For the record, This is not about me, it is about my cousin.

Well ill give you the short of it instead of the long story.

My cousin is in grade 12 and has recently made friends with a girl he think is really cute, smart , the whole bit. He really wants to ask her out, but is scared of what the answer will be, and whether or not they will still stay friends afterwards. He is also afraid that if she says yes, that he wont know what to do as he has never had a real "Girlfriend" before and he knows that she like to get a bit more touchy feely pretty fast.

I was just wondering if anyone knows what he should do, And whether or not its even a good idea for him to go out with her in the first place as to not wreck there friendship together.

Unless he is unafraid of fucking up, his first relationship will be a total fuckup.

He has to go into this knowing that there's a high chance that, because he doesn't really know what to do, he will do things wrong.

The best course of action would be for him to communicate this with the girl, and tell her that's he's very inexperienced, and that he want's to ask her out but doesn't know what to do afterwards.

If she's worth his time, which she probably is, she'll understand and help him through. Who knows? She might be just as inexperienced as him, and they could both work through the learning process together.

Relationships are very complex, and if you go in all gung-ho, you will fuck a few up. But if he approaches this situation with caution, and reserved control, I'm sure that the outcome, good or bad, will be beneficial.

quote:Originally posted by Alphamarica:

For the record, This is not about me, it is about my cousin.

Why would we care if it was about you or your cousin? And why are you asking your cousins questions on totse?

I call bullshit.

Just fucking ask her out man, don't be such a pussy about it.

Your "cousin" should go for it. Have a light touch; no "I have undying love for you", just casual enough so that y... he can remain friends if she says no.

Speaking of cousins.

I guess because she's like a little sister I have a hard time believing, but my cousin has sex with her boyfriend, all the time. She's 15 goddamn years old. I've seen this boyfriend of hers, and I tell you I've never seen anybody as ripped as him. And as much as I can't wait to beat the shit out of him when he breaks her heart, I don't want to start shit between his Asian gang buddies, and my drug dealer buddies for something so trivial.

[This message has been edited by Manny Huney (edited 09-24-2006).]

Thanks for the advice from "Some" of you, but the reason my cousin doesnt post it is because she is on Totse too, and he doesnt want her to know how he feels over a website, he would rather come straight out and say it to her