I don't know what it is but when ever I'm going out with a girl, even if we've only been going out for a short time I'm always paranoid about what she's doing when she's not with me/talking to me. Like right now I'm thinking "What is she doing? Where is she? She should be home by now". I keep on thinking to myself what if she's met some new boy at college(She's just started college), what if she's with him right now, what if she's fucking him? It's just there all the time, I can't get thoughts like this out of my head.

How do I stop thinking like this?

She's told me she loves me, but I don't belive that. We haven't been going out long at all. I have no reason not to trust her... It's just I can't

quote:Originally posted by EyedeaOne:

How do I stop thinking like this?

Put a gun to your head and pull the fucking trigger.

Basically, jealousy is a self-destructing vicious circle. It psychologically stems from your past experiences and all that psychobabble bullshit. There's no magic cure im afraid. It's like being in rehab, gotta take it one day at a time.

...Are you my boyfriend?

We're in the same situation, I'm at university and he's jealous that he can't be here to keep an eye on me. Think of it this way: You would never cheat on your girl, right? Well, she probably feels the same way about you. Hopefully that will make it easier to trust her. But at the same time, do you really want a girl you can't trust?

quote:Originally posted by Sick_Boy:

...Are you my boyfriend?

No I'm Not, Why? Want Another One? Haha.

quote:Originally posted by naive_wisdom:

No I'm Not, Why? Want Another One? Haha.

One is enough for me, thanks! :P

I've been down that road, and it's not pretty. At the very least, don't act out on your jealousy. This will actually drive her to do exactly what you don't want her to do, or even worse, make you do something stupid yourself.

The bottom line is, if she wants to cheat on you, she can. You cannot stop that. You can either trust her, or not. One of the two. There is no compromise.

You don't trust her. Obviously. Why? You think she's attractive, I bet. Do you feel inadequate? She obviously thinks you're attractive too, if she's going out with you.

It seems like you've jumped into this relationship without being sure of yourself or your girl. Take a step back, mate. Realise things for what they actually are. You can't control her, so don't try to.

In short, stop being such a pussy, and man up. You don't need two girls in your relationship. She is your girl, YOUR girl, and from what I hear there is NO reason to suspect that she is cheating on you. So calm the fuck down and stop thinking about her so much. Live your own life, and meet her in the middle.

quote:Originally posted by stab:

I've been down that road, and it's not pretty. At the very least, don't act out on your jealousy. This will actually drive her to do exactly what you don't want her to do, or even worse, make you do something stupid yourself.

The bottom line is, if she wants to cheat on you, she can. You cannot stop that. You can either trust her, or not. One of the two. There is no compromise.

You don't trust her. Obviously. Why? You think she's attractive, I bet. Do you feel inadequate? She obviously thinks you're attractive too, if she's going out with you.

It seems like you've jumped into this relationship without being sure of yourself or your girl. Take a step back, mate. Realise things for what they actually are. You can't control her, so don't try to.

In short, stop being such a pussy, and man up. You don't need two girls in your relationship. She is your girl, YOUR girl, and from what I hear there is NO reason to suspect that she is cheating on you. So calm the fuck down and stop thinking about her so much. Live your own life, and meet her in the middle.

perfectly said

Paroxetine helps.

PCP, meth and coke will not resolve paranoia/jealousy issues. Trust.

I feel you though, dude.

I'm an ugly-ass motherfucker myself, with a girl that would in most cases not even give the time of day. I think she must have bad eyesight or something.

But anyways, she goes to school in a town 45 minutes away and she got herself an apartment in that town, and I've been going crazy for two weeks now. I just can't stand it.

[This message has been edited by Chronos139 (edited 09-12-2006).]