Say your boyfriend is a good guy, he plays the whole bf role properly, but sometimes he just wants sex. Not often, but when he does (ie. huge sexual urges, but no desire for emotional fulfillment) would you comply and not be offended?

My gf uses me for sex... I'm ok with it.

But seriously. I just asker her out. She's really pretty and everyone else thinks she's gorgeous too. But she's never kissed a guy. I know. It's crazy like that.

P.S. - I'm 15

Do you want it?

I'd be fine with it if it wasn't all the time. Actually, I am fine with it. But then again since I get nothing out of sex anyway I kinda have this subconscious voice saying he's using me all the time but I know that's retarded and I'm just broken so yeah.

Umm... yay muffins.

To what extent does he play the "good boyfriend role"? Can he at least pretend to be there emotionally when he screws? Can he stick around afterwards? If he can do all that, then I can pretend to be his sex slave too.

Some of you people are too dependent on SEX! Emotional fulfillment is on par with sexual desires! A good boyfriend will fulfill both.

Sorry for sounding preachy.

Sex is hardly ever a purely emotional experience.

If you want penis/vagina, it's your god-given right you should have it.

There's something really sexy about being 'used' now and again...

quote:Originally posted by wires:

There's something really sexy about being 'used' now and again...

Raw, unadulterated passion and agression?

Hell yeah

quote:Originally posted by wires:

Hell yeah

I liken it to a dominance thing, too. If you're using each other, you have no respect for each other, and you can do things that you wouldn't normally do. In my case, that is be VERY agressive. Other people probably dress up in leather, or play watersports... It's these kinky things that you can only do to/with a person you don't really care about.

I have been with my boyfriend for over two years, and we've all 'sorts' of sex. Just cos sometimes we want to just go for it, it doesn't mean I don't fucking love him more than anyone in the world...it just depends on the mood you're in. Slow and intense is wicked too

quote:Originally posted by wires:

I have been with my boyfriend for over two years, and we've all 'sorts' of sex. Just cos sometimes we want to just go for it, it doesn't mean I don't fucking love him more than anyone in the world...it just depends on the mood you're in. Slow and intense is wicked too

Oh yes that's my favourite, because it requires little effort from lil' unfit ol' me. But does he become dominant? Because to do that you really have to block out most positive respect for the person (not disrespect though, of course).

I mean, the feelings can still be there, but sometimes they can be blocked out for fun.

There are just moments when things go unsaid, but the look in the other persons eye just says "I want to rip your clothes off" and thats when the aggression commences

Sometimes I like to be in control, and sometimes I liker her to be in control.

If you are in the relationship for reasons OTHER than sexual exploration, maybe you should leave him...?

Then again, if you love him, you'll fulfill his sexual needs.

Kind of a tossup.

Now I get offended if she isn't my girlfriend. If she's my girlfriend, there's nothing to be offended about.

There's nothing wrong with that. As long as emotionally fulfilling sex isn't ignored on other occasions I have no problem doing whatever it takes to satisfy him.

So, he's a good boyfriend, but every now and again he just wants sex?

That's fine.

quote:Originally posted by Vargv:

My gf uses me for sex... I'm ok with it.

But seriously. I just asker her out. She's really pretty and everyone else thinks she's gorgeous too. But she's never kissed a guy. I know. It's crazy like that.

P.S. - I'm 15

No offence dude, but this whole post oozes idiocy.

Maybe it's me...