I'm just wondering how you offically become BF/GF. The current social norm in my highschool is if person A likes person B, the guy would go to the girl and ask "Will you go out with me?" Then bam, they're BF and and GF - holding hands, and the like. Now I've also seen the scenarios where two people eventually just doing more things, they start with persay cuddling by accident then to public displays of affection; I.E hand holding, then onward to kissing and then this just becomes more and more often then the two people just consider themselfs as together. This is just a confusing topic, as there are many ways of going through with it.

It's tricky, but a great way to freak a girl out is by mentioning the boyfriend/girlfriend thing too soon.

Much better to play it safe, go out, show affection and then when it's blatently obvious, bring it up.

Does the label matter? If you have something good, what does it really matter what it's called?

Once you're out of highschool, you'll start dating. So you hang out with a person and it'll either naturally progress into a relationship, at which point you talk about what exactly you are. Or it'll not work out and you move on to someone else.

Why have the girls I've been with been unable to drift into a relationship? They always need the validation, jee.

quote:Originally posted by Belle:

Why have the girls I've been with been unable to drift into a relationship? They always need the validation, jee.

Girls dont always like commitment or else they figure that if they say something about it the guy will run scared. Do you make it obvious that that's what you're interested in?

Normally I initiate the mating ritual dance about 10 feet in front of the female, twirling and leaping to display my superior genetic inheritance. If any males are in the vicinity and declare a challenge to my dominance, I roar loudly and beat my chest to call on the power of my ancestors. Their inferior fighting style invariably proves no match for my wooden monkey kung fu, and I send them on their way post haste.

This is guaranteed to procure you entry to the loins of many females.

quote:Originally posted by Arresto:

Girls dont always like commitment or else they figure that if they say something about it the guy will run scared. Do you make it obvious that that's what you're interested in?



Yes, I'd make it 100% clear. But I've had a few thoughts since my last post, my worries are gone.

quote:Originally posted by fullcircle:

Normally I initiate the mating ritual dance about 10 feet in front of the female, twirling and leaping to display my superior genetic inheritance. If any males are in the vicinity and declare a challenge to my dominance, I roar loudly and beat my chest to call on the power of my ancestors. Their inferior fighting style invariably proves no match for my wooden monkey kung fu, and I send them on their way post haste.

This is guaranteed to procure you entry to the loins of many females.



omg i lol'ed

quote:Originally posted by LiquidSniper:



omg i lol'ed

Aye, had I been chugging some liquid my keyboard would be stuck.

When people become mature and are ready for a real relationship it normally starts off with dating. They continuously date and tend to ignore the term, not thinking anything of it. I myself think it sounds a bit silly and kidish.

I don't understand people with the mentality to say "Will you go out with me?" "Sure, where are we going?" when they're considered young adults. That's more for something for kids in junior high and I supppose lower classmen. I would like to think Upper classmen and adults share similar opinions as mine to the whole "BF and GF" cliche type thing.

Anyways, I suppose the title is established once somebody continuously dates, shows public affection, talks to one another constantly whether it be in person or on the phone/internet, and grows protective over the other person, particuarly with the oposite sex.

There's many ways to define it, really. The point I'm trying to get at is it's not of too much importance. If you have a serious relationship, or atleast a pretty strong one, you'll know whether or not a person shares the same feelings for you. A lable put on you two will mean nothing nothing.

Note: I'm not saying that a person asking someone to be their girlfriend/boyfriend doesn't develop firm relationships, just that the title is juvenile and not very important

I'm not sure exactly how it happens... For me, We were friends, and just started showing more and more affection as our feelings for eachother increased. I guess you could say we lapsed into a relationship... which was nice, because it spared us the awkwardness of "um... will you go out with me?"

Well, I'll tell you a little story that answers your question:

I was seeing this girl. She said we were 'seeing each other' only. That meant we could kiss other people. Thing is, I didn't WANT to kiss other people. She knew I only wanted her. But she also wanted to kiss other people.

For ages, she wouldn't be my girlfriend. Then I gave up, and figured "meh, if I can kiss other people I might as well take advantage of that". So I started looking around for other girls. Then I kissed those girls. Then she all of a sudden realised she wanted me to her self. No other girls.

Basically, you need to keep your options open and make the girl realise if she doesn't want you, some one else will. Worked wonders for me. But now she's gone into 'actual gf mode' which means I have to talk to her daily (fuuuuuck), chat to ehr on msn, etc. It's fucking GAY.

Trust me, you don't want a girlfriend. Just 'see' each other and lay down some ground rules. I didn't realise how sweet I had it.

Just make it so:

You can't kiss people on more than one occaision (ie. building a history).

You don't kiss people you've been with in the past.

You don't go past kissing.

Then you're set. Give it a shot.

Fuck the whole idea of boyfriends and girlfriends...I want to talk about love.

I think Love is when someone's with you even when they're not...because that's how I feel right now and I've never felt anything so fucking good in my entire life. I want to marry this girl...and I hate the idea of marraige...what the fuck is wrong with me right now? Holy shit, holy shit, holy shit...this girl turns me on so much! FUCK! She's bipolar, a total fucking nutcase, drives like a psycho, kisses like a goddess...what the fuck is this?!? I love it! I've been infatuated before...this is more. I have love for the whole damned planet, even the jackasses that cut me off on the freeway...this is more. I thought I had been in Love before...this is more. What the fuck is this?

Edit: Did I find the girl for me?

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quote:Originally posted by Hexadecimal:

Edit: Did I find the girl for me?



You tell me, is she the one?

If you find yourself wondering "do i really love her?" then she's probably not the one. But as for thinking "holy shit, i can't believe i'm thinking about marriage, and actually enjoying the idea..." then maybe you do love her.

Either way, you'll have to find out for yourself. love doesn't have universal symptoms where all of a sudden, everyone can tell you straight up that you're in love. Good luck with things, though, i remember how good it felt to finally find the person you want to be with.

well before my boyfriend and i were 'offical' we were close for a few weeks and had been fooling around for a week. he kept pushing for more sexually and i told him i didnt want to do anything until i was in a relationship (he was even my first kiss so i was an uber virgin and didnt want to just give it all away for free). so a few days after we talked about that he came over again to hang out and he told me he wanted me to be his girlfriend.

shut up. i was 16.

quote:Originally posted by fullcircle:

Normally I initiate the mating ritual dance about 10 feet in front of the female, twirling and leaping to display my superior genetic inheritance. If any males are in the vicinity and declare a challenge to my dominance, I roar loudly and beat my chest to call on the power of my ancestors. Their inferior fighting style invariably proves no match for my wooden monkey kung fu, and I send them on their way post haste.

This is guaranteed to procure you entry to the loins of many females.

I think I love you.

at my school, people just say, 'lets go out?'

'okay' and they are done

just a quick question and i dont wanna w8 4 sum1 else in another forum 2 answer....how do i quote things because what fullcircle wrote was hilarious.

Paper with red arrow above posts.

The key word in all of this is 'official', you see me and my girl had been going on 'dates' and such before we were the whole 'bf/gf' thing. But, it didn't feel like we were an actual item, which wasn't too good. So, we knew we liked eachother, but I guess we did the whole, 'will you go out with me' or 'hey, you wanna make us official' or something like that.... and yeah.

So, my guess would be go out for a while with the person you want, be sure that she is comfortable with you and sure that she wants to make something out of it... Than I guess "Hey, do wanna officiall be a couple" or along those lines.

quote:Originally posted by Hexadecimal:

Aye, had I been chugging some liquid my keyboard would be stuck.

I bet you chug sticky liquids all the time don't you.

Wow, reading this post makes me realize how pathetic I am. I've only had one girlfriend, freshman year. That lasted for about a year, since then I never talked to girls. I started again recently, but now I'm a senior and flirting at a seventh grade level, wonderful. I'll never get sex again. Guess I'll go drink a nice, tall glass of antifreeze.

Usually it starts off with just being friendly. then flirting that could be passed off as joking. then more obvious flirting. then complimenting and what not. THEN ANAL SEX. THE PINNACLE OF ALL HUMAN RELATIONSHIPS.

quote:Originally posted by Superunknown:

Originally posted by Hexadecimal:

Aye, had I been chugging some liquid my keyboard would be stuck.

I bet you chug sticky liquids all the time don't you.

Yep...I love apple cider and soda.

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Come is pretty good, too.

quote:Originally posted by IncenseandPeppermints:

Wow, reading this post makes me realize how pathetic I am. I've only had one girlfriend, freshman year. That lasted for about a year, since then I never talked to girls. I started again recently, but now I'm a senior and flirting at a seventh grade level, wonderful. I'll never get sex again. Guess I'll go drink a nice, tall glass of antifreeze.

Don't be so down on yourself...I can relate to people about as well as I can dress, and I look like shit. Doesn't mean a damned thing though...just be you and if a gal really likes you, and you like her, what must be done will be as clear as air.

quote:Originally posted by ShouldTrip:

I think I love you.

Observe, gentlemen, how the female has no choice but to swoon at the mere sound of my seductive shadowboxing technique.

quote:Originally posted by fullcircle:

Observe, gentlemen, how the female has no choice but to swoon at the mere sound of my seductive shadowboxing technique.

Alright, this time I was drinking a soda...you owe me a can of electronic cleaner.