Ok, sorry if this sounds stupid, but I haven't posted on Totse in a LONG time. Last night was homecoming night, and there were 2 chicks from work that like me. Skip foward, I basically hooked up with one of the girls and we danced and kissed a lot. Tomorrow I'm going to see her at school, and I have no idea what to say to her. I don't wanna say something like "what's the deal between you and me??" becuase that'd make it sound like its all her decision.... and so yah. Any subtle way to bring it up??? Any advice is helpful =3.

dont be subtle; be direct. life is only made more difficult by people beating around the bush. if you like her, say "I like you, but if you dont feel the same way, fine." If you dont, say "STFU Sk@NK, befo' Wayne Brady has to choke a b!tch! Damn.. bitches be thinkin' I'm a one bitch pimp, fuck that."

Ok, I was expecting to get flamed severely (there's still time)... Thx though... I'm usually direct, but I don't wanna make things sound the wrong way. Tomorrow ima just be like "Yoooo hooker waz goin down between me and you???" Sounds pretty sound...But yah, I still have to talk to that other chick that likes me tomorrow.... ='(.

how is the 'other' girl relevant at all in this situation?

If you want to 'be' with her, just ask her you fuck face:

Whilst walking, slow your pace down and get behind her.

*poke her in the back lightly with your index*

"So, do you wanna be my girlfriend?" *smile/smirk* *take your finger off her* *look directly in her eyes, don't look away before she does - keep the smirk*

t3h cliche: Confidence is key

Rawr.. Well yah, I'm big on the whole lookin into the eyes thang ++++. But as far as verbally ASKING her to be my girlfriend i've been debating about. I'd rather it kinda been an implied thing, I dunno. Maybe asking would be better. but yah, the "other girl" is relevant cuz originally I was kinda thinkin about hookin up with her, and now I kinda think I hurt her feelings. And I know the "other girl" a lil better than the girl I hooked up with, but I guess there's always opportunity to get to know her better. O yah... another question. Is it alright for your girlfriend to be better friends with a guy friend than you??? Cuz yah, that girl I hooked up with is better friends with one of my friends than me (or at least so it seems.....and its also understandable because they've known each other longer). That kinda makes me a bit worried too, hehe. Any input would be appreciated, dont be toooooo harsh =X!!

quote:Originally posted by Shadow Specter:

Rawr.. Well yah, I'm big on the whole lookin into the eyes thang ++++. But as far as verbally ASKING her to be my girlfriend i've been debating about. I'd rather it kinda been an implied thing, I dunno. Maybe asking would be better. but yah, the "other girl" is relevant cuz originally I was kinda thinkin about hookin up with her, and now I kinda think I hurt her feelings. And I know the "other girl" a lil better than the girl I hooked up with, but I guess there's always opportunity to get to know her better. O yah... another question. Is it alright for your girlfriend to be better friends with a guy friend than you??? Cuz yah, that girl I hooked up with is better friends with one of my friends than me (or at least so it seems.....and its also understandable because they've known each other longer). That kinda makes me a bit worried too, hehe. Any input would be appreciated, dont be toooooo harsh =X!!

You seem to be really emotionally defensive and insecure.

why?

You don't want to directly ask her because it will put you in a vulnerable position by putting her in power. - emotionally defensive

You are ALREADY thinking about the "what if's" regarding your friend!, that's right.. F - R - I - E - N - D. If anything were to happen between your friend and the girl, it would have already happened by now - unless she used you to make your friend jealous etc. <<but dont think about that too much. - insecure

well?

I don't know about the whole 'asking her directly' thing... I think it would be slightly awkward if you just came out and asked her to be your girlfriend.

You could, though, let her know that you're interested in her as more than a friend by inviting her out somewhere, or doing something where it's just the two of you and not at some social event thing. It'll go from there and if all works out you may have yourself a girlfriend.

[This message has been edited by Cinquain (edited 09-18-2006).]

quote:Originally posted by Cinquain:

I don't know about the whole 'asking her directly' thing... I think it would be slightly awkward if you just came out and asked her to be your girlfriend.

You could, though, let her know that you're interested in her as more than a friend by inviting her out somewhere, or doing something where it's just the two of you and not at some social event thing. It'll go from there and if all works out you may have yourself a girlfriend.



this is good.

Get to know her better (dates and shit) before you ask her to be your gf.

Lol, reading over what I said, I realized that there's no reason to worry if she likse me (cuz i already heard she liekd me before). Yah, I think ima take Cinquains advice and let her know i'm interested in more than friends (except she's kinda grounded right now, so I can't take her anywhere, lol). But yah, the friend of mine that she's really good friends with also likes her. But yah Sailor-Boy, maybe I am a bit insecure, who knows??? I always learn about myself by asking questions and hearing responses. *thinks of an idea* Here's ze plan!! Sneak up on her, grab around the waist, whisper in her ear "Hey, you know I really enjoyed being with you at the dance yesterday" *smirk smile*, and go in for the kill. Yay or nay!?!

quote:Originally posted by Shadow Specter:

Lol, reading over what I said, I realized that there's no reason to worry if she likse me (cuz i already heard she liekd me before). Yah, I think ima take Cinquains advice and let her know i'm interested in more than friends (except she's kinda grounded right now, so I can't take her anywhere, lol). But yah, the friend of mine that she's really good friends with also likes her. But yah Sailor-Boy, maybe I am a bit insecure, who knows??? I always learn about myself by asking questions and hearing responses. *thinks of an idea* Here's ze plan!! Sneak up on her, grab around the waist, whisper in her ear "Hey, you know I really enjoyed being with you at the dance yesterday" *smirk smile*, and go in for the kill. Yay or nay!?!

Your idea, it doesn't sound so bad. Maybe you shouldn't grab her unexpectedly though.. I don't know, anytime I've ever been grabbed around the waist out of nowhere it automatically makes me tense. But what you said sounds good to me and I think it would most likely have a good result.

Good luck though, whatever you decide

Ooo thanks everyone for the input, I like to get varied insight into thangs, u know. I"ll keep in mind not to give her a heart attack though..... might be helpful =3. Muchas gracias!

quote:Originally posted by Shadow Specter:

Ok, sorry if this sounds stupid, but I haven't posted on Totse in a LONG time.

*Deep, Humble Voice*

They allllways come back.