The way I see it, there are five main contributing factors that determine how good sex is or will be.

1) Emotional attraction.

2) Physical attraction.

3) Technique.

4) Mood.

5) Drugs (& Other Mind-Altering Substances).

The first one basically means how much you love that person, or how strong your feelings are for that person. It's pretty straight forward.

The second one is also straight forward enough.

Technique includes foreplay, position, location, and any degrees of thrusting motion and all that. This one I will elaborate on in my next post (yes, it's already pre-written, just wait 63 seconds or so...)

Mood basically means how you feel at the time. If you aren't horny or turned on at all, then sex can seem like a chore. Unfortunately, that's usually how it felt for me.

Drugs can also have a major effect on how sex feels. I believe there is an archived thread on this already, so I won't go into detail right now.

My best 3 sexual experiences were with my first girlfriend, my last girlfriend, and the last one-night-stand I had; all for different reasons.

With my first girlfriend, it was awesome because I really liked her. I had relatively strong feelings for her, so that made it good.

With my second girlfriend, I didn't have as much of that emotional attraction unfortunately. I was, however, exponentially more attracted to her physically than my previous girlfriend. I still masturbate to images of her in my mind.

The last time I had sex was a one-night-stand, which I will go into detail shortly... In that case, the technique was what made it amazing (also combined with physical attraction).

Unfortunately I haven't had many experiences that combined those elements too much yet.

Anyway, it of course all depends on personal tastes and preferences. So it may vary for everyone. For example, I like being told what to do. To a certain extent at least. I'm somewhat submissive, but not to the point where I would do anything I didn't want to do. Definitely not into any S&M or anything like that. And outside of the bedroom (or wherever I happen to be having sex), there's no way it would be like that.

So yeah, share your experiences. I feel that this can help others learn about how others think sexually, which can give some good insight. It might spark some ideas...

My best experience as far as technique goes like this (SKIP IT IF YOU WANT. It's very long, which is why I made it part of my second post, so that you can't complain about it being long. )

I was at a night club in downtown Vancouver where they played house music. I wasn't high on E, which is wierd for me, because during this time, I did it all the time. Especially at an electronica club, no less... I wasn't really that drunk either, which is really wierd for me, as I drink pretty much every day.

Anyway, this girl came along and sat next to me and started talking to me. She asked me to dance, to which I said no at first, because I'm really self-conscious about my dancing. She eventually convinced me and I joined her on the dance floor.

She complimented me on my dancing, saying I was actually pretty good. I really think she was just saying that, but it boosted my ego enough to stay on the dance floor for a record time that night (more than 3 or so songs).

After that, she took me off to a secluded couch near the girls washroom, where we proceeded to talk, and eventually start making out.

She told at one point that if I were to ask her out, she would say yes. So, I got her number, in hopes of seeing her the next day...

We ended up seperated at some point, so I went back to my friends. I didn't see her for a while, but when I finally did, I went up to her on the dancefloor, and she just walked away without saying anything.

I was confused, and also really dissapointed.

I sat back down with my friends, kinda sulking for like an hour or two, until she came up to me and we went back over the couch for more kissing...

All night she played with my head... She even invited me back to her place that night, and then later on told me that she changed her mind.

At the last minute, she grabbed me and told me to come with her. We took a cab back to her place, where we proceeded to make-out and undress each other passionately in her room.

After we were both completely naked, she said "I can't do this".

I was like: "You're kidding right?"

She told me that she changed her mind. I started to kinda gently try to persuade her back into it. She then gave me an ultimatum, saying that we could have sex, but then I would have to leave right after (at around 4 am, when there are no buses running for hours. Not to mention, I don't even know where the hell I am). Or, I could sleep over, but no sex.

I told her she was being so cruel. I decided that I was going to sleep over. We talked for a while. Until eventually, we started kissing again (finally!).

Then I put on a condom, and we went at it.

Everything up until this point, I consider to be a form of foreplay. I didn't realize it at the time, but, whether it was intentional or not, she really fucked with my head, but in a good way. I hate cock-teases that don't deliver, but when it results in satisfaction, then it can be really, really good.

Anyway, that's not all, the sex was also really good:

At one point, she was on top of me, holding my arms back, and grinding against me. She told me not to move. I was so turned on. I moved my head a little bit to kiss her better, but she told me once again not to move at all. She was kissing me, but I couldn't kiss her.

Also, I think this was the first girl I ever had sex with who had noticably nice eyes. I loved looking into her eyes while inside of her.

Anyway, that is that. (Oh, and she didn't end up kicking me out until 8 am the next morning, lol). I tried calling her the next day, but she didn't answer.

I haven't spoken to her since.

^^^

That's hot!

I think your list pretty much covers what constitutes good sex. With my boyfriend I have it all! He likes to have sex in the morning though, so we're not always high, lol.

Hmm I like this thread. Very well thought out by the Op.



And what makes sex good?

1. A relationship beyond a day

2. Physical attraction of course (im a guy)

3.Attitude. (not stuck up and generally sweet)

Physical attraction means very little if there's no physical satisfaction. Same goes for emotional attraction.

So I say emotional and physical satisfaction.

Also, drugs never hurt either. But they only enhance existing emotions/performance. They can't build on what's not there.

I support teh zooks bring teh skills ITT.

I think its the love and sexual lust between two partners that makes sex good. Sex is an expression of feelings, so if she really loves you, she will show it during making love. And when they show it... that my friend is what makes good sex good



[This message has been edited by SGMasta No.2 (edited 10-06-2006).]

Hawt. lol I popped a woody. Not gonna lie.

If the ewe don't piss/dump in your rubber boots?

Only read your list. I'll agree, Minus the under the influence bit.

Technique, does that cover the guy lasting long enough too? cause that's important haha.

Oh, and I hate guys who ask "is this ok? Is this ok? do you like that? Did you cum? was it good?"

Get some confidence and just fuck!/make love. whatever.

quote:Originally posted by arquin:

Physical attraction means very little if there's no physical satisfaction. Same goes for emotional attraction.

So I say emotional and physical satisfaction.

I like the way you said that, I think I will remember it.

quote:Originally posted by moonmeister:

If the ewe don't piss/dump in your rubber boots?

You are insane! Do you speak like this in real life? How old are you?

Boner.

where to start-

well, the foreplay is amazing. it's like a game. i love the buildup. whenever i feel her undoing my pants, i know things are going to get fun. sometimes i get a blowjob before the actual sex which is nice.

then the actual sex is amazing. the initial penetration just feels so good. watching her stomach contract a little bit, the uneasy look of pleasure on her face. the actual thrusting is really nice to, with the raw kissing and heavy breathing.

i love the connection that you can feel when you're both lying there sweaty as hell. nothing beats grabbing her hands in the midst of it only to find out she's sweating as much as you are.

then once you've cum, and you can both cuddle up feeling accomplished is amazing too. it's just such a general feeling on contentness, especially falling asleep in one another's arms.

and in regards to drugs- do them. nothing beats stoned/drunken sex, or rolling whilst having sex.