Seems kind of like a double standard, but it seems females have lots of those.