I have two problems, and they are rather important to me.

My first problem, and the most important to me, is that I have been unable to get my partner to orgasm. We'll have been together for a year come the 26th, but I still haven't managed it. Neither has she. I've tried everything; and yes, I've read a lot of guides. I've eaten her out for over an hour, stimulating the clitoris as best I can, and still nothing. She says she gets really close but can't quite bridge the gap. I bought her a vibrating dildo, and even that couldn't manage it (she tried it many times at home by herself).

I'm just so frustrated by this. I feel guilty, because I orgasm so often and she never gets a chance. I've done everything I know how to do; and I haven't achieved much of anything.

She is definately into biting and is somewhat into submission (not much at all, really, she just likes being held down at times, or subdued).

Any ideas?

My second problem is that I would like her to give me a blowjob, but I can't get her to do it. She says it's entirely taste related. Anything I can do about the taste of my penis? I don't have much money.

She doesn't like honey. She likes whipped cream, but it goes away too fast. Flavoured condoms might work, if she doesn't mind the taste of latex, but it's just not the same, you know?

As long as I can remember, blowjobs have been a big part of my sexuality. They were in most of my fantasies. I feel like actually recieving a blowjob would fulfill a part of my sexuality that I've never filled before.

Thank you.

cover your penis in chocolate?

Chocolate makes her sick. It's too rich for her.

Also, I find that while some of the time I can achieve and maintain a hard erection, other times I cannot. I'll get an erection, but it won't be strong enough for proper intercourse. I don't know what might be causing this, but I have noticed that it is somewhat rarer when I masturbate, and more common when I am with my partner.

[This message has been edited by Druidus (edited 10-10-2006).]

Dude, you fail at sex.

Literally, I've never seen a person that sucked at sex as much.

To you first problem. Watch pron together. All kinds of porn. See which one turns her on the most, and then try acting out a similar situation. Furthermore, when she says she's close to orgasm, do whatever you're doing, just better, harder, and faster. Keep going for hours if you have to.

For the blowjob problem, tell her to stop being suck a pussy. Do it in the shower if you have to. Take a shower or bath together, and while you're still smelling lemony or whatever your body wash smells like, get her to suck you off.

OR just be a pussy and use this: http://www.sextoyparty.com/ks8182.html

Lastly, it happens because you aren't turned on enough by your girlfriend. Consider turning her in for a better model.

quote:Dude, you fail at sex.

Literally, I've never seen a person that sucked at sex as much.

Interesting, considering I've given countless orgasms to others. I like giving orgasms through oral sex; and I've done it often.

And she can't make herself orgasm either. How does that mean I suck at sex?

quote:To you first problem. Watch pron together. All kinds of porn. See which one turns her on the most, and then try acting out a similar situation. Furthermore, when she says she's close to orgasm, do whatever you're doing, just better, harder, and faster. Keep going for hours if you have to.

Do you think that I'm a complete imbecile? I know what to do, normally, but none of it is working. As for porn, trust me, we manage.

quote:For the blowjob problem, tell her to stop being suck a pussy. Do it in the shower if you have to. Take a shower or bath together, and while you're still smelling lemony or whatever your body wash smells like, get her to suck you off.

It doesn't always work that way, dude. Sometimes there are other reasons that the female can't or won't explain.

quote:Lastly, it happens because you aren't turned on enough by your girlfriend. Consider turning her in for a better model.

She's plenty attractive, and she can turn me on easily, but there are times when I just can't get it up. It has to be either a physical or psychological problem of my own.

[This message has been edited by Druidus (edited 10-10-2006).]

quote:Originally posted by Druidus:

She is definately into biting and is somewhat into submission (not much at all, really, she just likes being held down at times, or subdued).

Any ideas?



Tried roleplaying?

An ex of mine had a similar problem until one of her boyfriends introduced her to D&S (dominance and submission) roleplaying.

Check out the forums on www.bondage.com (http://www.bondage.com) for advice, you can log in as a guest without registering.

As for the taste issue:

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quote:Originally posted by Rykoshet:

Dude, you fail at sex.



It's not as simple as that.

quote:Originally posted by fullcircle:



It's not as simple as that.

It would be if you noticed the sarcastic undertone and bothered to read my ENTIRE post.

quote:Originally posted by Rykoshet:

It would be if you noticed the sarcastic undertone and bothered to read my ENTIRE post.

Dude, you fail at irony.

Thank you, Fullcircle.

The problem with blowjobs is that she doesn't like the taste of my penis itself, not the taste of semen. I've tried cleaning it extensively, but it doesn't work. I think maybe there are other problems there.

How would I bring up the subjects of roleplaying and dom/sub? Because, honestly, they would turn me on heavily too.

quote:Originally posted by Druidus:

The problem with blowjobs is that she doesn't like the taste of my penis itself, not the taste of semen. I've tried cleaning it extensively, but it doesn't work. I think maybe there are other problems there.

Hmm. There are flavored lubes you can buy, but I don't know how nice they'd taste, or how long they'd last.

Random idea - what if you used a flavored chapstick? Or however you spell those things, the lip gloss sticks girls use. They'd be sure to last a while anyway.

One potential problem with the chapsticks though - it might react badly with latex condoms, if you wanted to have sex afterwards. Hmm... if so, Durex make these GREAT condoms called Avanti which are made with some other substance than latex.

quote:How would I bring up the subjects of roleplaying and dom/sub? Because, honestly, they would turn me on heavily too.

Don't tell her you want to get into roleplaying, or she might not respond well to it.

Better to do things bit by bit.

So to start with, next time you're having sex, get into the doggy style position when things are getting really hot.

Hold her firm by the hips and build up a strong tempo, and when you can tell she's really getting off, in a slightly deeper voice than normal say "Who's your master?" Don't use a tone like you're asking a question, more like you're asking something you know the answer to already.

That's the best way to get started, that I can think of.

Seriously check out the forums on www.bondage.com (http://www.bondage.com)

Start things off slowly, like ask her the "who's your master" question a few times. Then start telling her to call you "sir" when she says it, tell her WHILE you're fucking. Then start mentioning things playfully like you'll spank her, when she does something bad. That sorta thing. Bit by bit. Just don't openly state that you're trying to get her into roleplaying, or she might not react well because of prejudices or whatever.



[This message has been edited by fullcircle (edited 10-11-2006).]

I feel your pain, my girlfriend has also never cum, and i cant get her to.

We have a vibrating dildo, and as much fun as it is for both of us, she cant stand it for all that long, and it has never made her cum.

She's come a long way from where she was when we started going out, she couldn't really feel pleasure. I know that she's told me that she's starting to feel like its possible to orgasm, so i know what you mean about bridging the gap.

In my opinion its an ongoing evolution, you just have to keep at it and keep trying.

Dont feel bad that you cum, i cum all the time too and have told her i feel bad but she says that it makes her happy, and i'm sure it makes your girlfriend happy too.

Oh and about the blowjob thing, if its not a sperm problem then unless your dirty, which i'm sure you aren't, then i think it must be psycological for her.

Try getting her to chew her favourite gum, so that she tastes that instead of your penis, that is my only practical advice, otherwise, just keep trying with her, dont pressure her and treat her with love, maybe she'll come around.

Good luck