Just curious, folks. How would you feel if your lover let you in on the fact that they used to fantasize about you before you each expressed any interest in the other?

What about sharing that you have masturbated while thinking of them, again, despite the lack of expressed interest in the time before you were in a relationship.

Consider that you knew the person before hooking up, but were not "friends" persay.



I'm more concerned about how a lady would receive this infomation, since I'm sure that myself and nearly all other men would find this confession absolutely hot as hell.

I dont think thats the sort of thing you tell a girl. As you said, guys would recieve it with open arms, but a girl might think thats wierd. I'd leave out the masturbation part, and even the whole fantasizing bit, but they might be flattered if you told them that you've always been attracted to them/seen them in that way/etc.

well before i stated dating my current boyfriend i had the really hots for him and then just shortly after christmas he can up to me and asked me for my email. man that moment in time i wanted to fall of the face of the earth caz i never thought that he would ever talk to me... but anyways back to your question we started talking on msn and he told me that kind of stuff all the time and man it drove me crazy. and just recalling the moment send's a tingling feeling all over.. so ya to me thats a good thing

my fiance used to finger herself while we were on the phone before we dated. i never knew this until recently.

I mainly ask because I was told by a girl I eventually decided not to date that she had masturbated to me, etc. and considering the circumstances I was actually more turned off because I'm frankly not into slutty girls (she had known me maybe a week). However, it would give me an instance erection to know that a girl I care about had thought of me sexually while I was oblivious to her.

Well yes, it depends on the circumstances. It's a risky move, that can go very far in both directions. I generally won't tell a girl, but I have on occasion, actually now that I think about it... if you're flirting, hot and heavy and constantly, bringing it up would add extra spice.

So there you go. If what you talk about is inherantly sexually dangerous, and the situation calls for it, go for it. But if you just chat about ordinary stuff, it's probably a very bad idea.

It's nice that there is that kind of trust level.

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It's nice that there is that kind of trust level.

Elaborate. I can't tell if you're being sarcastic or not. And please kill flood control. Thankyou. Oh, and make my cookies work too. Cheers.

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Elaborate. I can't tell if you're being sarcastic or not. And please kill flood control. Thankyou. Oh, and make my cookies work too. Cheers.

You're very demanding. I only recently slayed flood control for fullcircle. This was quite the feat. Give me some time to rest.

Your cookies would work better if they had peanut butter in them.

I wasn't being sarcastic. Hearing something like this is reflective of trust. A girl talking about masturbating while thinking about you is sweet because it shows that she trusts you, and trusts that you can handle hearing this sort of thing, with this information.

^ Oh, I generally don't care who slays fc for me, as long as it's done. Of course, I will give them e-kudos, possibly cookies, maybe buttsecks, but I only demand it when I need it, and only out loud to whomever I'm talking to at the time.

I will grant you your rest, good sir. I must say that no doubt you need it.

Penut butter, you say? Electical conductor? Perhaps if I gold-plate. Of course, this will end up in inedible cookies, well maybe not, but certainly they might keep my frickin password in the box.

I suppose you're right. Private moments are about trust. But he's not talking about having already said this, he's just debating it. So perhaps the issue isn't so much 'aww that's cute you trust each other', but more, 'uhh do you trust each other, cutie?'.

Well, he probably is a cutie. In his own little way. 4'2" with a slight lisp. Maybe walks with a cane. Definately sings showtunes while jumping up to click his feet.

Yes, you got it! I'm thinking of a Leprachaun. And I bet I spelt that wrong.

Kiss me I'm Irish. Yaargh.

it would be a bit odd if a girlfriend told me that. i doubt it would haunt me or cause me to break up with the girl. but, as i said, it would be odd.

^ Sexually naive. Cutie.

CURSE THIS CONTROL OF THE TIDES!!!

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I'd say stick with just telling her you thought she was attractive before you got together. Saying you masturbated to her before you even knew each other is a little on the creepy side, or so most girls would take it. I suppose it also depends on how long you've been together though.

It's flattering. My boyfriend told me that he thought about me a few times while masturbating before we started dating. I understand that most guys masturbate to girls they know, and I'm just flattered that I fall into the category that is worth fapping over. But we've been together for almost 8 months, we are very open about sexual stuff.

Yeah, I used to joke about masturbating to my girlfriend and she'd be like "perv!". So I felt bad and stopped bringing it up. Turns out she was also joking and she takes it as a compliment. I'm sure she prefers it being her than some other girl.

So now she'll be like "fine, you're not getting any!" and I'll just say "What ever, I'm going to go jack off to thoughts of you in compromising positions. Ciao".

Euda is right. It's a trust thing. And once you can comfortably talk about it, it rocks!