I've been slowly getting with this girl for a couple of weeks at uni, and after last night it's pretty much come to the point that I have to take it or leave it. The reason I'm indecisive is that she's a really sweet girl and is quite hot, but at the same time she's very frigid and definately a long term or nothing kinda person, which isn't exactly what I'm looking for at 19. Also, she's not very social - I invited her out with my friends last night and she didn't really talk to anyone, I spent half the night feeling bad because she was sitting there on her own, but I couldn't have been with her the whole night because there were 15 other people there who I'd invited. Eventually she left before we all went clubbing because she felt akward.

So yeah, what do I do?

drop her

Well, you could always make it look like you are open for a long term relationship and then just get some ass and drop her.

But IMO thats pretty dick. But whatever, like you said, its take it or leave it. Personally, I'd take it, and see if you can get her to be more open around people and see if she would ever let you do stuff without her n'at.

Well thanks for the mixed responses, cleared that up a lot

Anyways, here's a pic of me and her to help a mental image or somethin:

http://myspace-436.vo.llnwd.net/01177/63/49/1177259436_l.jpg

nah.... you guys are cute and look normal. i guess you could forget my last comment and try and work with it.

[This message has been edited by naked (edited 09-17-2006).]

I don't know, I'm the long-term kind of person so it's hard for me to see where you're coming from, but just from looking at the picture, I don't think you two look compatable. No reason really either, just basing it on looks.

I don't think you two look compatible at all. You have different looks to you, and obviously from what you've said, different outlooks on life.

Listen, you said yourself that she's not what you're looking for right now. So... you really don't need us to make your mind up for you!

quote:Originally posted by stab:

Listen, you said yourself that she's not what you're looking for right now. So... you really don't need us to make your mind up for you!

Exactly, all these mixed feelings guys always have with certain girls.. you know she's not right for you, and yet you wanne keep her.. tell her to go away, more fish in the sea, snitch-nigga.