Hey folks.

Finally met up with a girl I knew back in Secondary school we were both 10 when we met and 12 when she left...we were really close to each other like first love kinda thing, until she moved away.

I never had any contact details from her so last year I decided so see if I could indeed get back in touch. Its been a long struggle but finally managed to see her the other day - and shes had a hell of a time the passed 8 years.

She moved quite far south and started in a state school and stayed until the end of high school. It was a struggle for her right form the word go, and while I always remembered her as being pretty tough for a girl, she was bullied heavily; resulting in the "fight to the top" scenario. She was raped/sexually harrassed by someone in her year group a few times - which quickly stopped as her brother found out - and beat the living shit into the guy.

She finally got out of that shit hole and got her senior exams (a-levels) done in a private school, then went to University north of me. She finally settled locally hence the meet up.

One thing that otuched me deeply about her was a present I gave her when I knew her at 2nd School - a silver ring I htink I gave her at xmas and proposed to her in the snow on the playground. Shes kept it to this day, and I tell ya it's struck a few chords in the old heart I have to say.

The problem is with her history being so violent I dont wanna like...try anything stupid. Nor do I want to end a friendship thats obvoiusly lasted a long time certainly in her mind. The thing is I can't let an opurtunity like this pass by. Shes a beautiful girl with a hard but caring character.

What you suggest?

[This message has been edited by neville122333 (edited 09-13-2006).]

Spend more time with her and you should be able to figure it out urself.

I guessed that, just curious as to...I dunno...is there a "univeral way" of getting friendlier with someone who's had a bad sexual experience...or at least improove upon a distant friendship slowly?

quote:Originally posted by neville122333:

I guessed that, just curious as to...I dunno...is there a "univeral way" of getting friendlier with someone who's had a bad sexual experience...or at least improove upon a distant friendship slowly?



Just be a good person to her, and she will probably warm to you, you're obviously special to her, and she's been through enough to recognise a good guy when she meets one.

quote:Originally posted by Sailor-Boy:

Spend more time with her and you should be able to figure it out urself.



This is right on the money, just play it cool dude and don't go in with too much expectations. Be there for her.

Spend time with her as a friend and if you really care about her take it easy. Anyway don't obsess about the fact that she was raped. but don't rape her that would be a violation of trust.