I will try and keep things as short as pos. Before i moved to NZ (about 3 months ago) My best mate ran off with my girl.

I have forgiven him as she is so manipulative.

We had an incident when we were together it went like this: She told me her mum was kicking her out came to my house crying and screaming she needed a place to stay but i rang her mum and sorted it out. Now She has done the exact and i mean exact thing to my friend . She just wants someone to keep her like a child

I typed up an email to my friend (below)Wondered if it was right. dont want to see her drag him down .

Incidentally my ex is twenty and has worked two weeks since she left school (at the age of 16 were in the UK)

Here is the email in its entirety :

The truth sucks and dont i know it ,

I can tell you these things as i have been faced with this situation before (identical infact lol), But look she is probably reading this but it is you who i want to reach .

You have to be strong(you know you can be) and dont let it screw you up believe the truth and dont be "bought"(i hope you get what i mean by bought ahem yes "that") with anything . You are working hard for her and i respect that . But she is older and able to get good wage but too soft to get of her ass. Be a man about this . chose what you have to do if you love her then you love her and things will work out .

You wont believe me when i tell you these things (which is totally understandable , i probably wouldnt if i were in your shoes) but she has done this to me and i drunk myself to tears with the pressure of her trying to live off me and get me to "keep" her . She is no exeption to any other women in this world and i know we tend to loose sight of that when we are in a relationship with them .But remember this because it is something i regretted neglecting.

Your parents are so much pressure and in a way you can see thier standpoint. Your parents see some woman come into your life spend months at your house then go home for a few weeks then come back and say she is being evicted. Its typical behaviour of a scrounger (I am NOT saying that she is so please dont take offence) . You cant keep her man she needs a job fuck man she needs a life . All she has is you and thats not normal is it she doesnt have friends(it isnt normal) to talk to so it just kicks around in her head and explodes out at you.If your parents were anything like mine they are right . She NEEDS a job she needs it , she is twenty years old and has wokred two weeks of her life !!! , me and you have worked since we were sixteen ! . I dont want to have to pick the pieces out of the crater of domo when i get back so do the "Right" thing whatever you choose it to be.

I will stick with yer through anything you decide but you are a good guy and i hate to see you manipulated and we know thats going on right now , you wouldnt choose this . She pressured you into it and i know how you feel . So alone like there is only the two of you in the world and if you can make this stop by giving in to her CONSTANT pressure and it is constant count how many times she will bring it up during the day . She is a manipulator , there is a good soul in there somewhere but she is so immature and childish (view of the world) .

i have Forgiven you and hold no hate at all anymore it is the truth but now i feel your pain and stress and i still care about you man . We were like brothers for years and i will not let you sink to the levels i did , If i have to fly over there to help sort your head out i will ! , i can afford the plane ticket in about two weeks wages . I am coming back in june and we are going to party fucking hard a salute to better times ,



My friend one of my closest friends i am not going to let you fucking sink , I wont let it happen .

Through thick and thin we can never change the stregnth of our friendship .

Dont let her fuck your head up mate !!

take care of yourself dom



Do you think it was right? ...

I am begining to think if i added "she took it in the arse" i would get more replies lol

I don't really think there's much to add to this thread. If you got everything in that you felt then, sure, it was right. I would listen to you and consider it.

cheers man