i posted a while ago about my scandalizing with recently out-of-the-closeted friend. It turns out he's still relatively obsessed with me, sending me text messages all the time, inviting me over all the time. we've gotten to the point of fucking several times, but each time i end up not being able to get hard enough to actually do anything.

And we have a pretty pitiful track record. He's orgasmed at least 8 times, while i stand at 0.

What is wrong with me? I should find him attractive, i did before he came out.

and also, i haven't gotten head in a while, but can you actually feel anythign on your penis? when he's going down on me, i barely feel anything at all....could i have a desensitized penis? are there people out there who are physically normal but derive no pleasure from sexual contact (people without social/anxiety issues who should theoretically be able to enjoy it)?

You circ'd? I have heard that nerve damage can result from that.

Other than that i can only suggest you go see a urologist.

Also, at the risk of sounding homophobic (and i'm not) i will lay money that any 16 year old homosexual has issues for sure...it kinda goes with the territory.

[This message has been edited by jackketch (edited 10-04-2006).]

Maybe it's just performance anxiety... you may just need to relax to have sex with 'em. Maybe you're not gay/bi/whatever? I know how you feel bro, I can't really get it up for head unless i know it's leading to something else. I used to have trouble, you just gotta learn to let go.

Do you get pleasure when you beat it?

I used to get hard, when I got horny or got head. but whenever it came time for the actual penetration, I'd go flaccid. And I'd always worry about keeping an erection, and stress myself over it. Shit happened when I was trying to run a train too. But at some point in time, I don't know when, I learned not to stress over that. Stressing over getting/keeping yourself hard helps to make it go flaccid it seems. Now I don't have that problem much, but I do, then I'd just do something else till I got it back;P

Or maybe it has something to do with confidence or your not into it.

Are you on any antidepressants or any medication for emotional problems?

I know that fucks with getting an erection a lot.

quote:Originally posted by LovesRequiem:

Are you on any antidepressants or any medication for emotional problems?

I know that fucks with getting an erection a lot.

Yeah, that can cause quite a few issues.

Was with a guy on one medication, he couldn't last to please a goat. He switched to another and he could no longer masterbate and cum, only worked through sex.

hmm... >.> Yes I'm just now thinking what a lot of other people are thinking.

But no, we never had an issue with how often we did it.. so he had no need to lie. :-P ..then again... ok.. anyways!

Yeah, could be medication! haha

thanks for the responses.

and no, i have no 'issues'. its odd actually, i find myself bored of the complacency of my situation. a 'stable' family (fucking hate my parents, theyre constantly on my ass, but only so that i can 'succeed'. they seem to think i'm running my life into a hole, even though i have straigh A's in all advanced classes), an amazing best friend/ moderate social life, no anxiety issues, etc. i'm as healthy as a horse, i swear. and yea, i did come out reeeaally early, but times are changing and kids are coming out earlier and earlier. it seems as if i am in the last generation where a negative stigma is attached to homosexuality, and boys are feeling more safe and willing to admit theyre gay.

oh yea, btw, i actually was able to manage with the erection and get some action...it was enjoyable, but i still always get the feeling that he's enjoying himself more than i am. i cant barely feel his masturbation/giving head, while he's writhing and moaning whenever i touch him. i enjoy that though. i finally did cum, and it was great, but i find that masturbating by myself is probably more pleasurable than sex.

sex isnt all that pleasurable, its just nice to know someone is enjoying you and interesting.

Ok.

Are you sure you're gay?

quote:Originally posted by immersionwarning:

(fucking hate my parents, theyre constantly on my ass



No, your boyfriend is!



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