My girlfriend told me that she is deciding if she's ready to have sex with me or not. We haven't been going out very long, and call me a pussy, but I prefer meaningful sex to just fucking the first person that comes along. My girlfriend is still a virgin, so it's also a rather large decision for her. I on the other hand am not, but I still deem it rather important. We've been doing other things (Use some imagination) and she doesn't have a problem with it. She says she wants to, but that doesn't mean she's ready to.

Not really a question, more of a topic for open discussion really.

when my ex and I were fooling around before sex, she told me that she did want to have sex with me, but she just wanted to wait till she felt like the time was right.

What makes you think she isn't ready?

Unfortunately, a lot of people view losing their virginity as something that needs to be gotten out of the way with. But it's up to the girl to decide when she's comfortable enough with herself to lose it.

How long -have- you been going out? If only a few days...I can understand your hesitance. If it's been a few months, then I dont see anything wrong with it. Also, if she feels she's ready and you're not willing, she may decide to find someone else.

If you feel like you should wait a little longer, then set a date and tell her when you will. I.E. for our three month anniversary. That way she'll be content to know that it's going to happen, and it'll build anticipation in the meantime. You can even plan something special for the occasion, candlelight, rose petals, a special playlist, etc.

We haven't been going out that long, but we fooled around several times before we went out. And although I do have hesitance, it's her's that I respect the most. She said that she might for my birthday (Two weeks Sunday).

Also, last week we almost did. She told me she was debating it. I said "Even if you have 20 reasons why you DO want to do it, if you have even one reason not to, I don't want you to do it.". We just got off the phone, and she said that if I hadn't said that, she would probably have asked me to.

How old is she?

Foreplay is the gateway to sex. When you're that turned on, and you're on the verge of an orgasm, it's easy to forget your inhibitions. And a lot of times that leads to regrets.

On the other hand, if she's saying she wants to over the phone, when she's thinking clearly and not affected by having you near, then she's probably ready. Honestly, when a girl is ready...it's because she's reached that point in her development. It's more about her own maturity then her relationship with you.

But that doesnt make it any less. It can still be a beautiful thing, and she's lucky to have someone like you that understands how important it is, and who can make it a pleasant first memory for her.

She's 15 and I'm 17. Thats another reason I'm having thoughts about letting it wait.

BTW, this is one of those "Meant to be" relationships. I love her very much and could happily spend the rest of my life with her. Her parents love me, and my mother loves her. We have SO much in common. We're both native (Quite rare in this portion of Canada). We can practically read each other's mind. Everyone says that we are such a cute couple. Personally, I wish I was still a virgin (Sort of xP) so it would be as meaningful to me as it will be to her.

I don't want her to do anything she might regret, like doing it too soon or anything.

Also, I hate having to "Break" virgins, I always feel so horrible.