I'm having a little trouble with this one. I was just wondering how much I should let other guys get away with before I'm allowed to take action? Most likely telling the guy politely that she's mine, but ready to kick ass if he stands firm.

Recently, at my brother's wedding, my girlfriend was dancing and some guys started dancing with her, which I'm fine with since I'm not much of a dancer and she was having fun. One of the guys started getting a little carried a way and started to grind her which was a little more than I was willing to accept. I didn't react and cause a scene because it was my brother's wedding, but I wanted to rip his fucking head off. Later I told her that it made me very uncomfortable to watch other guys grope and grind her, and that it pissed me off. She played it down cause the guy was drunk, but that didn't matter shit to me. I get drunk, but I don't dry hump other guy's girlfriends cause it's not right to mow another man's lawn.

I need to know where I should draw the line? She wants me to take her to clubs and such, and this situation is likely to arise again cause she's hot.

Tell her the Dark Merchant isn't buying any of her guff.

Hmm, it's too bad you're not in my family. Had you kicked this fucker's ass no one in my family would think any less of you, especially me or my brother.

But seriously, I think you have a very adventurous girl. You should kick a guy's ass or at least say something to him if anyone starts actually physically touching her. That is when the line is considered crossed at any event, IMNSHO.

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The thing that should worry you is that she allowed it to happen. She should have slapped him and walked off.

Put her over your knee and him on crutches.

It'd be best to not be so jealous of your girl. True, it sucks. She isn't your property, though. You shouldn't make a scene about her dancing at a wedding either. That's inappropriate. I'm glad you didn't do that. What you should do, however, is let her know you'd prefer her to dance with YOU rather than grind on random guys. See how easy that is? Then she dances with you. Whatever you do, don't come off as a jealous prick when you talk to her. If you take her out and don't dance with her, that's your own fault she's dancing with other guys. Learn how to dance. It's easy to grind. If you can't do that, you shouldn't be allowed to have a girlfriend.

To be fair he may not have known she was taken and it was her fault for not stepping away or saying no.

So she's trying to excuse the situation because the guy was drunk.. she wasnt!!

That's fucking disgusting. You do not grind with someone who's not your boyfriend..with your boyfriend watching from the sidelines!



That's fucked up.



So when she cheats on you, is she going to be like "ohh.. it wasnt important, the guy was drunk.." ??

quote:Originally posted by jackketch:

The thing that should worry you is that she allowed it to happen. She should have slapped him and walked off.

Put her over your knee and him on crutches.

Megadeth's right again!

If you were dancing with random (drunk) girls and you knew your g.f. was watching - then the girl(s) started getting physical, what would you do?

+ Sailor-Boy

Grinding at a wedding? Ewww. That should be left to high school dances and trashy clubs.

Mate, I commend you on your self control...Well done!

I myself would have dragged him outside and showed him shades of black and blue he never thought existed!

You should sit down and talk about this one.

Let her know that the thought of another guy getting too close in a sexual way really makes you feel like shit and her disregard of this makes it worse.

Tell her it's not that you don't trust her but it's how she seems to take it so lightly when another guy is touching her up.

The best action for this sort of thing is to be calm and confident and just let her know how it makes you feel.

Talking is what mature couples do...My missus and I have been together a year yesterday and we've been through things kinda like this and come to some sort of agreement.

All the best mate.

I have talked to her about this, and she has agreed to walk away from any guy that tries to pull this shit again. She didn't realize that it hurt me so to see her doing this, mainly cause she is from South Africa, and this kind of dancing is the norm there, and doesn't mean shit. I informed her that it does mean something here, and she knows to not let it happen again.

If it wouldn't have been a wedding, I would have pulled the guy aside and had a chat. Then I would have told my girl how it is, which I have done since. Actually, I've made a list of rules and expectations that she must abide by or lose me. Most of them are for her protection from other men. After a recent incident, she understands completely why I'm creating them, and she has agreed to comply to them.

As for dancing. I can't dance a whole lot anymore cause I was in a pretty bad car wreck 4 years back where my lower spine was twisted between my hips. I lost a lot of mobility from it, and it hurts a lot if I dance a lot. My hips are pretty much fucked from it. Hasn't affected my sex life though.

quote:Originally posted by jackketch:

Put her over your knee and him on crutches.

better yet, put her on her knees for some sexual favors.

quote:Originally posted by easeoflife22:

Actually, I've made a list of rules and expectations that she must abide by or lose me. Most of them are for her protection from other men. After a recent incident, she understands completely why I'm creating them, and she has agreed to comply to them.



Posessive, psychotic, clingy, insecure, hyper-protective much?

Fucksakes, one, it's her fault for not telling the guy to fuck off. And two, if my boyfriend ever tried to make a set of rules for me to abide by, first I'd kick his ass so hard he wouldn't move for a week, and he'd never see me again. That's some sketchy ass bullshit right there.

quote:Originally posted by easeoflife22:

I have talked to her about this, and she has agreed to walk away from any guy that tries to pull this shit again. She didn't realize that it hurt me so to see her doing this, mainly cause she is from South Africa, and this kind of dancing is the norm there, and doesn't mean shit. I informed her that it does mean something here, and she knows to not let it happen again.

If it wouldn't have been a wedding, I would have pulled the guy aside and had a chat. Then I would have told my girl how it is, which I have done since. Actually, I've made a list of rules and expectations that she must abide by or lose me. Most of them are for her protection from other men. After a recent incident, she understands completely why I'm creating them, and she has agreed to comply to them.

As for dancing. I can't dance a whole lot anymore cause I was in a pretty bad car wreck 4 years back where my lower spine was twisted between my hips. I lost a lot of mobility from it, and it hurts a lot if I dance a lot. My hips are pretty much fucked from it. Hasn't affected my sex life though.

Theres your problem.

Doesn't everyone else have expectations and rules they expect their significant other to abide by whether they are spoken or unspoken?

Demoiselle- You are just an idiot and don't understand that I'm doing nothing more than protectecting her and our relationship from very real threats. She is not my posession, and the expectations was just how I feel about certain things that upset me, so she could avoid doing so cause she loves me and doesn't want to upset me. I just communicated that it wasn't ok with me, and she respected that, and reassured me she wouldn't do such things in the future. In return, I am extremely faithful to her and never do anything to hurt her in any way.

All i've done is communicated the problem with her, solved the problem and she was perfectly fine with the expectations I have of her. She doesn't need to place expectations on me although she does have some, cause my expectations for myself are way bigger.

opiate_chicken- She's not black, and origin means shit unless your prejudice. The cultural differences are that big really. I don't have anything against black people, I'm just not into black women.

quote:Originally posted by easeoflife22:

Doesn't everyone else have expectations and rules they expect their significant other to abide by whether they are spoken or unspoken?

Demoiselle- You are just an idiot and don't understand that I'm doing nothing more than protectecting her and our relationship from very real threats. She is not my posession, and the expectations was just how I feel about certain things that upset me, so she could avoid doing so cause she loves me and doesn't want to upset me. I just communicated that it wasn't ok with me, and she respected that, and reassured me she wouldn't do such things in the future. In return, I am extremely faithful to her and never do anything to hurt her in any way.

All i've done is communicated the problem with her, solved the problem and she was perfectly fine with the expectations I have of her. She doesn't need to place expectations on me although she does have some, cause my expectations for myself are way bigger.

If your relationship had any real value to begin with, you wouldn't have to take action to protect it, or whatever the fuck you said. She'll continue dancing provocatively with guys, you'll continue being a little bitch about it, and eventually it'll all end quite nicely.

quote:Originally posted by easeoflife22:

opiate_chicken- She's not black, and origin means shit unless your prejudice. The cultural differences are that big really. I don't have anything against black people, I'm just not into black women.

i think he means aids and loose people.

I thought this thread was gonna be about viagra.

hahaha that must have been funny man. "Look at the groom's brother's girlfriend rubbing her ass all over that random guy's dick. He's just sitting over there pretending not to notice. hahaha and look at the drunk guy's face! He's lovin' it!"

I too find it creepy that you made a list for her.

quote:Originally posted by jackketch:

The thing that should worry you is that she allowed it to happen. She should have slapped him and walked off.

Put her over your knee and him on crutches.

clever jack