OK so for the past couple weeks my now ex girlfriend hasnt been intrested in me as much, like her feelings arnt as strong as they used to be and after sex she said itw asnt the same as before there wasnt the great feeling during the after sex cuddling. So we have been talking about breaking up and we decided that we should break up. We both still really like each other but we dont see anyway to fix her liking me less. So our plan was to basically seperate and maybe she would start missing me and like they say "absence makes the heart grow fonder" so yea we figure she might just end up wanting me back. Or she will date some guy and end up realizing how much better I am, because ive fucked up a lot nothing major yea ive been a great boyfriend but yea im a lot better then most guys out there. Or she finally finds the guy she deserves because she is perfect and only deserves the best, and shes happy which makes me happy for her. But neither of us REALLY wanted to break up we saw it as a possibly nessicary thing. Last night I spent the night at her house and we slept well mostly just talked and thought about us and agreed it would be our last night as a couple until hopefully shewants me back.

Im just curious if you guys think that we should have done this or if we should have just stayed together and hoped thigns would change for some weird reason?

Didn't read it too long,

so I guess you fucked up

quote:Originally posted by tenguy:

Didn't read it too long,

so I guess you fucked up

Your fine.

Thought she was in North Dakota?

She was but that was vacation for only a couple weeks. Yea I figured im fine but i wanta see what the good ole boys and gals of S&A think. Im sure we made the right decision and we plan on talking and staying friends, and im sure she will want me back we just need some time apart.

i dont give a fuck about rednecks.

Did you do the right thing?

Maybe. Probably not. You apparently think she is the best thing ever and you don't deserve her, and this seems like self-fulfilling prophecy. She's probably board of you being down on yourself and is looking for more excitment.

Now, if you could change your attitude and get her back, great. If not, then yeah, you did the right thing. It might help your development if you lose her for being so insecure, start missing her, and then kick yourself for being such a dumbass and realize that you have self-worth.

No im not down on myself. I never mention that fact really at all. I mean im a very confident guy, i dont think im such a peice of shit. The thing is shes NEVER made me upset once in our realationship of 8months, there have been plenty of times that i have made her upset. Hence why she deserves THE BEST because she has never fucked up shes always been perfect. I Mean i realize that im a great boyfriend but i coudl be better, hence why im sure we will get back together.

But im sure we will and all. Thanks for the imput more would be nice because im just trying to see if most would agree we did right thing.

quote:Originally posted by AprenticeChemistBITCHS:

No im not down on myself. I never mention that fact really at all. I mean im a very confident guy, i dont think im such a peice of shit. The thing is shes NEVER made me upset once in our realationship of 8months, there have been plenty of times that i have made her upset. Hence why she deserves THE BEST because she has never fucked up shes always been perfect. I Mean i realize that im a great boyfriend but i coudl be better, hence why im sure we will get back together.

But im sure we will and all. Thanks for the imput more would be nice because im just trying to see if most would agree we did right thing.

So, you think she deserves the best and your not it? Can you understand why I interpolated that you have a self-esteem issue? I may not have been right, but it sure sounds that way man. Anyways, you still think highly of her? Are you taking the blame for the things that made her upset, or were they not really your fault? Do you still want to be with her?

The way I see it, you should go with your gut on this one. If your not in the mental loop of being the guy that doesn't deserve this princess, and all that emo self-depricating garbage, then go with how you feel. I don't have all the data points that you do on this one guy, and I'm sure you understand it alot better, so call it as you see it.

Sorry to be the bearer of bad news, but by the time you get to the point where the two of you feel the need to seperate, you can bet that the seperation will show the both of you that you really dont feel 'in love' with that person anymore.

Sometimes when you take a step back you realize that what seemed like the garden of eden while you were there, isn't all that you thought it would be.

Ok some of the stuff seems like I have lower self esteem but really I dont. I dont put her up on a higher level or as some princess. But you have to admit, when a girl has NEVER made you upset, yet youve made her upset plenty of times she might just DESERVE a little better. I know i pretty much deserve her sort of because at least i tried and am getting better at fucking up less, and the emo bullshit is definatly not. Its not like I go aroudn saying OH you deserve better wooo is me im such a peice of crap or a bad boyfriend.

As for the fuck ups and her being upset they were my fault so I took the blame like a MAN does I took responsibility. Its not like anytime she gets upset I say its my fault unless it really is my fault and something I did bad. Im to tired to think of examples of my fuck ups as ive gotten 2 hours of sleep in past two days but yea.

So it seems we did do the right thing and yea fuck who ever was a dick and didnt read i and just felt like saying i fucked up fuck you guys. IM drunk and odnt care and yea things are good with her and its all nice and special and hopefuly we will get back together in a couple weeks or so.

Honestly, the ONLY way that you are going see if you fucked up or not, is just let time tell.

I hope it works out for you AC.

Go and get some other girls while you got the chance.

Getting a taste of the outside world lets you enjoy being indoors a little more next time your there.

Either you are fine or she is playing you.

quote:Originally posted by AprenticeChemistBITCHS:

OK so for the past couple weeks my now ex girlfriend hasnt been intrested in me as much, like her feelings arnt as strong as they used to be and after sex she said itw asnt the same as before there wasnt the great feeling during the after sex cuddling. So we have been talking about breaking up and we decided that we should break up. We both still really like each other but we dont see anyway to fix her liking me less. So our plan was to basically seperate and maybe she would start missing me and like they say "absence makes the heart grow fonder" so yea we figure she might just end up wanting me back. Or she will date some guy and end up realizing how much better I am, because ive fucked up a lot nothing major yea ive been a great boyfriend but yea im a lot better then most guys out there. Or she finally finds the guy she deserves because she is perfect and only deserves the best, and shes happy which makes me happy for her. But neither of us REALLY wanted to break up we saw it as a possibly nessicary thing. Last night I spent the night at her house and we slept well mostly just talked and thought about us and agreed it would be our last night as a couple until hopefully shewants me back.

Im just curious if you guys think that we should have done this or if we should have just stayed together and hoped thigns would change for some weird reason?

Listen, my post is gonna make you mad, because I find what you did stupid.

You look at it differently. Don't you see that? Maybe she doesn't want you how you are? What's makes you think your so much of a great boyfriend? Maybe you are perfrect for many girls, sweet, caring, gentle. But what makes you think you are a good boyfriend. I'm not a good boyfriend because that is too general. I will not be the "perfect"(notice qutoes)boyfriend for your girl, where I might be for mine. Or vise versa. Do you understand that?

Second; her feelings are getting distant, did you considire her no feeling you loving her as much anymore? I remember when there was lack of sex with my gf (very recently). So then I found out why, she said there wasn't as much spark anymore. So you know what I did? I fucked the brains out of her. I made it shit for me. I barely enjoyed it, but I wanted to show her that there wasn't a lack of love, but a lack of energy. We'd usually have sex at the end of the day, where I don't wanna experiment and do doggy or whatever, i just want to do missionary, make her cum, cum and go to sleep for fuck sakes, because I usually work all day. School, then job.

So what you should have done is tried to prove her wrong, saying that the love is still plenty there. But instead you just gave in and agreed. Now she might be thinking "hey, wtf. I was looking for a fight for my love, an argument, but instead he just threw me away. Maybe he DOESN'T love as much as he says".

Conclusion;

You could have gone better about this. In my opinion; you fucked up.

And just one last question. What is your age?

I think you did the right thing... but don't go waitin for her to come back to you, cause your chances are slim, SPECIALLY if you wait for her, cause females like strong men, not someone who waits for his boss to return like a dog waggin it's tail

But i could be wrong

Well shits workign a lot better for us. We are just going to let things start flowing back to were they were so we sort of are going out but sort of not. And I know shes not playing me i KNOW shes not that kinda girl. Also its only a matter of time before we are back together again for good and all. So basically we made the right choice and its nice. Its nice because now we have that anticipation feeling nervousness about whos going to kiss who, or are we going to kiss, or all that good stuff you get before you are actually dating.

the same thing happened to me it turns out that the girl just doesn't like u and she will say that she always will but its bullshit she will slowly forget u because thats what she wants i dont know wy though