I was sitting on a leather chesterfield in a cafe studying when this chick says "do you mind if I sit down?", so naturally I said yes. Then there was silence until I got up and left, which was an hour or so later.

What the fuck could I have said? Nice shoes?

The same thing happened to me at habbo hotel...

ask her what she is studying.

Were you even able to concentrate on studying?

"What are you studying?"

"Do you go to *said* college?"

, etc.

Insult her subtly, i.e nice shoes, they look comfortable, nice skirt, i see everybody wearing them etc. Idiot.

Asking her what she's studying is obvious, yes. But no matter how I ask the question it will always sound like a blatant attempt to get with her. And complimenting her clothes is no different. Maybe if she had some book with her that I had read... But I am a noob at university and I haven't read anything.

Goddamn it I'm hopeless.

I guess what I'm trying to ask is, how do you start a conversation without letting her know you want to get with her?

^Act like you're about to leave at any time. Idiot.

quote:Originally posted by McLaren:

how do you start a conversation without letting her know you want to get with her?

She knows from the start that you want to get with her. As long as she is even somewhat attractive and not extremely naive, she will know from the second you open your mouth.

Besides... you want her to know that you want to get with her.. otherwise you will be filed off into friend zone or gay.

quote:Originally posted by gadzooks:

She knows from the start that you want to get with her. As long as she is even somewhat attractive and not extremely naive, she will know from the second you open your mouth.

Besides... you want her to know that you want to get with her.. otherwise you will be filed off into friend zone or gay.

So even if she didn't look at me twice I can be assured that she would welcome a pickup attempt?

Yes. Idiot.

quote:Originally posted by McLaren:

So even if she didn't look at me twice I can be assured that she would welcome a pickup attempt?

She has to at least be interested in talking to you if you expect anything to come of it.

If she's just there to study, then you might just get on her nerves. You should be able to gauge within a minute or two whether or not she is interested in talking to you.

Basically... the more interesting/attractive/etc you are, the more likely she will open up to you and ignore what she was originally there to do.

Say something like: hey, I'm ________, something to the effect of: what are you doing now?...if she doesn't reply in more than a few words it means that she isn't interested in a conversation or you and there was not opportunity to begin with...

Edit:

quote:Originally posted by McLaren:

Asking her what she's studying is obvious, yes. But no matter how I ask the question it will always sound like a blatant attempt to get with her. And complimenting her clothes is no different. Maybe if she had some book with her that I had read... But I am a noob at university and I haven't read anything.

Goddamn it I'm hopeless.

I guess what I'm trying to ask is, how do you start a conversation without letting her know you want to get with her?

...blatantly trying to get with someone would be literally asking someone if they would like to become your girlfriend from the moment on...The point of is type of small talk is to let her know that you want to "get with her". You need to show interest to recieve interest if it is possible. You need to take some risks. You will never find a girl by simply waiting around for someone to walk up and blantantly offer to instantly hook up...



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quote:Originally posted by Perspicacious:

Say something like: hey, I'm ________, something to the effect of: what are you doing now?...if she doesn't reply in more than a few words it means that she isn't interested in a conversation or you and there was not opportunity to begin with...

Exactly... The amount of effort she puts into the conversation should tell you how interested she is.

If you find yourself continuously having to think of things to say... then it isn't going so well.

quote:Originally posted by gadzooks:

Exactly... The amount of effort she puts into the conversation should tell you how interested she is.

If you find yourself continuously having to think of things to say... then it isn't going so well.

Or you're gay.

quote:Originally posted by Body Break:

Yes. Idiot.

No. Dickhead.

quote:Originally posted by Body Break:

Or you're gay.

What the fuck?

Where did you come from? And who the hell are you?

quote:Originally posted by gadzooks:

What the fuck?

Where did you come from? And who the hell are you?

I'm Body Break, and I own this thread, much like niggers and your mother.

Thank you for these words of wisdom. I will try it next time.

Just a kid trying to get himself noticed.

quote:Originally posted by McLaren:

No. Dickhead.

You're the one looking for sexual advice on the interweb from pimpy-faced nerds/middle-aged overweight people living in their basements.

quote:Originally posted by Body Break:

pimpy-faced nerds/middle-aged overweight people living in their basements.

Just because you fit this profile doesn't mean that everyone else here does...

^Just ignore Mr.Histrionic.....

quote:Originally posted by gadzooks:

Just because you fit this profile doesn't mean that everyone else here does...

Please, I know the guy is a moron but please don't stoop to schoolyard insults

"You're stupid! - No, YOU! A-HA, witty retort, you are beaten sir"

quote:Originally posted by Body Break:

You're the one looking for sexual advice on the interweb from pimpy-faced nerds/middle-aged overweight people living in their basements.

Yeah well you're still a dickhead.

NO U!

She made the advance, so hey, she can start the conversation.

Still, bit crap but. I hate doing things like that. Do it all the time tho.

PS What do you think about Alonso at McLaren next year?

The "meeting people at university" checklist:

In my freshers year I found out that these questions are always asked:

1) Name

2) Subject being studied

3) Halls of residence

4) Home town

Theres plenty of conversation material leading off from every one of these. Once you feel a bi more comfortable then move the topic of conversation!

quote:Originally posted by gadzooks:

Just because you fit this profile doesn't mean that everyone else here does...

My man Zooks ftw.

Ask her if she's studying Kinesiology...'cause she's just so trim & sleek & not at all like a geek?

To be interesting, be interested.

What's your major?

Where are you from?

Whatever she says, eat it up and ask for more details.