the history: So I started talking to this girl who I have some courses with. She is absolutly gorgeous, smart and witty. So we talked for about two weeks, we told eachother practicly everything about eachother. From time to time she would mention that she felt neglected in her relationship that she was in now and how it was starting to get boring.

We give eachother compliments all the time, and she has said things multiple times that really made me think, like when I said that she should come over and we could make it a nice coazy night and mabye go to bed afterwards, together, ofcourse I said those things more subtle .

what happend?: So we went out, not really a date, more like a get together...We were sitting in a cafee chatted a bit. So that same night I send her an email in wich I say how I feel about her. She hasn't read it yet, and I send her an sms about how I send her an email. She replies to me in a sms that she's worried about what it is, but in a kind of laughing way. So I say, just read the E-mail tomorrow.

so the next day we're chatting on msn and I say "did you read my email?" And then this conversation starts.

quote:

Me: Mabye it's more then that...[I mean, more feelings then I put in the mail]

she: ?????

me: Mabye it's more then what I just put in the mail

me: But I don't know if it's a good idea to say so...

she: Now I'm getting scared

she: Don't say anything,

she: so I couldn't act like myself

Me: aah

she: oooooooooooh

she: you're making me scared

me: ok mabye it's better if I don't say so

she: ok

she:

she: I'm just saying you know...

Me: But you probably already know what it is...

me: or atleast you think you know what it is

she: I don't know, I don't think anything that I'm not sure of

she: but I don't wanna knooooooow

she: Because I do think that I know

she: and then I'm really gonna get shy

she:

she: and that ain't fun for you either

me: héhé

she: and not for me either because you're fun

Me: that's right

she: and I woudn't wanna be in the class and just sit there without saying a word

me: :P

me: But we'll figure it out when were alone, in real life



What I want to know?: Now did she turn me down, or is she still doubting? Maby she really wants to hear the words, I like you really much, comming out of my mouth, because I wasn't too straight forward in my email mabye, but she knows what I ment.

Now is she looking for confirmation, is she still doubting, or does she just not want me?

Give me advice!!!

Ps: I'm thinking about asking her to go and have a drink this saturday or something to avoid the first awkward eye contact on monday morning in class, is this a good idea or not?



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I guess it's a good idea. It'll give her chance to tell you what she really feels.

Good luck!

Man I hope she doesn't just say flat out NO. I mean, I haven't ever been this into a girl. I feel really, really, REALLY good when I'm with her. I mean, I have feelings for her that I've never had before. And for the moment I'm feeling like crap...

Sorry, I would've read more but when i came to the third mis-spelling of maybe I started to get a bit pissed off.#

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quote:Originally posted by Ghost 77:

Sorry, I would've read more but when i came to the third mis-spelling of maybe I started to get a bit pissed off.#

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There fixed.

And btw, post here if you have an opinion about it, I don't mind being corrected, but if you make a post, just to say you didn't read it entirly and that it's full of mistakes then go to B&M or Sperious.

Btw, I'm not English. I learned English Entirly from TV and I think I'm doing quite good at it.

quote:Originally posted by sybil:

I learned English Entirly from TV

Haha that's fucked up but well done.



As for the girl she sounds into you, so go for it!

I hope she's says yes to my proposition to go and have a chat. How should I ask, phone, msn, sms, email? I don't know?

quote:Originally posted by sybil:



I learned English Entirly from TV and I think I'm doing quite good at it.

You are doing quite good at it. If she's American it'll work out well.

i dunno... from the msn chat you posted, i get the impression that deep down, she knows that you like her, but doesn't "want to know", doesn't want to deal with it, doesn't want things to change between you.

Girls DO want their cake and eat it too. She's in a relationship where she's bored, when she hangs out with you she has fun and gets complimented, and yet she's not ready to start anything with you, or leave the guy she's with.

It's true that anything worthwhile is worth striving for, or as the Queens of the Stone Age said, "i want something good to die for, to give me something beautiful to live." At least be prepared for the possibility of a fall.

Such a common scenario - sigh - it is in no way anyone's fault, i think it is just the way that guys and girls differ (or one of the many - whatever). anyway i have seen it happen heaps. I will become really good mates with a guy. We will become really close and share everything. True, i might very occasionally consider what it would be like to be intimate with them; but as soon as it does happen, as soon as the guy makes that first move, it totally ruins it. I get angry at my guy mates at the first sign that they are thinking about something that is not totally (i think platonic is the word?). its frustrating, but it is how it works. us females loving have close male friends, but guys always seem to misinterpet our actions, body language, conversation etc. it sux.

i think the going out for drinks on sat is good

but don't scare her off by making it sound like a 'date'

just say 'hey wanna go to *name of bar* on sat? heard their specials kill'

and go from there...

usually girls say shit like 'ohhh i dunno blah...don't say it...i'll be shy' as a way of being coy, when in reality they're jumping with joy and self-congratulation for nabbing themselves a new one

ahem...not from personal experience of course

-Jenn

quote:Originally posted by roadside pickup:

Such a common scenario - sigh - it is in no way anyone's fault, i think it is just the way that guys and girls differ (or one of the many - whatever). anyway i have seen it happen heaps. I will become really good mates with a guy. We will become really close and share everything. True, i might very occasionally consider what it would be like to be intimate with them; but as soon as it does happen, as soon as the guy makes that first move, it totally ruins it. I get angry at my guy mates at the first sign that they are thinking about something that is not totally (i think platonic is the word?). its frustrating, but it is how it works. us females loving have close male friends, but guys always seem to misinterpet our actions, body language, conversation etc. it sux.

ooh, so what you're saying is that you actually play with guys feelings and then kindoff break em? I mean, you can't expect to be flirting with somebody for two weeks and then just say "ok I've had my fun, go away".

Anyway, How should I contact her? Btw, I'm from Belgium, not america.

Total doubt...

murder/suicide

why do they let people like you post here? Go to Sperious or B&M this is a serious forum.

she obviously never wants to see you again you stupid asshole, can't you see that?

give up now, because from what i can tell you probably smell like a rotten piece of dog shit.

Murder/Suicide

And you are...8?

I wouldn't see this going anywhere too quickly, unless you're willing to have a relationship with her before she dumps her boyfriend.

If you do go out to a bar, a few drinks may make her a little less shy on the spot, but it will be a lot less comfortable when she meets you.

If she doesn't want you to say, then she may be hoping that she's wrong and scared of where thing's might lead.

Just a few thoughts.

She's fuckin' playing you.... I have a similar story... about a year ago I was diggin' this chick Amanda... we were 'talkin' for a while.... so what's the normal time for 'talkin'? Two- three weeks? Well we were talkin for 3 months.

I keep talking to her, and start talking to a chick named Sarah. Amanda hada bf and was using me as a backup guy. If a chick is playing with you in any sort of way... get out now... the longer you talk with her the more you'll fall for her. Trust me. Sarah was the sweetest girl I've ever met... I almost screwed that up.. now I've been dating her for about 10 months. Every girl that has ever played with my emotions... It hasn't turned out good... and that's what she's doing with you.

Sooner or later you'll realize I'm right... but not face it and go into some type of denial until finally she calls everything off.

Either your e-mail was like not clear at all or either she's just a young stupid bitch. I mean, it's soooo obvious.

She says "I'm gonna be shy" WTF is that??? Are you guys like 12?

Read the posts afterwards, I'm not american, I had to translate everything myself, those may not be the exact words out of her mouth, but it came down to, that she would be shy. And I'm 19 and she's 17 almost 18.

Murder/Suicide

quote:Originally posted by TheDivineShaft:

Murder/Suicide

Like I said before, go play with your lego's

quote:Originally posted by sybil:

Like I said before, go play with your lego's

shut the fuck up asshat, this is my territory

Do you have anything to say, anything at all? Or do you just go around saying that you own this place. Really nice PACO, this has to be the most pathetic display of childish behavior I've ever seen...and in S&A none the less...

You're just a friend. Chance of success of forming a square relationship is probably about 5%. Failure though means about a 99% chance you will cease to be friends. I'm a risk taker though, that one in a million shot is always worth the risk, no matter how large it is.

Nah, I think I'll just say I want to stay friends and give it a shot later on, or when we're more at easy and by ourselves, up close and personal.

You have made yourself a new friend. Good for you. She will now procede to tell you all about the troubles she is having with the guy she is currently fucking.

By telling you she was having problems in her relationship she seemed to be sending you signals that maybe she needed out.

You didn't act on them, or didn't see mto read them, and now you are to forever be denied anything other than being a supportive, nurturing friend who will not get where you want to be.

If you want her as a friend, then good. But if you think you have a chance of getting anything else then I think you need to walk and not look back.

This one's after someone who knows what they want and doesn't fuck about in asking or taking it.

And god, if you are going to tell a woman how you feel about her have the balls to look at her when you do it.

quote:Originally posted by sybil:

Do you have anything to say, anything at all? Or do you just go around saying that you own this place. Really nice PACO, this has to be the most pathetic display of childish behavior I've ever seen...and in S&A none the less...

too long, didn't read.

thats odd i didnt know people actually say "???"

Chuck, you jackass, I love ya.

quote:Originally posted by chuckNrambo:

thats odd i didnt know people actually say "???"



Well, she didn't say it, like I said, it was a msn conversation ...

quote:Originally posted by sybil:

Nah, I think I'll just say I want to stay friends and give it a shot later on, or when we're more at easy and by ourselves, up close and personal.

you will fail dumbass

quote:Originally posted by TheDivineShaft:

you will fail dumbass

Interests: Trolling, flaming ppl, PWNING ppl.

You don't PWN shit! Exept maby your mom, but who hasn't owned her...

That's actually not the wisest thing to do. If you really want her and keep hanging round her it'll eat away at you, and then unless you're lucky you'll be branded 'friend, unfuckable.' If you want her, now is the time to make your move, or it'll be hard, but still doable.

What's wrong with you people, it's like, once you're a friend, you can't get out of what you've been branded, what a shamefull way to think...

Like I said, difficult, but very doable. I've done it before.

Maby when I get my car in a couple of days she'll think different

quote:Originally posted by sybil:

Interests: Trolling, flaming ppl, PWNING ppl.

You don't PWN shit! Exept maby your mom, but who hasn't owned her...

you spelled "maybe" wrong

quote:Originally posted by thedivineshaft:



you spelled "maybe" wrong

You forgot to use a capital at the start of your sentence and you forgot a point at the end of your sentence. Seriously, you suck at trying to "PWN". Don't do it anymore.

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quote:Originally posted by sybil:

You forgot to use a capital at the start of your sentence and you forgot a point at the end of your sentence. Seriously, you suck at trying to "PWN". Don't do it anymore.

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shut the Fuck up NOW you worthless piece of shit, ill PWN u anyday, anywhere. you have NO idea what your talking about an its starting to piss me off asshole.

Go home.

Go home and cry.

no one expects anything more.

ps. your gay

This isn't going anywhere. Now first, let's get some things straight. 1ste off, I haven't seen you "PWN" anybody, anywhere! 2nd, the things that you are doing, is just pointing out to people that you are beter at pwning or just some lame remark, but I've seen more people (including me) pwn you 10 tImes as hard. 3th off, next time you reply in one of my treads, I will simply ignore it and you will be talking to nothing but the walls, there is no reason for saying anything to you, because you don't listen to reason. Now I'm not expecting you to read this, because you would probably strain your brain. So, have a good life, and bye.

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quote:Originally posted by sybil:

I've seen more people (including me) pwn you 10 tImes as hard.

when?

where?

your full of shit.

quote:Orignally posted by sybil

3th off, next time you reply in one of my treads, I will simply ignore it and you will be talking to nothing but the walls,

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it took you this long to figure that out?

you must be a genius!!



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