So.. I have this thing, where if a girl has gone too far, I don't want anything to do with them. Like I've been talking to this chick for awhile, and she told me today that she's not a virgin. And before that, we talked alot, liked eachother, etc.. but I responded with a "..hm." and left. So, was this stupid of me? Should I be able to get over that? Even when it seems near-impossible?

Either you go join the Amish or you will die a virgin!

Seriously no it's not retarded but you might ask yourself why you are so judgemental.

Just the phrase 'gone too far' speaks volumes.



Let me guess...you're american and were home-schooled?

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quote:Originally posted by jackketch:

Either you go join the Amish or you will die a virgin!

Seriously no it's not retarded but you might ask yourself why you are so judgemental.

Just the phrase 'gone too far' speaks volumes.



Let me guess...you're american and were home-schooled?



American, yes. Home-schooled, no. But yeah. I think I am judgemental.. but I really can't help it, and I don't know how to stop.

how old are you two

quote:Originally posted by Citrys:

American, yes. Home-schooled, no. But yeah. I think I am judgemental.. but I really can't help it, and I don't know how to stop.



Like i said you need to find out where this judgemental attitude came from. Did your parents raise you to have set ideas about what 'good girls do'?

Or that sex is taboo/sinful/dirty?

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Like i said you need to find out where this judgemental attitude came from. Did your parents raise you to have set ideas about what 'good girls do'?

Or that sex is taboo/sinful/dirty?

My mom kind-of did but not really. She actually bought condoms for me already, without me asking or anything. And, I'm 17, if that matters.

quote:Originally posted by Citrys:

My mom kind-of did but not really. She actually bought condoms for me already, without me asking or anything.

Because she fears for you and knows what SLUTS girls these days are?

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Because she fears for you and knows what SLUTS girls these days are?

Pretty much.

quote:Originally posted by Citrys:

Pretty much.



She wants you to 'bring a nice girl home'?

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She wants you to 'bring a nice girl home'?

..I don't know? I don't talk to her about it. It wasn't my parents influencing my ideas. I don't take barely anything they say seriously. I've been like this long before my parents even brought up the subject of female relations.

When that girl tld you she wasn't a virgin , did you feel physical sickness or revulsion?

quote:Originally posted by jackketch:

When that girl tld you she wasn't a virgin , did you feel physical sickness or revulsion?

..yes. why? It's not like full-blown throwing up.. but yeah. It doesn't feel good.

quote:Originally posted by Citrys:

..yes. why? It's not like full-blown throwing up.. but yeah. It doesn't feel good.



Is it ok (in your view) for you to masturbate/have pre-marital intercourse or do you think you too should be 'pure'?

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Is it ok (in your view) for you to masturbate/have pre-marital intercourse or do you think you too should be 'pure'?

I think marriage is a stupid obsolete custom that brings law into a relationship. But I do think that it should be 1-on-1 for life, pretty much. Which is probably because I'm a virgin.

quote:Originally posted by Citrys:

I think marriage is a stupid obsolete custom that brings law into a relationship. But I do think that it should be 1-on-1 for life, pretty much. Which is probably because I'm a virgin.

Well i disagree about marriage but i don't think there is much wrong with the rest of your views or with you. However this attitude you have will stunt your social life and if it bothers you then i'd suggest seeing a sex-consellor or therapist (this is the sort of thing they are actually very good at!)

Were you adopted/a bastard/from a 'broken home ? (sounds a stupid question but i have heard of cases were that can lead to your sort of feelings)

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quote:Originally posted by Citrys:

I think marriage is a stupid obsolete custom that brings law into a relationship. But I do think that it should be 1-on-1 for life, pretty much. Which is probably because I'm a virgin.

thats why your still gonna be a vergin, six feet under ground rotting in a pine box fifty years from now.

quote:Originally posted by jackketch:

Well i disagree about marriage but i don't think there is much wrong with the rest of your views or with you. However this attitude you have will stunt your social life and if it bothers you then i'd suggest seeing a sex-consellor or therapist (this is the sort of thing they are actually very good at!)

Were you adopted/a bastard/from a 'broken home ? (sounds a stupid question but i have heard of cases were that can lead to your sort of feelings)



Counselor..? Is there any way I can deal with this on my own, without seeing someone? And, what could they possibly say to change it?

quote:Originally posted by Citrys:

Counselor..? Is there any way I can deal with this on my own, without seeing someone? And, what could they possibly say to change it?



Yeah sorry, it's 12:40 AM here and my spelling has slipped a bit.

Like i said, i don't think you NEED to do anything. Nothing you have said rings any kind of alarm bell. One day you'll find the perfect match for you.

I'm not any kind of therapist and i can't tell you how it works but i know from personal experience that it can.

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Yeah sorry, it's 12:40 AM here and my spelling has slipped a bit.

Like i said, i don't think you NEED to do anything. Nothing you have said rings any kind of alarm bell. One day you'll find the perfect match for you.

I'm not any kind of therapist and i can't tell you how it works but i know from personal experience that it can.

Yeah.. I hope so. Well.. I believe this thread has outlived it's usefulness.

quote:Originally posted by Citrys:

Yeah.. I hope so. Well.. I believe this thread has outlived it's usefulness.



Haha, yeah... that's how I was like kind of.

My ex was kind of a slut before, and I got kind of repulsed when she told me. I didn't really wanna touch her.

But, now that I'm no virgin, I'd probably get with a lot of sluts.

You are going to lose your dignity once you do it once.