Okay,I am nineteen years old, and my story begins earlier this year. Due to an unfortunate set of circumstances, I have to repeat year 12, and take maths again.

'Shit happens' I say, and so I suck it in, and repeat, along with my girlfriend at the time, who also had to repeat.

So I go into school the first day, get to maths, and theres this SMOKIN' girl in my class (call her 'S'). Anyway, due to my...kinda possessive g/f being in the same class, I never actually get a chance to talk to her.

Fast forward to 1/4 of the way through the year, and I break up with my girlfriend of three years, basically because I fell out of love with her.

After I get through a fair amount (2-3 months)of singledom- clubbing, parties, and loose women- I start to get to know 'S' fairly well as a friend.

After a fair few looong conversations, I quickly start to realise that I really like her. Unfortunately, she had a boyfriend, so nothing was really attempted on my part.

However, during a party about one and a half months ago, I end up in a bed with her, drunk as hell, and telling her I liked her. Her response? She knows I loooove getting the back of my head rubbed, so she starts to do this for a while.

We kiss for a bit, and she ends up asleep in my arms. My most enduring memory from that night was how it felt so....nice to have her there in my arms, to be able to hold her as she slept.

Two weeks later, during which we do an INSANE amount of flirting, and we end up wagging maths together, and going to my house to watch movies, about halfway through 'Red Eye', she turns to me and starts making out with me.

The rest of that week is amazing- I see her everyday, and things look like they are finally looking up for me.

The next week, however, she starts to go a bit cold towards me, as in she can't see me, she's busy (this is getting close to exams, so I could understand), however this continues through the weekend.

I manage to catch up with her on the tuesday after, and talk with her about it, and she basically says she's really sorry, but she is fairly busy. Fair enough.

That weekend (last weekend), we go to her brother's house, and have a general piss-up, and we end up having sex- it was good, really good

The whole of this week, however, she is even more distant towards me, and by distant, I mean not treating me like you would someone special, she treated me like just another friend. Last night I confronted about it, and she said: 'I've decided I really hate relationships, and I do really like you, but I just don't want another relationship'.

She still is leaving open the option of being friends with benefits. I, however, really wanted a relationship with her

The problem with this friends with benefits/wait until she is ready option is that I will not be able to 'have' her, and have to watch her act like a single chick, flirt with other guys, you know the deal. What's more, knowing my luck, when she decides she DOES want a relationship, it won't be with me.

The other option I see is to cut her out of my life, to tell her that I cannot be friends with her while I still have feelings for her, and that ostracising myself from her is the only way I can save myself from alot of emotional pain.

Totse, I'm not asking for advice, I know the decision rests with me, and me alone. I would simply like to hear what you think.

And yes: TL/DR, No bel-air/didnt read, too emo/didnt read, too gay/didnt read

I suggest using her like a piece of meat. Don't expect that she'll ever want a relationship.

I'd say stay away from her, all she's going to do is hurt you. If she cheated on her boyfriend with you (from reading you post it looks like that's what she did), then you can't trust her in a relationship with you anyway. It sucks, but it'd be a lot worse if you did get in the relationship and she did something like that.