well i never thought that i would be asking people on totse for help, but here i am.

So at highschool there was this girl named tegan and i liked her but i never said any thing about my feelings to her, i found out in year 9 that she liked my mate but he dosent like her and on many occasion when he was drunk he has told me to go out with tegan plainly for sex, she still like's him, i think.

While at school i was realy mean to her along with my mate kyle (the one she likes) and i made her cry, be saying that "KYLE DOSENT LIKE YOU" i wasent trying to make her cry it just happend.

so last night i was sitting here on the net and i got a sms it was from tegan and it said

"Hey Todd i just wanted to say that i don't hate you and i wish we could have been friends but we can tchange the past hey so have fun at tafe we are going To miss you so much hopefully i will see you around some time, well bye then"

any way today i rang her and we were just talking and i said to her, i know i was mean to you but you alwase were my friend, then we were talking about some other crap and then her battery ran out.

im not good with women im 15 and never had a girlfriend is there any thing i can do to get her to like me, because kyle wont go out with her because he dosent like her.

i need to somehow tell her that i wanna catch up with her (seem so i've left school now) without sounding like i wanna go out with her because it will most probaly scare her away

ive relised i realy like her, but i dont know what to do so please help me.

Ask her out for a lunch and a movie sometime.

You're her friend. That means you don't get to fuck her. Change this, or find another girl. I suggest the latter as it's much more likely to happen.

Well, first, don't do anything about your feelings twards her. Then seek advice from a bunch of anonymous creeps on the internet. Then discard any of the advice that they give you, even the good advice. Then wait for her to talk to you for about 3 years. Then rename yourself Infrared and bitch about how she crushed you for the next 5 years.

P.S. I'm just kidding. Like the other guy said, it's as simple as asking if she wants to go to a movie or something. Not necessarily a date, but something to break the ice. Oh, and don't let this "not necessarily a date" make your "frienship" any stronger. Let her know that you like her, but be subtle. A little flatter helps. A nonchalont seudo-sexual touch, you know.

P.P.S. No offense Infre. You know I love you and you know that I know that you know that I know that you have made a complete recovery from whatshernamethatyoubitchaboutallofthetime .

Ok, the answere to your question is to ask her to catch up some time... It's not very difficult.

If you want advice on how to sweet talk her, then you've come to the wrong place, trial and error is the only real way to learn. You may screw it up if you get it wrong, but at fifteen, no matter how much you like a girl that is the only real way to learn.

quote:Originally posted by Streetvision:

is there any thing i can do to get her to like me

This is the main problem of today's teenagers in terms of relationships. They all want to know how to get girls to like them. Most of the time this fails. Why? Becuase the girls like guys who are themselves, and not going to change just to get a hot girl, when the relationship will probably last only a few weeks anyway.

If you really want this girl, there are two things to have: confidence, and another girl who is attracted to you.

Studies have shown women are more likely to be attracted to more confident men, and women are 50-75% more likely to be attracted to someone when they have another women interested in them.

However if you really want to change yourself to get her to like you, then just find out what she is interested in; do the same stuff she does etc. Chances are she goes for people who do similar activities/hobbies to herself.

Hope this helps...

[This message has been edited by naive_wisdom (edited 12-16-2004).]

quote:Originally posted by Streetvision:

well i never thought that i would be asking people on totse for help, but here i am.

So at highschool there was this girl named tegan and i liked her but i never said any thing about my feelings to her, i found out in year 9 that she liked my mate but he dosent like her and on many occasion when he was drunk he has told me to go out with tegan plainly for sex, she still like's him, i think.

While at school i was realy mean to her along with my mate kyle (the one she likes) and i made her cry, be saying that "KYLE DOSENT LIKE YOU" i wasent trying to make her cry it just happend.

so last night i was sitting here on the net and i got a sms it was from tegan and it said

"Hey Todd i just wanted to say that i don't hate you and i wish we could have been friends but we can tchange the past hey so have fun at tafe we are going To miss you so much hopefully i will see you around some time, well bye then"

any way today i rang her and we were just talking and i said to her, i know i was mean to you but you alwase were my friend, then we were talking about some other crap and then her battery ran out.

im not good with women im 15 and never had a girlfriend is there any thing i can do to get her to like me, because kyle wont go out with her because he dosent like her.

i need to somehow tell her that i wanna catch up with her (seem so i've left school now) without sounding like i wanna go out with her because it will most probaly scare her away

ive relised i realy like her, but i dont know what to do so please help me.

dood, all you have to do is tell her you're sorry for saying that, and then be yourself.

If she doesn't want you for being you, then she's never going to want you.

And if she does want you for being you, then you've found the right girl.