so last night, i was cuddling in bed with this girl as usual when things heat up and we begin making out. well after a while, i've got her pants down and my finger inside her. after a while of this, i decide to go for her bra and start playing with her nipples.

she eventually flips me over onto my back and puts her hand down my pants every once and a while.

after a little bit of this, she starts dry humping me furiously. she was literally grinding her crotch into mine, breathing heavily in my ear. i couldn't take it at this point, i tried to get her panties off and every attempt was blocked by her hand.

after an hour or so, the session was done and we resumed the cuddle position. but this time she did something different, when we started to spoon again, she made a blatant move to push her ass against my crotch with enough pressure to make me brace myself from falling over onto my back.

do some girls just take pride in blueballing dudes?

Virgin.

quote:Originally posted by Fanglekai:

Virgin.

she dated some dude for 2 years, they broke up like a month ago. i'm pretty sure they fucked.

Then she just doesn't want to have sex with you, or doesn't want to have sex with you yet. Next time you're physical try again. That, or just wait a while. She may come around; she may not. I don't have the information necessary to tell you what'll happen.

quote:Originally posted by Fanglekai:

Then she just doesn't want to have sex with you, or doesn't want to have sex with you yet. Next time you're physical try again. That, or just wait a while. She may come around; she may not. I don't have the information necessary to tell you what'll happen.

meh. logic says that if youj're going to get it up, you gotta get finish the job. why don't women understand about this?

Maybe she thought you got off on the dry humping. I know me and my girlfriend dry humped a few times and each reached climax before we actually had sex. The orgasm was pretty good to. Except most the time we were naked when we did it because the pants rubbing my dick sometimes made it raw so we usually dry humped naked as she wasnt quite ready for sex.

quote:Originally posted by AprenticeChemistBITCHS:

Maybe she thought you got off on the dry humping. I know me and my girlfriend dry humped a few times and each reached climax before we actually had sex. The orgasm was pretty good to. Except most the time we were naked when we did it because the pants rubbing my dick sometimes made it raw so we usually dry humped naked as she wasnt quite ready for sex.



it definitly felt really good, especially hearing her get off to it, but it's not nearly as good as the real deal.

No i meant did you orgasm though? Because if you orgamsed then she didnt blue ball you. Blue balling is where you get all excited but NO sexual realese not when a girl does stuff that might lead to sex and gives you an orgasm but no sex.

Shit, at least you got her clothes off.

Mine said "We need to slow down.." when I squeezed her ass during a makeout session and then a few weeks later said "I think we should just be friends."

Needless to say, I went apeshit.

quote:Originally posted by Soda_Can_Sniper:

Shit, at least you got her clothes off.

Mine said "We need to slow down.." when I squeezed her ass during a makeout session and then a few weeks later said "I think we should just be friends."

Needless to say, I went apeshit.

Sorry, but you're ugly.

OP, I think you just need to take it slower. Realize that not every girl wants to fuck you the first time you get really physical. You don't sound all that old, so that's most likely the case. Now, if you're getting with a girl who is 19+ (or whatever, out of high school and in college basically) then chances are better that you'll get sex a lot earlier on than if she were 16 or 17. Just be patient.

quote:Originally posted by 556:

she dated some dude for 2 years, they broke up like a month ago. i'm pretty sure they fucked.

From this I'd say she's using you. She misses the affection. You give it to her. But she doesn't want to sleep with you.

That, or she has boundaries, and knows how to enforce them. That makes her a cool chick, a very VERY cool chick.

Just stay persistant, and let HER take it to the next level.

The next logical step is oral. Oral comes before sex (usually). So try and give her oral, or her you.

I don't know. Myabe ask her?

Foreplay begins the moment you wake up and doesn't end until you fall asleep...and even then, you can do some things like hold her in your arms.

Confidence, assertiveness, and empathy...those are the three real aphrodisiacs. Are you sure of your self and your life? Do you do what you want in your life? Do you relate yourself to her and others?

If you possess these traits, finding a girl with whom you have a viable relationship option and the VERY strong possibility of sex is not difficult. Problem is, most people are insecure, avoidant, and selfish...while thinking they're confident, assertive, and empathetic when they're really just acting cocky and sappy. You can fool yourself a lot longer than somebody else.

I didn't really read your whole post, so... the truth as to why she won't let you fuck her(?) is because you're ugly. If you weren't, you would probably have fucked her by now. Every girl I've been with has let me fuck them on the first date, some even before we're together.

And this one time, this dumb blonde told me she wasn't going to fuck on the first date. I ended up fucking her extra hard just for saying that shit to me.

Wow, I totally believe this.^^^

And to the OP, there are a lot of reasons she might've been reluctant to have sex. Maybe she doesn't want to think of herself as "Easy" or maybe she's worried about getting pregnant. All you can do is ask her about it...Although putting pressure on her to "put out" is probably a sure way to make her NEVER want to take it to that next step.

quote:Originally posted by arquin:

From this I'd say she's using you. She misses the affection. You give it to her. But she doesn't want to sleep with you.

That, or she has boundaries, and knows how to enforce them. That makes her a cool chick, a very VERY cool chick.

Just stay persistant, and let HER take it to the next level.

The next logical step is oral. Oral comes before sex (usually). So try and give her oral, or her you.

Damn,of all people I thought i'd never hear something of the like from you.I actually like you as a poster now.

I wouldn't know exactly why she wouldn't take it further either,but what I can tell you is that you have to talk to her about it.It may be because of exactly as he said,she has her boundaries & won't cross them until a certain point in time into the relationship.When you both feel it's right is when you'll be getting a piece of ass,to put it in those terms.

I wouldn't gamble on the oral thing though,unless you know she's up for that.I know I wouldn't be,just for the sake of that you pee from there too >-< .

quote:Originally posted by AprenticeChemistBITCHS:

Well see thats where you are fucking up. I didnt GET her cloths off. With my girlfriend i never TRIED to get sex from her, I mean id joke about it bring it up but never rushed it, as far as head and nakedness and that stuff I let it go with the flow I mean i waited till she was ready and joekda bout it a little and brought it up a tiny bit but not liek "Yo can i get some dome tongith im so horny please if you like me youlls uck it". I just went at her pace and really didnt care whenI got it because I cared about her and was willing to wait. The nakedness just came, actually I think i used the it will get us warmer technique ahah which really does make you warmer.

But as for the assgrabbing thing if she was grinding her pussy against your dick and then wouldnt let you grab her ass id find a new girl that would be to fucked for me. I mean grinding yet no ass grabs? But still havent answered the question did you or did you not orgasm from the grinding?

I didn't push sex on her. In fact, the day that makeout session happened, we went out and I wasn't expecting her stay for a while; she had things to do.

We'd known each other for a few months before hooking up, so we were very comfortable together. Hell, if she's comfortable enough to tell me she's had a hood piercing and to be grinding against my cock, she should be comfortable with me squeezing her ass.

And I think the orgasm thing was for the OP, not me.

quote:Originally posted by Soda_Can_Sniper:

I didn't push sex on her. In fact, the day that makeout session happened, we went out and I wasn't expecting her stay for a while; she had things to do.

We'd known each other for a few months before hooking up, so we were very comfortable together. Hell, if she's comfortable enough to tell me she's had a hood piercing and to be grinding against my cock, she should be comfortable with me squeezing her ass.

And I think the orgasm thing was for the OP, not me.

Nevermind i was tired and mixed up the user names and mistook you for the OP. So your post with his other posts would make it seem like that. Sorry haha yea then your post is ok and sorry for being a dick.