Is it possible to date someone because you like them? I mean you actualy enjoy somones company and could go with out the sexual mantra of the relationship?

I was thinking about this last night, and I think that I could date someone because I enjoy their company. Like I would take her on dates, to dinner, ETC.

I'm not saying that sex is tottaly out of the question, but Don't try and make out with me if we go to the movie. A kiss is alright But I payed 10 dollars to see a movie, and watch it. Not kiss you. I could pick up a whore and get a blowjob for that kinda money.

And If I invite a girl to go someplace it isn't neccesarily because I want sex. Its because I want to get to know her, better. And actualy talk.



So, is it possible to date someone in a non-sexual manner EG: not making out on the sidewalk?

Well yeah, I think that's how adult dating actually works.

I was just in a relationship like that.

You could stop dating whores, and find someone at least reasonably intelligent.

I'm just going to go out on a limb here and assume that the girls you want to 'date in a non sexual manner' just happen to be more then reasonably attractive.

I was walking around last night, and I saw a few couples. And it didn't piss me off, but It made me question what a real relationship is.

I have this friend who just started dating this girl not a month ago, and they are now opening a Joint checking account. I thought that was ridiculas.

They also were making out right in front of us. Which does not really bother me considering that I am a wedding photographer. But, I don't want to be Just Chilling, and have to watch a couple make out.

quote:Originally posted by SilentMind:

You could stop dating whores, and find someone at least reasonably intelligent.

I'm just going to go out on a limb here and assume that the girls you want to 'date in a non sexual manner' just happen to be more then reasonably attractive.

No, I just would rather get to know a girl before we fuck. If that makes sence. I was having a convosation with one of my friends abot how he can't say no to sex.

I think I figured out the solution, Which I need to ask him about, But he puts him self in these situations where girls call, they fuck, and then he either: gets let down because he is expecting something, or he feels kinda "whoreish" afterwards.

quote:Originally posted by bushy:

No, I just would rather get to know a girl before we fuck. If that makes sence. I was having a convosation with one of my friends abot how he can't say no to sex.



I understand where you're coming from, and I respect it. But the problem is you're dating the kind of girls that jump you in the movie theater. If you want a serious relationship, you're going to have to look for girls that are more mature then your current dating base.

This isn't exactly a new concept!:P

My husband and I went on dates every day for 2 months before we slept together. It was very romantic...He used to take me to this awesome fondue resteraunt and then we'd go to the beach and talk for hours. I miss that fondue place.

quote:Originally posted by Xiao Mei:

This isn't exactly a new concept!:P

My husband and I went on dates every day for 2 months before we slept together. It was very romantic...He used to take me to this awesome fondue resteraunt and then we'd go to the beach and talk for hours. I miss that fondue place.



Did he stop once you started putting out?

quote:Originally posted by SilentMind:



Did he stop once you started putting out?

lol, that would be unfortunate.

But 60 dates? That's a lot of mother friggen money depending.

And yeah, like stab said.

That's normally what happens post highschool and/or turning 21.

quote:Originally posted by SilentMind:



Did he stop once you started putting out?



Nope It's been nine years and he still takes me out once or twice a week. We'd go out more, but we have a child, less disposable income and he works all of the time.

Isn't that called friendship?

a friendship with added fucking

Making out was cool when I just figured about about it at age 14 or whatever. That stuff doesn't last. Going with someone to a restaurant and having a good time is the really hard part. Anyone can have fun making out or having sex, but having a truly great time just talking or sitting in silence with someone is a very special thing.

Yeah um...this is called friendship man.

Also, is it alright to date around, I mean as long as you aren't fucking them all. I don't really see a problem.

Well, I suppose if you're at the stage where you're deciding if the girl is good for you. And you are at some kind of calibration stage, then yeah. But you should know after 30 minutes...

I'm in a relationship like that.

Edit: I'm only 16, and I have a whole life ahead of me, so I'm not in any rush so we're taking it slowly.

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quote:Originally posted by bushy:

Also, is it alright to date around, I mean as long as you aren't fucking them all. I don't really see a problem.

What are you trying to justify?

Dont be so touchy Euda. Theres absolutely nothing wrong with casual dating. There are a lot of girls out there, and during the younger years, its actually more healthy to date around and get a feel for how women differ and what you want from them. Theres no point in dating someone exclusively until you know that you're compatible, and that you might have a future together.

quote:Originally posted by SilentMind:

Dont be so touchy Euda. Theres absolutely nothing wrong with casual dating. There are a lot of girls out there, and during the younger years, its actually more healthy to date around and get a feel for how women differ and what you want from them. Theres no point in dating someone exclusively until you know that you're compatible, and that you might have a future together.

I agree that there's nothing wrong with casual dating, I don't quite agree with finding out "what you want from them", but I'm not sure that bushy is capable of it.

It was an actual question, not a cutting comment.

Your priorities are fucked up. Go have sex. Thats all. Just sex. No intellectual shit, no talking about their problems, no getting to know the family or hanging out with her friends. Just sex.

quote:Originally posted by XHippie HunterX:

Your priorities are fucked up. Go have sex. Thats all. Just sex. No intellectual shit, no talking about their problems, no getting to know the family or hanging out with her friends. Just sex.

QFT

You're too young for all this serious relationship stuff. You should be having fun - not setting yourself up for heartache.

I am not justifing anything I mean would i be leading anyone on?

quote:Originally posted by duck_dojo:

a friendship with added fucking



Friendship with benefits.

quote:Originally posted by bushy:

I am not justifing anything I mean would i be leading anyone on?

If you take them on more than three dates and you act genuinly interested, then it could be considered leading her on.

I didn't bother reading past like the first line.

You can not have a succesful relationship with out sex.

Even shitty relationships can seem worthwhile if the sex is mindblowing.

But yeah, as I always say (maybe it's not the truth, and just a relfection of my personallity) "you can't have anything with out sex".