I'm having a few doubts about it.

It's the first time in a very long time,fuck that my first time i've really fallen for someone so fast,& I don't want to just knock myself out of it(this feeling)because he's not in my league of thinking.I've always told myself that I want someone into the arts to be with(being that I live for them),but I don't know,I think i'm willing to take a chance on someone from the outside of it.I don't know much about him,other than that he's 24,works all too much for his own good(the same as I do),& is basically a talkative wallflower at parties,lol.Which ironically enough makes him the drive of the crowd,in some odd twist of events usually.He's one of the few i've met in a long time who's comfortable with themselves just the way they are too,which is something that matters to me.I've been with both mr. Macho & the Pillsbury Doughboy if you're going to think in those terms,but I would not have gone out with either if they did not like themselves for who they are.

The one main thing & reason why I made this post though above all else,is that I absolutely could not go out with someone who smokes.Not ciggerettes im talking about,but weed.I dont mind that he's done it in the past,but if I were to go out with him,I wouldn't want him to be smoking it up then,it's a huge turn-off for me.Drugs in general are,they've literally destroyed my life before it even started,to say the least of it,& I don't want to leave any trace of it open to hurt again in the future.

I just....Ah I don't know,so i'm asking you people for support.If I do decide to take this to more than dating,how should I bring it up to him?I doubt he's into it now,but being the crowd of friends I met him through,you are who you hang out with until you've proven differently.



Just the very nature of this site is telling me instinctively at this point that many of you would not be happy at all knowing i'm not into the drugs section of this site,lol.All & any appropriate criticism & help on this is very much appreciated though,even if I call you an expletive.

Pot. I used to smoke it. Not anymore, only very rarely, despite it being the main activity of my friends. It can fuck with you, but it can also do the opposite. It really depends on the person.

But that's not the point.

It seems like this is your dealbreaker. I don't know why people have to have them, but they do. What you need to do, and this is pretty obvious, is find out if he smokes or not.

Simple as that. If he does? Bad luck. If he doesn't, or only does occasionally, then you're in luck.

So... good luck!

Yea....kind of lame that you would rule someone out because they smoke weed.

I think that is limiting a lot of your options, but it's your choice, so I would say do what stab said to, ask him if he smokes.

However, I am assuming you are a girl, you could always ask him out and see if he is interested.

Not sure you have enough balls or self-esteem to be that bold, but it is probably the best means to actually finding out if he likes you, and if he smokes, and if he is actually a person that you like.

Honestly, If a girl told me to choose her or pot, I would most likely choose pot. And it's not really even because pot is that special to me, but that a girl would want to try to deprive me of something I love, rather than understand makes me cringe.

Just my own view on this.



[This message has been edited by IDontLoveYou (edited 10-02-2006).]

quote:Originally posted by KRJ:

I'm having a few doubts about it.

It's the first time in a very long time,fuck that my first time i've really fallen for someone so fast,& I don't want to just knock myself out of it(this feeling)because he's not in my league of thinking.I've always told myself that I want someone into the arts to be with(being that I live for them),but I don't know,I think i'm willing to take a chance on someone from the outside of it.I don't know much about him,other than that he's 24,works all too much for his own good(the same as I do),& is basically a talkative wallflower at parties,lol.Which ironically enough makes him the drive of the crowd,in some odd twist of events usually.He's one of the few i've met in a long time who's comfortable with themselves just the way they are too,which is something that matters to me.I've been with both mr. Macho & the Pillsbury Doughboy if you're going to think in those terms,but I would not have gone out with either if they did not like themselves for who they are.

The one main thing & reason why I made this post though above all else,is that I absolutely could not go out with someone who smokes.Not ciggerettes im talking about,but weed.I dont mind that he's done it in the past,but if I were to go out with him,I wouldn't want him to be smoking it up then,it's a huge turn-off for me.Drugs in general are,they've literally destroyed my life before it even started,to say the least of it,& I don't want to leave any trace of it open to hurt again in the future.

I just....Ah I don't know,so i'm asking you people for support.If I do decide to take this to more than dating,how should I bring it up to him?I doubt he's into it now,but being the crowd of friends I met him through,you are who you hang out with until you've proven differently.



Just the very nature of this site is telling me instinctively at this point that many of you would not be happy at all knowing i'm not into the drugs section of this site,lol.All & any appropriate criticism & help on this is very much appreciated though,even if I call you an expletive.

That was annoying to read. Please put spaces after your commas and full stops.

Infatuation sucks in my opinion, I don't like being so attatched to someone but it happens...

Anyway I don't think you should rule out anyone who smokes marijuana, I know some really great people who do.

Why don't you ask his friends? They could probably give you an answer. And if they say he does 'sometimes' then you'll have to talk to him about it. But odds are he'll suggest that he stops. Actually, the odds aren't like that, I'm just assuming what I'd do.

And CarbonB, didn't you say something along the lines of you'd never date a smoker and that all smokers should die? Cigarettes or weed, it's all smoke. So you can't really say it's lame not to date someone who smokes weed.