OK so I've been going out with this girl for about a month, because she lives reasonably far away and work has been really busy for both of us we haven't spent that much time together but we've slept round each others a couple of times.

The problem is besides kissing we have done NOTHING sexual, she seems to have real issues with sexual contact. She has really conservative views on sex (she thinks one night stands should be outlawed!).

I've spoken to her about it and she has some issues (some cunt tried to rape her), plus she's still a virgin so I'm presuming she's pretty inexperienced with the whole thing. When we were in bed she wouldn't let me touch her bare stomach, although I think thats because shes really self conscious about her body.

I don't think its to do with me because she's been out with at least 8 other guys before me.

I don't want to pressure her into anything, but sexual contact is a healthy part of a relationship and I think because she's never done it she doesn't know what she's missing out on. What should I do? I suppose talking to her about it is always the best thing but do you think she'll come around, why might she be like this?

This is how some people are. Including myself. I don't think you shoudl expect anything, because you will be dissapointed. Just enjoy being with her. If you want sex, your with the wrong person.



PS: In my opinion; Yes, sex is a healthy part of a relationship. A married relationship.

You should figure out what exactly is it you want. Otherwise she won't be the only one hurting. I guarentee you.

[This message has been edited by Psychotogen (edited 12-13-2004).]

Just give her some time, you said you 2 have only been goin out for a month which isn’t that long. If someone has tried to rape her then she defiantly has some issues about sex (not pressuring her into doing stuff is probably best). Try words of encouragement about her body and how great you think it looks, and for god sake please try to sound sonsier about it. Just be patient, she should come round slowly.

If you want sex then it's kinda obvious this girl isn't gonna be the one to do it with you.

As you said she is very conservative. Even if she did eventually go for it with you, she wouldn't be very good at it. Anything other than the regular is a big no no!

Plus she's a virgin so the first few times will be slow and all that crapola.

If I were you I'd just enjoy my time with her and put sex out of mind. If you like her enough you can do that easily.

If, however, sex is what you are aiming for, move on because this bird ain't the one for you!

Thanks for the advice guys, I'll just take your advice psycho I'll just enjoy spending time with her, i'm sure theres more to a relationship than sticking your dick in a girl

quote:i'm sure theres more to a relationship than sticking your dick in a girl

true..there's lots of other interesting things you could stick in her

quote:Originally posted by psycho_8b:

If you want sex then it's kinda obvious this girl isn't gonna be the one to do it with you.

I'd save myself the trouble and move on, yeah. Nonetheless, I've heard so many bullshit lies from girls about how they want to wait [this long], only to see them fucking like jackrabbits in a fraction of that time.

Maybe she has issues about sex; maybe she has issues about sex with you.