So, My girlfriend gave me her password to her cell phone account online, because she wanted me to look over her bill and add text messaging service for her.

Well I was adding the service I happened upon some text messages that kinda irriated me. The one that bothered me the most was one to her ex. Some of you may recall a previous post I made about her ex being stuck to her. He wrote her a poem explaining how they were meant to be, and that he wants to be togehter with her later but the timing has to be right (they broke up in August).

He found out about me right before he sent her that poem, and he didnt talk to her for a couple of days, and was seriously mad at her. When he did come around to talk to her again, her away message was "work, where else" and he sent her an im saying "safe in my arms forever." Well I happened upon a text message she sent him which said "I didnt get it at first... but now I do. I miss ya... I promise we'll be together again if what we had was true love. xoxo"

Some of you claimed she is an attention whore.

Is this anything I need to worry about, or is it just her working her ex out of her system? (they dated for a year and a half and ended abruptly because she kissed me).

Is this safe for confronting her, I dont want it to seem like I was snooping. I seriously had to be in her text message box, and than saw one message that bothered me which led me to read others.

What do you all think?

Another scenario was this other guy, different from the ex, called her out of no where, because he just broke up with his girl and he wanted ass. I know for a fact she wants nothing to do with him. Well her friend sent her a message saying "I gotta tell you what this guy told me about you." So my girlfriend tried to call her friend, but she was already sleeping. So she told me about it, and I'm like the other guy probably wants ass. So she called him to see what he told her friend, and it was that he wanted to hook up with my girlfriend. So my girlfriend called me back and told me thats what it was, and that her friend already told the guy that she is dating me and that he has no chance.

Well I happened upon a message that my girl sent to her friend saying "I told my boyfriend about the guy who wants ass, but I also told him he knows about me and (my name) are togehter." the friend replied "why dont you tell people about you and (my name.)" My girl replied "Well (the other guy) knows the old (my name) and he will sit there and say shit I dont wanna hear." Her friend replied "Yeah that sounds like what (the other guys name) would do, I understand that.

As to what she is talking about, I used to be overweight, and I have since this guy last saw me lost a lot of weight.

What do you all think about that? Confrontable? Worth confronting?

Advice Apreciated...

uh....

dont worry about it, i guess

>bump<

Sounds to me like she wanted you to find these messeges.

No, I asked for the password so I could do the message thing for her. She really doesnt even know you can read messages online, when I tell her about it, it will be news to her.

I wouldn't hope for it to last very long. If you see things worsening, consider taking the initiative, and dump her.

She has cheated on someone before, she will do it again if she thinks it's a good idea.

Kill Yourself

quote:Originally posted by Local Hero:

She has cheated on someone before, she will do it again if she thinks it's a good idea.

dump her. move on.

Why the fuck do younger guys fuck themselves over by deciding to date the woman they stole? If she can be stolen from a year and a half relationship by one kiss, what the hell reason DO you have to trust her?

quote:Originally posted by Optimus Prime:

Why the fuck do younger guys fuck themselves over by deciding to date the woman they stole? If she can be stolen from a year and a half relationship by one kiss, what the hell reason DO you have to trust her?

Why don't you get some fucking balls? Tell her ex to fuck off. Tell your girlfriend you're not going to put up with her bullshit games; if she wants to be with you, she needs to quit acting suspiciously. Tell the other guy that wanted to bone her to fuck off. Be assertive! You sound like a pussy. Go ahead and confront her about the text messages. If she bitches about you "invading her privacy", explain in a relationship you shouldn't hide shit from each other. It's not that you trust her enough to let her keep secrets, it's that she doesn't trust you enough to share them with you. The biggest thing you have to lose isn't your girlfriend, it's your dignity.

Sounds to me like this relationship you have with her ain't gonna last.

She's blatently telling her ex that they will be together sooner or later if they really had love. I don't think she's trying to get him out of her life or she would have just deleted that message as soon as she recieved it.

As for the little horndog...Well...Now he knows you're with her so he hasn't got an excuse for not knowing.

If he tries again he's basically treating you like a cunt. That gives you the right to kick his head in.

My advice to you is change your mindframe. See this thing with her as a time killer, that she's not the one, so on and so forth.

When she eventually fucks about you won't care as much.

Believe me it helps.

All the best sunshine.

quote:Originally posted by Elephantitis Man:

get some fucking balls? Tell her ex to fuck off.

smart guy, listen to him!

DJ:

i was one, if not the first to call your girl an attention whore.

bro, shes more orless told him they are getting back together. you are being used, and have been used, since day one. you have seen the fucking test message yourself. get over your feelings and look at it like we are. YOUR TIME IS SOON TO BE OVER. what you do doesnt matter, shes already got your exit planned.

the above is the realistic look at things.

best case, if you could call it that, is that shes playing with this poor douchebags head. is that really a wholelot better for a girl you are taking serious? personally it doesnt make sense since if i recall the guys coming home for awhile. so i doubt its just a game.

bottom line, shes fucking with both of you. and she is becoming more convinced that her shit doesnt stink. thats shes just that damned good. that you and him are that damned dumb. and shes that damned slick at playing both of you.

id get the exs number. id call him and let him know everything. then, id drop the bomb on your GF. the ex sounds wormy enough to eat the shit anyway, but maybe not. dump this slut.

and id let her know, just in case shes feeling highly of her male manipulative powers, that if anyone gives you some shit... you might come back and rig a tripwire across her front or back door. maybe storm the house with a cut down shotgun and stalk room to room killing everything that breathes. even the pets, even a child. when you let someone know you are capable of taking things to that level, the headgames stop.

you wont have any more trouble with her after that.

quote: To djhypnotic:



You sound like somebody who I would beat the shit out of. First off, you had this girl cheat on her boyfriend. Lucky you, I'm not her boyfriend - otherwise the paramedics will still be picking up your teeth.



Secondly, you're a damn retard. You get with this girl - who you stole from some guy. This means she's a dumb bitch in the first place. And you expect this dumb bitch to stay loyal to you after she's ruined a year and a half long relationship because she can't stay loyal.

But, what I would do in your situation(however, I would never be there). I would lay back and keep watching her texts, if it seems she's going to leave you. I would leave her, and leave her a bad way (emotionally scar this dumb bitch).



Shek

[This message has been edited by Prince Charming (edited 12-16-2004).]

quote:Originally posted by Local Hero:

I wouldn't hope for it to last very long. If you see things worsening, consider taking the initiative, and dump her.

She has cheated on someone before, she will do it again if she thinks it's a good idea.

Well there are three probable situations:

A) You break up with her, she gets back with her ex

B) You dont, she cheats on you with her ex

C) You dont, she breaks up with you and gets back with her ex

Well I'm an optimistic fellow, arent I?

quote:Originally posted by djhypnotic:

...I happened upon some text messages that kinda irriated me....her away message was "work, where else"...he sent her an im saying "safe in my arms forever."...I happened upon a text message she sent him which said "I didnt get it at first... but now I do. I miss ya... I promise we'll be together again if what we had was true love. xoxo"...her friend sent her a message saying "I gotta tell you what this guy told me about you."...I happened upon a message that my girl sent to her friend saying "I told my boyfriend about the guy who wants ass, but I also told him he knows about me and (my name) are togehter." the friend replied "why dont you tell people about you and (my name.)" My girl replied "Well (the other guy) knows the old (my name) and he will sit there and say shit I dont wanna hear." Her friend replied "Yeah that sounds like what (the other guys name) would do, I understand that...

You are fucking neurotic. Seek help.

P.S. Dump girlfriend.

The best way to get under the skin of an attention whore like this girl is indifference. If you confront her and get angry about the messages then you're playing into her hand and giving her the attention she's after. If you ignore the messages and continue to dote on her then she continues to think she's got everything in her control.

The thing to do is just walk out on the bitch, and don't look back. Don't let her think you give two shits about her, or leaving her. Let her know you don't consider her even worth an explanation. Just walk.