i'm single. i am fine with this. i don't have much time for a boyfriend, so i'm not going to go out looking for someone. i'm not saying that i don't want a relationship, but it's not something i feel i desperately need.

my friends, on the other hand, feel that they are not complete and cannot be happy about their lives if they are not in a relationship.

my question to the people of totse: is being single so bad after all? does one have to be in a relationship to be happy?

You've got to think you're actually an interesting person to want to spend time with yourself?

Now...sit on my lap & tell me all about it.

meh, it's alright. to be honest I'd prefer to be with someone, but I'd prefer to be by myself than with someone lame. so yeah, it's all good.

Being in a relationship is overrated I think. It's totally awesome with the right person, but if not, I'd really rather not.

Also, being single, you can do what, how, who, and when you want!!

I'd be happy with a relationship, but i'm also happy being single and not forcing a relationship on myself.

yeah, being with someone is nice. but i still think that being in a 'serious relationship' at 18 is a waste of time.

I can barely even remember being single at this point.

Yes, ancient one.

I was single until from January to July this year, and I had an awesome time. I wasn't looking for a boyfriend at all, it just kind of happened. But that's okay because I love him.

So yeah, being single rocks, although I'm having even more fun with my boyfriend now than I was when I was single. It all just depends on your state of mind.

It does bug me how alot of people feel that they need to be in a relationship though.

quote:Originally posted by Sick_Boy:



It does bug me how alot of people feel that they need to be in a relationship though.

I find it quite sad actually, people basing their happiness around another person, instead of concentrating on finding their own.

quote:Originally posted by UnforgiVen3:

I find it quite sad actually, people basing their happiness around another person, instead of concentrating on finding their own.

Me too. Although I was like that when I was younger and never been kissed, lol.

quote:Originally posted by UnforgiVen3:

I find it quite sad actually, people basing their happiness around another person, instead of concentrating on finding their own.

Maybe they think that life is too happy not to share it with another person.

quote:Originally posted by CatharticWeek:

Maybe they think that life is too happy not to share it with another person.

That doesn't make sense. There's no such thing as too happy, in my opinion.

quote:Originally posted by Sick_Boy:

That doesn't make sense. There's no such thing as too happy, in my opinion.

Your opinion is super, but I think you misunderstood.

I meant; Maybe they would like a companion to be able to externalise the happiness they find.

quote:Originally posted by CatharticWeek:

Maybe they think that life is too happy not to share it with another person.

I agree, I enjoy being with people, and sharing life with them, but what I meant is that a fair number of people i've met base their happiness ON the other person- say if the one person is away, the other is.....lost without them. I can't really understand that.

quote:Originally posted by UnforgiVen3:

I agree, I enjoy being with people, and sharing life with them, but what I meant is that a fair number of people i've met base their happiness ON the other person- say if the one person is away, the other is.....lost without them. I can't really understand that.

Yeah, but humans are always up and down like that, it's in our nature. You probably see a lot of people that are really happy with their partners too.

You'll eventually be just as happy as if you were single, but you might have greater peace of mind.

When you meet someone, and you give the vibe that Yes, I really do want a relationship, and that's that.

It pushes the other away. I like it when things progress naturally, and some effort on each's behalf.

Personally I like being in relationships too. it's a nice feeling.

quote:Originally posted by NoSkills:



my question to the people of totse: is being single so bad after all? does one have to be in a relationship to be happy?

It's called a weakness in character. Some people feel the need to latch onto other people to validate themselves.

If you nither have nor want a boyfriend, then you either are fat and you smell. Or, you dont feel weak enough to latch onto someone.

[This message has been edited by Das Troll (edited 10-04-2006).]

Being single really isn't so bad.

Sometimes it seems like relationships before your 20's are just kinda pointless...

Without having to deal with a relationship, you can still love someone, spend all your time with them, and the jazz that comes with a relationship, except it doesn't have a label that makes things really stressful.

It's really a hard concept to get across, I know, but maybe one day I will start a thread to try to explain it in detail.

quote:Originally posted by NoSkills:

i'm single. i am fine with this. i don't have much time for a boyfriend, so i'm not going to go out looking for someone. i'm not saying that i don't want a relationship, but it's not something i feel i desperately need.

my friends, on the other hand, feel that they are not complete and cannot be happy about their lives if they are not in a relationship.

my question to the people of totse: is being single so bad after all? does one have to be in a relationship to be happy?

Man you sound like my girlfriend.

Think of it this way...

When single you can fuck random bitches and get away with it, no conscience or any of that hiding.

But in a relationship, your the fucked bitch.

trust no hoes

being single is alright, there's nothing wrong with it. it's the being single after a long-term or just really intense relationship that i think would be hard, because you're used to that commitment and feeling and safety and all that. or maybe that hopeless kind of single feeling, where it feels like there will NEVER be somebody...we all know there will be, but that doesn't make you feel any better at the time.

single-ness can rock if you're in the right headspace for it.

quote:Originally posted by NoSkills:

i'm single. i am fine with this. i don't have much time for a boyfriend, so i'm not going to go out looking for someone. i'm not saying that i don't want a relationship, but it's not something i feel i desperately need.

my friends, on the other hand, feel that they are not complete and cannot be happy about their lives if they are not in a relationship.





Wow...that is my life.

Your friends are more insecure than you, and feel that they need someone, rather than standing on their own for any time.

That said, it's nice being in a relationship for any number of reasons, I prefer it. It's not all perfect (duh) but I wouldn't change it. Depends what you get/want out of a relationship.

I don't remember what it's like to be single

I suppose it's ok being single cos you can oggle

And i can hug my boy chums without feeling guilty

but when you're in a relationship you can get penis whenever you want

I've been single my whole life, so I don't know any better.

I wouldn't mind being single if I actually got laid.

quote:Originally posted by CatharticWeek:

Your opinion is super, but I think you misunderstood.

I meant; Maybe they would like a companion to be able to externalise the happiness they find.

That's very much how I am...but one of the attributes of my happiness is patience, so it's not really something I fret over. I do my part to be happy, and if someone comes along who wants a piece of me and my joy, they're welcome to feast.

quote:Originally posted by Superunknown:

I wouldn't mind being single if I actually got laid.

+1. Ain't gotten any in over a year..

I thought it would be cool to be single ya know, go to parties fuck randoms n shit. But this isnt the case for me, I dont get laid unless im in a relationship, but maybe its just my personality I dunno, being single sucks.

I wih I could be single for about 5 days out of the month. Not to cheat but just to be myself. Completely and utterly my old self. Get high, play video games, eat whatever, watch whatever, and sleep whenever.

I've been single for quite a while now, and at the moment, I would like it to stay that way

I don't get what's so bad about being single.

The only reason you should be sad after a break up is because you miss the person, not because you need them and they're not there. I think I actually function better when I'm single, and generally I don't even like relationships.

When im single, i feel good to be single.

when im in a relationship, i feel good to be loved.

i think i love me too much

or not enough. i dontknow, but im happy right now

idk how i feel about this. i really don't want to be single. i am 18 and have been in a relationship for a year and a half. this is my first actual relationship and it is (was?) great. i think the reason i don't want to be single is that 1) my boyfriend is my best friend and 2) before i met him i was in a really bad place and unhappy so i think i am associating unhappiness with being single. it sucks when you know what is wrong with you but you dont know what to do about it. so meh. i am contributing nothing here, but at least i am venting.

I enjoy being single, been single for about a year now. Because of being single I now have 2 fuck-buddies, and thats just plain awsome.