Now this isnt so bad when im with a certain group of people, say about 7 or 8 of us. Yet if im with just like a girl even just on a social outing i always get paranoid that a passerby may just attack me and im constantly on my guard and eyeing up everyone in the area. Yet its not the thought of what could happen if id be attacked its if the girl would think im some fool if it did. Anyone else find this?

A passerby just attacking you? Please dont tell me you live in Utah

You're mad! Lay off the coke for a while...

quote:Originally posted by RichieBats:

A passerby just attacking you? Please dont tell me you live in Utah

I dont, but like whenever we get on a bus i get worried incase everyone just starts screamin at me or jumping me. Yet i dont get this if i was on my own or with a large group.

WTF people do that 2 u for no reason? do you give off a 'hard' vibe?

quote:Originally posted by RichieBats:

WTF people do that 2 u for no reason? do you give off a 'hard' vibe?

No, i just act normal but i get worried that there gonna do it to humiliate me in front of the person im with.

Any ideas?

quote:Originally posted by YANBON24:

Any ideas?

Stay in the basement, install Linux, put the pizza express on speed dial, learn klingon and change your totse nick to something like " I R T3h s3Ch5_G0D!" . Everyone knows that sunlight is poisonous anyway!

You could always lay off the ganja.

quote:Originally posted by jackketch:

Stay in the basement, install Linux, put the pizza express on speed dial, learn klingon and change your totse nick to something like " I R T3h s3Ch5_G0D!" . Everyone knows that sunlight is poisonous anyway!



Dammit

u got social anxiety like me, xanax will help. do u smoke alot of pot 2?

The people always shout "there goes John Jacob Jingleheimer-Schmidt"

quote:Originally posted by RichieBats:

u got social anxiety like me, xanax will help. do u smoke alot of pot 2?

Time to time but not excessively

Try looking at it logicly, realise that your fears have no base in reality, and try to work over it. Atleast you still leave the house.

quote:Originally posted by 4skins:

The people always shout "there goes John Jacob Jingleheimer-Schmidt"

Oh man, this almost made me spray Coke all over my keyboard.

quote:Originally posted by 4skins:

The people always shout "there goes John Jacob Jingleheimer-Schmidt"



Da Da Da Da Da Da Da

John Jacob Jingleheimer-Schmidt, his name is my name too..

[This message has been edited by Illegal_High (edited 10-02-2006).]

So, just start boxing or something. I used to get that kinda feeling all the time but after I started getting really into fighting stuff its kinda changed. Now I go out and hope someone will start so I can just pound them into the ground.

sounds like some sort of unresolved childhood incident or pattern. did kids do this to you when you were younger or something, try to humiliate you or bully you? it's a totally unrealistic fear.

quote:Originally posted by lauren7249:

sounds like some sort of unresolved childhood incident or pattern. did kids do this to you when you were younger or something, try to humiliate you or bully you? it's a totally unrealistic fear.

The 'rents used to take the piss when i was yay high, that have anything to do with it?

quote:Originally posted by lauren7249:

sounds like some sort of unresolved childhood incident or pattern. did kids do this to you when you were younger or something, try to humiliate you or bully you? it's a totally unrealistic fear.

This seems funny because it's very much what happens to me. Back in my younger days, I used to get bullied a lot, now that I think about it.

And even now, people still 'pick' on me, like throw stuff at me, I'm usually taken the piss off a lot... Shit, I've only just realised.

Oh well, a lot of people get worse than me, I'm damn lucky.

quote:Originally posted by YANBON24:

I dont, but like whenever we get on a bus i get worried incase everyone just starts screamin at me or jumping me. Yet i dont get this if i was on my own or with a large group.

Don't worry about it.

The most likely explanation by far is this:

1) The real problem is that you're quite simply nervous around girls. This is 100% natural, and nearly every guy your age experiences the same thing, just everyone hides it.

2) In many cases the brain works in very strange ways when cognitive processes are involved.

One of the stranger functions is the way it creates a narrative about yourself, and the events that make up your conscious experience.

Psychological research has shown that there is part of your brain which creates a story out of all the information it receives, a story about the world that makes sense to you. It literally creates this story like a writer creating a play.

quote:A powerful example of the brain’s drive to form beliefs comes from observing “split brain” patients in my own research, as they struggle to form an explanation for actions that their non-verbal right side has been told to execute. These are patients who have had their corpus callosum severed for treatment of epilepsy, which prevents information from being easily communicated between the left and right hemispheres. If you have a person fixate on a point in space, everything to the right of the point is projected to the visual areas in the left side of the brain and everything to the left of the fixation point is projected to the visual areas on the right side of the brain. This is true of everyone, but in split brain patients, that information is now isolated in the two halves of the brain—in other words the left brain doesn’t know what the right brain sees and vice versa.

Years of testing of such patients has revealed that there is a brain mechanism, which I call “the interpreter” that resides in the verbal, or left brain, which crafts stories or beliefs to interpret actions. For instance, because of the ability to isolate the verbal and nonverbal hemispheres, when the word “walk” is projected to the right hemisphere of a split brain patient, the patient will get up and start walking. When we ask the patient why he or she is doing this, the left hemisphere, which is the site of language for most people, and which did not see the command “walk” starts to create a response, such as: “I wanted to go get a coke”.

Source (www.c ogsci.ucsd .edu/~rik/ courses/co gs200-w05/ readings/G azzNeuroet hicsJI-1.p df.)

3) What I'm getting at is that your nervousness and uncertainty about situations where you're just with a girl, your brain is probably taking the raw emotions and using the power of imagination to invent a new context for them. There's no way to guess why your brain chooses to re-interpret it like that, but for some reason it thinks that's the best way to help you handle it.



There might be another explanation, but I can't imagine that it's any less simple than that one I just gave.

Give it a year or two, get more and more experience in those situations with girls, and the paranoia will probably disappear.

Unless you had some fucked up traumatic experience as a child, that the situation reminds you of, lol.

This is why you should ask a qualified professional about this shit instead of, well, anything other than totse. Talk to a therapist, they can really help.