I already know her and she's a friend.

If she says yes, then I can hope for something larger than just being friends. But if she says no, the the friendship between us will turn be awkward and different when and if we ever hung out again. I just don't want to lose her friendship over asking her out to HC because she's beautiful inside and out.

Should I take the risk?

quote:Originally posted by tryss:

Should I take the risk?

Alot of people will say yes, but I say no.

If you really value the friendship, then I wouldn't risk it.

Sure I value the friendship, but is there a way to not compromise friendship and STILL be able to ask her to the dance?

quote:Originally posted by tryss:

Sure I value the friendship, but is there a way to not compromise friendship and STILL be able to ask her to the dance?

Ask her to go just as friends.

"Hey do you have plans for homecoming?"

A)"Yea"

"Oh yea, who you going with"?

B)"No"

"Oh really, what are the chances you would want to go with me"?

quote:Originally posted by gadzooks:

Ask her to go just as friends.



And then see if she makes any moves.

quote:Originally posted by Low Rider:



And then see if she makes any moves.

Smooth man...smooth as ex lax.

Yeah, just ask her to go as buddies and then see what kind of vibes she's giving off. If you're already friends, it shouldn't be that hard to ask her, nor should it be that bad if she says "no".

I think she already knows I like her. So, even if I try to ask her out as friends, she'll know the real deal. It is safe?

quote:Originally posted by tryss:

I think she already knows I like her. So, even if I try to ask her out as friends, she'll know the real deal. It is safe?

That must be an awkward friendship then. If she already knows, I say you don't really have anything to lose.

I wouldn't be able to be friends with someone I had feelings for, or with someone who has feelings for me.

quote:Originally posted by gadzooks:

That must be an awkward friendship then. If she already knows, I say you don't really have anything to lose.

I wouldn't be able to be friends with someone I had feelings for, or with someone who has feelings for me.

Well, I think she has a slight idea that I do. But we usually hang out as friends if we ever do. She's a great sincere and beautiful person to me.

I say go for it. Ask her as friends and then go for a kiss? thats how I work it but dont know about you. But then again I only go for a kiss when things seem right.

I hate having for friends though. I like to meet a girl and fall for her instantly but thats just me... idk

Mmmm, This is a tough one..

as the saying goes:

"Failure is never as terrifying as Regret"

So, go for it - but do you best. Don't just ask her lookin like a scrawny piece of shit. Ask her with confidence and energy and happiness. Why not wink and act charming. Show her your charming side.

but ... I do suggest you ask her if she already has anyone to go with:

"Who are you going to homecoming with?"

Perfect: "Ummm.. I don't have anyone yet"

Ouch: "I'm going with Danny O'Shea!!! OMG!!!! How Cool!!!!"

quote:Originally posted by Sailor-Boy:

Mmmm, This is a tough one..

as the saying goes:

"Failure is never as terrifying as Regret"

So, go for it - but do you best. Don't just ask her lookin like a scrawny piece of shit. Ask her with confidence and energy and happiness. Why not wink and act charming. Show her your charming side.

but ... I do suggest you ask her if she already has anyone to go with:

"Who are you going to homecoming with?"

Perfect: "Ummm.. I don't have anyone yet"

Ouch: "I'm going with Danny O'Shea!!! OMG!!!! How Cool!!!!"

I approve. This is good advice.

(ps dont pussy out )

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Thanks, and I'll probably go with it because I know I'll probably never forgive myself for not taking a chance with someone as great as her.

Has anyone seen Love Actually? Well, there's this scene in there that I thought was cute and I'm thinking of asking her that way. (without the carol music of course) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=idHrz_xqwsk

Suggestions, I suppose?

Just tell her straight up you want to fuck her brains out.

[This message has been edited by SykoRob2005 (edited 09-19-2006).]

quote:Originally posted by SykoRob2005:

Just tell her straight up you want to fuck her brains out.



No.

quote:Originally posted by tryss:

I think she already knows I like her. So, even if I try to ask her out as friends, she'll know the real deal. It is safe?

bro, i did the EXACT same thing in year 10, asked the girl I had a MASSIVE crush on to the year 10 formal, sorta like your homecoming I guess. She knew I liked her, and I was like, do you wanna go as friends, and she said yes.

We were together three years bro. dont miss the oppurtunity to give it a shot, at least then, at the end of it all, you can say there was nothing more you could have done to win her over.

quote:Originally posted by tryss:

Thanks, and I'll probably go with it because I know I'll probably never forgive myself for not taking a chance with someone as great as her.

Has anyone seen Love Actually? Well, there's this scene in there that I thought was cute and I'm thinking of asking her that way. (without the carol music of course) ht tp://www.y outube.com /watch?v=i dHrz_xqwsk (http: //www.yout ube.com/wa tch?v=idHr z_xqwsk)

Suggestions, I suppose?

on one hand, cute way to win her over.

on the other, a way to make her think you're an overly romantic obsessive loser.

I'd not risk it mate.

quote:Originally posted by Garfunkel:

on one hand, cute way to win her over.

on the other, a way to make her think you're an overly romantic obsessive loser.

I'd not risk it mate.

Haha, thanks. You just told me to go for it but now you're telling me to not?

no, im saying definately go for it, but i wouldnt use the whole love actually thing.

I can see that being cute a year or two into a relationship, and freaky/obsessive before you're going out.

quote:Originally posted by Garfunkel:

no, im saying definately go for it, but i wouldnt use the whole love actually thing.

I can see that being cute a year or two into a relationship, and freaky/obsessive before you're going out.

How should I ask her though? I don't want to do it at school because she's always around her friends or I never have the chance to talk to her alone for a while.

have you got her phone number by any chance?

lol, i am being totally honest here. I really have no shame whatsoever, I'm so glad i have no problems with this kinda shit. Self confidence is awesome.

But really though, do what you think you should do. If you do what someone else tells you, she will *know* it isnt you talking. You know what i mean?

Who the fuck goes to homecoming?

Holy God, ask her if you really want it. One of my friends today was going to ask this girl he liked to HC, and he was talking to his other buddy about it, and he's like, dude no, she already got asked a period before that .

Or just dance with her there. If she has a date, then she's probably not too interested in you, unless that guy is just a friend. If she is flying solo, or just friends with her date, dance with her and see what comes of it.

last year i asked a real good friend to coming, and essentially we both got mixed signals, and we dont talk that much anymore...kina painful, but i got over it. you will too.

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quote:Originally posted by Garfunkel:

have you got her phone number by any chance?

Yeup.

Just ask. It's worth the risk. If she's an okay person she'll accept you as her friend regardless and you two could just go as friends instead of actually a "couple" if that makes you feel more comfortable given the circumstance.

Go for it but she might pull the friend card on you, that thing is a bitch.

ask her tommorw i want updates 2!

Tryss, has she seen Love Actually?

If so, she might laugh in your face.

quote:Originally posted by Pirate.Bob:

Tryss, has she seen Love Actually?

If so, she might laugh in your face.

HAHA, I hope not.

1. "Do you have a date to homecoming?"

Assuming she says no:

2. "Well why don't you come with me then?", or something equally not-silly.

AN UPDATE----

I asked one of her friends to ask her if she's going with anyone, but she told me that she's going with her girlfriends without any dates.

So, I don't know... what should I do &totse!? Should I still ask?

quote:Originally posted by Crack Man:

Who the fuck goes to homecoming?

True that!

quote:Originally posted by tryss:

AN UPDATE----

I asked one of her friends to ask her if she's going with anyone, but she told me that she's going with her girlfriends without any dates.

So, I don't know... what should I do &totse!? Should I still ask?

Yes shes not a lesbian so ask her!

But she's planning on going with her girlfriends. If I ask her, I'll put her in a tough position since she wants to hang out with her friends... sigh.

Anyone?

quote:Originally posted by tryss:

Anyone?



shes prob just sayin that because she has no date just ASK

Ask, if she says no big deal, you're friendship will still go on. But if she says yes, then tap it, and post pics.

Go for it. Worst case scenario, you get to dance with a girl that you like.

Just continuously hint at her about the formal until you are sure that both of you are on the same wavelength, then ask her when you are fairly sure she likes you and will say yes.

quote:Originally posted by unevenmartian:

Just continuously hint at her about the formal until you are sure that both of you are on the same wavelength, then ask her when you are fairly sure she likes you and will say yes.

soon as you said formal I knew you were an aussie.

Bwahahahaha!

look, enough.

Ask her. no bullshit. Just ask. Ask yourself, what's the worst that could happen? she might say no. If that's the case, you'll remain friends and maybe get into her panties one day... or she could say yes and then you could get into her panties the ngiht of homecoming.

I repeat. ask her.

quote:Originally posted by Garfunkel:

... or she could say yes and then you could get into her panties the ngiht of homecoming.



I don't think I should ask mainly because she wants to go with her big group of girlfriends which I don't want to interfere. So I'm pretty sure I'll get a 'no' if I ask.

[This message has been edited by tryss (edited 09-25-2006).]

quote:Originally posted by tryss:

I don't think I should ask mainly because she wants to go with her big group of girlfriends which I don't want to interfere. So I'm pretty sure I'll get a 'no' if I ask.



oh man I hate it when they go in flocks like that. But I think the only way your gonna ever find out is if you ask her. It takes a lot of god damn courage to do that but its basically the only way, and it will show her that you are confident and secure.

quote:Originally posted by voodoonirvana:

oh man I hate it when they go in flocks like that. But I think the only way your gonna ever find out is if you ask her. It takes a lot of god damn courage to do that but its basically the only way, and it will show her that you are confident and secure.

Oh, and another thing. She likes this one other guy but the guy doesn't seem to like her back. She's still kind of clinging onto him. I'll maybe ask if our vibes are good this week.

[This message has been edited by tryss (edited 09-26-2006).]

quote:Originally posted by tryss:

Oh, and another thing. She likes this one other guy but the guy doesn't seem to like her back. She's still kind of clinging onto him. I'll maybe ask if our vibes are good this week.





when I asked my ex out (we were together for almost three years) she had a crush on a smarter, better looking, older guy who wasn't into her.

I still got her.