My first post in here

Ok, I think this girl likes me, she has been staring at me and offering me things that give her no gain what-so-ever. We haven't really talked because I am not that interested in her. Now she seems to be ignoring me, or extremly warm to me.

I don't get it.

Tell her you wish to engage in negotiations. Then when she's not expecting it, give her a wedgie.

My work here is done.

First off, why should you even care? You don't like her, just choose to ignore her and don't try to figure her out.

She's most likely trying to play hard to get but obviously fails. When she's ignoring you she's waiting for you to talk to her. When she realises you're not going to she gives in to talking to you because you're unintentionally playing the game she wants to play on you. This causes her to have an even greater need for you because she knows she can't get you. She yerns for satisfaction.

You should just be honest and tell her you're sorry but you aren't interested. She may get upset but it would be better for both of you. She won't continue liking you after a while and you won't have to be annoyed as long. The outcome will be the same for her ither way, you're just ending the waiting time and annoyance for yourself.

[This message has been edited by sylph (edited 10-06-2006).]

Or you could just use her to fulfill all of your most deviant and twisted sexual fantasies all in the guise of her proving her "love for you"?

Well it isn't annoying, it just confused me. I am 15 by the way. To be honest, I think I kinda do like her. I am not sure. This confuses me too. How do you tell if you really like someone?

quote:Originally posted by Graemy:

Well it isn't annoying, it just confused me. I am 15 by the way. To be honest, I think I kinda do like her. I am not sure. This confuses me too. How do you tell if you really like someone?



You should be able to tell whether or not you like somebody by the thoughts that go through your mind when you're with them.

Emotions are easily confused. You should just ask her on a date and see what happens from there. If you enjoy that, go on another until you're content with your feelings and you feel confident that you know you're correct. A lot of times things aren't the way you think, you really have to dig deep. It's a lot more difficult than just saying "Okay, I'm going to dig deep inside of my self (subconciousness repeating, 'you're going to like her, I'm telling you you like her,' and so on). Okay! I've found my answer, I do like her. I want to establish a relationship!"

Of course, a lot of times, most of the time, when you realise you were wrong about your feelings it's after your mind has convinced yourself that you were in love. When in fact, the love was just lust. A sad thing it is.

Anyways, that's how you know. This is also my opinion, none of it is actual facts. Some people believe everything I tell them and don't look at two sides of an argument before they go on to take this as their own thought. I don't know you and I don't want to be responsible for yet another mishap, just a belief. Of course, I'm sure you probably differ.

I have mixed feelings, this I am sure of. I think I should start with talking to her, to see what comes out.

I am sure others will provide advice.