So ive been geting to know this girl for a while and we recently started talking deeper and stuff you know.

And she still hasnt told me she has a boyfriend even though I already know she does. Its on her myspace and ive seen him with her.

BUT one time i was giving her a hug and she looked over at this guy. She walks away quickly and the dude comes over and introduces himself to me. (now im thinking the dude is just friendly and wants to get to know all of her friends)

She still hasnt told me she has a boyfriend and I am in love. What should I do totse?

Don't be whipped, it'll just cause you pain.

Let it go.

I think it's pretty much common sense. You dont say that to a girl thats taken. What...do you think she's gonna sacrifice her entire relationship because you said a few words that are used way too much to begin with?

I feel for ya, bro...but let this one go.

I probably should. But she acts like she likes me more than friends and stuff. Whenever im near her I feel it. You're probably right she wouldt throw away her relationship for a few words. But if shes going to keep it a secret from me then whats the hurt? I cant stand keeping my feelings inside. So should I def let this go or are there any other suggestions?

Thanks totse

She will use you as an emotional comfort blanket, and strip you of your heart. You may be 'in love' with this chick, but time will heal it. Step back, and don't try anything on with her, it isn't worth the pain it's gonna cause you when it goes all wrong.

quote:Originally posted by Synkk:

I probably should. But she acts like she likes me more than friends and stuff. Whenever im near her I feel it.

She's using you, emotionally. Maybe you're her outlet for flirting, for hanging out with a man, for getting attention.

A lot of men don't have a problem with this, so please don't take my word as gospel.

But I don't put up for it anymore, because in my opinion it's a really shit thing to do to someone.

If they ask you, "omg! so what if we can't be together, can't we be friends?!" you get to say.

"I've got enough friends."

quote:Originally posted by CatharticWeek:

She's using you, emotionally. Maybe you're her outlet for flirting, for hanging out with a man, for getting attention.

A lot of men don't have a problem with this, so please don't take my word as gospel.

But I don't put up for it anymore, because in my opinion it's a really shit thing to do to someone.

If they ask you, "omg! so what if we can't be together, can't we be friends?!" you get to say.

"I've got enough friends."

Thats what im scared of

I just went through pretty much the same thing, except the girl told me she liked me, even though she's been with her boyfriend for almost 2 years. Long story short it doesn't work.

Let it go.

quote:Originally posted by B dub 07:

I just went through pretty much the same thing, except the girl told me she liked me, even though she's been with her boyfriend for almost 2 years. Long story short it doesn't work.

Let it go.

I thought as much...

Girls fucking suck sometimes

^

I know what you mean.

Ever seen Dead Poets Society?

Carpe Diem

Remember what the guy did at the party? And at the girls school? If you think it feels right, follow his example.

quote:Originally posted by fullthrottle:

Ever seen Dead Poets Society?

Carpe Diem

Remember what the guy did at the party? And at the girls school? If you think it feels right, follow his example.

Damn... I remeber that movie but it was soo long ago.

Don't say anything like that now....Just hold off...hopefully they will break up...

quote:Originally posted by Perspicacious:

Don't say anything like that now....Just hold off...hopefully they will break up...



-grin- Thats what I did. Girls at that age love attention, and a lot of times the boyfriend doesnt give it to them. Treat her better then he does, and then wait for your opportunity. Thats how I got my ex.

Leave her alone until they brake up and don't do a thing to encourage it. It's his girlfriend, either back off, or find your own.

I'm speaking from personal experience. If it were me, I'd beat your ass on the spot.

Atleast, that's what I did. Mother fucker tried to steal my girl from me, she showed me the notes he wrote her.

It's a d bag thing to do. So don't do it.

[This message has been edited by mr.surprise (edited 09-16-2006).]

No, no, no, no, no.

Remain her friend if you like, but cease all thoughts of romantic liason. If they break up and she wants you, she'll come around with very little input from you. Otherwise, you're just putting your dick on the chopping block.

Also, and with the utmost respect, recognize the possibility that you might not be able to handle hanging out with this chick while she's doing some other guy.

been where you are before mate. NOT worth it. Maybe your situation will be different from mine, but in my experience it doesn't matter what you do. I was wrapped around her little finger for fucking months mate.

My advice? Cut contact with her, her boyfriend, and anyone else who mentions her name.