Totse, I need your advice!

We all know that fucking is good a times and making love is good at times. As a guy, most would just expect me to spring for fucking. But, for me, that isn't the case.

Totse, I prefer making love oh, so much more. There's something so sensual about it. Something so much more passionate and erotic.

I can think of nothing more arousing than an evening out with my girl, treating her like a goddess taking her places she enjoys, then finally, coming back to my place, falling on the bed and making sweet, tender love.

I've been told that my preference is merely my feminine side coming out. Also, I've been told that this means I have repressed homosexual desires. I'm not gay, and I've never had gay thoughts, so I don't see where this is coming from.

So, I ask you, Totse : Is my preference for making love over fucking normal? Am I just some kind of fruit? Or is this a trait I should hold onto?

I know my post is long and slightly pointless, but I really need your help! Lend me a hand.

You are most definitely a homosexual. Sorry.

quote:Originally posted by gadzooks:

You are most definitely a homosexual. Sorry.

QFT

[This message has been edited by Superunknown (edited 10-07-2006).]

Neah, you'r not a homosexual dude, you'r just romantic like that, and yes its a trait to hold onto to, most women look for something like that in a guy. I love to make little surprises to my girl and make her feel loved, altho i aint all like that into it...hehe

for the longest time, i've been looking for a guy who has this kinda thought process.

you can't find guys like this anymore, or, well...i couldn't find them to start with so i've always stuck with those that somewhat try to be like this, but miserably failed...

but main point is:

i think guys like you are highly valued over shallow douchebags who thinks sex is a sport.

and no, don't question your sexuality because down the road, some lucky girl is going to really appreciate you for the way you are.

you should def. hold on to this trait, no matter what other people say.

quote:Originally posted by lightsxandxsirens:

sex is a sport

Man, I am like this as well. No matter how much appeal lies in enganging in "hard fucking", I always, always prefer making love. To me, my fiancée is the most beautiful and amazing person on the planet, and it's all I can do to give her everything I have.

Also, she loves that I'm like this. Listen to the female above: she's looking for a guy just like you. Hold onto it FTW. Also, any of these fellows who make you out to be homosexual probably have closet fears themselves, as well as an intense inferiority complexes due to their inability to make sense of sensitive and civilized feelings. Remember, man fears most what he fears he will become.

quote:Originally posted by Opus:

Also, any of these fellows who make you out to be homosexual probably have closet fears themselves, as well as an intense inferiority complexes due to their inability to make sense of sensitive and civilized feelings. Remember, man fears most what he fears he will become.

O RLY?! (http://sc.tri-bit.com/images/f/f5/adu.sized.jpg)

quote:Originally posted by Midge:

I can think of nothing more arousing than an evening out with my girl, treating her like a goddess taking her places she enjoys, then finally, coming back to my place, falling on the bed and making sweet, tender love.

To me, this is the only way; there is no other, and there never will be.

quote:Originally posted by MomentaryLapseOfReason:

My girlfriend reads totse. Between you and me, sex is like a sport.

Your secret is safe.



[This message has been edited by fullcircle (edited 10-07-2006).]

quote:Originally posted by fullcircle:

Your secret is safe.

Theres nothing wrong with making love and having a feminine side, but this thread just reeks of being a pussy. Seriously, you take it too far.

I've never made love. the only girl I've slept with always wanted to go at it like we were in a cheap porno. She could never just take it slow.

quote:Originally posted by Midge:

Totse, I need your advice!

We all know that fucking is good a times and making love is good at times. As a guy, most would just expect me to spring for fucking. But, for me, that isn't the case.

Totse, I prefer making love oh, so much more. There's something so sensual about it. Something so much more passionate and erotic.

I can think of nothing more arousing than an evening out with my girl, treating her like a goddess taking her places she enjoys, then finally, coming back to my place, falling on the bed and making sweet, tender love.

I've been told that my preference is merely my feminine side coming out. Also, I've been told that this means I have repressed homosexual desires. I'm not gay, and I've never had gay thoughts, so I don't see where this is coming from.

So, I ask you, Totse : Is my preference for making love over fucking normal? Am I just some kind of fruit? Or is this a trait I should hold onto?

I know my post is long and slightly pointless, but I really need your help! Lend me a hand.

Congratulations on getting over the lie.

You're not gay, you're not feminine...you're just not hiding what you want from yourself anymore. And don't 'try' to hold on to it...it's a part of you, it's at the very core of your being. You don't need to try and do anything with it other than accept that you've got a heart for a reason.

quote:Originally posted by SilentMind:

Theres nothing wrong with making love and having a feminine side, but this thread just reeks of being a pussy. Seriously, you take it too far.

You mistake passion and caring for being a bitch. A bitch is a walk-over...this man is a seducer and a lover, and in the end, he gives what he wants to give and gets what he wants to get...you could learn something from him if you're weren't trapped in the lie that 'you MUST be man'...take into consideration that none have accurately described the essence of man, woman, or the supposed differences between them.

But Hexidecimal, I thought only musclehead Marines that drink 12packs of beer every commercial break while watching footbal could have valid opinions on sex?

However, I must admit that I somewhat agree with SilentMind. Although I sure as hell am not going to judge you for being that much of a romantic, and you most certaintly aren't gay, let me just say that I personally wouldn't take things that far.

quote:Originally posted by rabbitweed:

I've never made love. the only girl I've slept with always wanted to go at it like we were in a cheap porno. She could never just take it slow.

Haha, that's pretty cool and funny. Was she a nympho?

as much as i love fucking a chicks brains out, i would take making love to a girl that means the world to me over that any day.

quote:Originally posted by Ripsaw3689:

as much as i love fucking a chicks brains out, i would take making love to a girl that means the world to me over that any day.

Exactly how I feel about it.

quote:Originally posted by Hexadecimal:

Exactly how I feel about it.

Me too, although fucking a chick's brains out that means the world to me is still pretty cool for a change of pace

quote:Originally posted by Byss:

Me too, although fucking a chick's brains out that means the world to me is still pretty cool for a change of pace

Yeah...but it's the love that makes even missionary good.

My husband and I make love whenever we can, but usually we are in a hurry.

quote:Originally posted by Midge:

Totse, I need your advice!

We all know that fucking is good a times and making love is good at times. As a guy, most would just expect me to spring for fucking. But, for me, that isn't the case.

Totse, I prefer making love oh, so much more. There's something so sensual about it. Something so much more passionate and erotic.

I can think of nothing more arousing than an evening out with my girl, treating her like a goddess taking her places she enjoys, then finally, coming back to my place, falling on the bed and making sweet, tender love.

I've been told that my preference is merely my feminine side coming out. Also, I've been told that this means I have repressed homosexual desires. I'm not gay, and I've never had gay thoughts, so I don't see where this is coming from.

So, I ask you, Totse : Is my preference for making love over fucking normal? Am I just some kind of fruit? Or is this a trait I should hold onto?

I know my post is long and slightly pointless, but I really need your help! Lend me a hand.

Your a pussy. There is "making love" between two adults, but thts not what this is. This is you getting off by being treated like an inferior.

quote:Originally posted by Hexadecimal:

You mistake passion and caring for being a bitch. A bitch is a walk-over...this man is a seducer and a lover, and in the end, he gives what he wants to give and gets what he wants to get...you could learn something from him if you're weren't trapped in the lie that 'you MUST be man'...take into consideration that none have accurately described the essence of man, woman, or the supposed differences between them.

Mmm...no. I'm fairly feminine as it is, and I actually agree with the OP's original point. I just believe in a healthy medium. The way he talks about it reminds me vaguely of the scene from bedazzled where she granted him sensitivity, and they're sitting on the beach.