I need a little help figuring something out that is tearing me apart. There is this chick I have always known, but never really knew as a person; and recently I just started chilling with her and stuff a lot, it just sort of started happening. I have had a crush on her forever, and after spending more time with her I honestly can't stop thinking about her. The problem is she has a boyfriend - who just so happens to be away at rehab for awhile. I feel like she might be interested in me, maybe I am just wishing, but there is definitely some tension when I'm with her, just the way she is willing to talk and open up to me, and me to her, but then there is this wall in the conversation where it feels like something is left unsaid, and we could be just sitting there kicking it to some music silently for awhile.



I wish I could tell her how I feel, but it just seems too risky given the circumstances. I can't imagine her boyfriend approving of her chilling with me the way we have been, and he comes home soon, so I am a little worried about what is going to happen to my chances at even a friendship with this girl. The thing is, she was so determined to pick him up from rehab a couple weeks ago, saying she was going no matter what and all that, and a day or so ago she was saying how she "didn't have to" pick him up now because his parents were, as if it was a chore or something.

Having said all that, I just need to know what I should do. I could put a strain on a lot of my friendships if I mess this up, we are definitely friends with a lot of the same people even though we never really chilled before recently. But, I can't stop thinking about her, wondering if she has any idea how I feel for her.

[This message has been edited by bodeezlo (edited 12-12-2004).]

If you make a move on her, be prepared for the reprocussions.

Let's say you hit it off with this girl and go out for a year, then you have to go somewhere for a while and some guy hits on her while you're away, how would YOU feel.

The same thing is happening with my g/f, there's this guy who has a huge crush on her and when I'm away they hang out, it pisses me the hell off and I'm going to rape this guy and his house soon. Don't make any moves until they break up, just like the other guy said, how would you feel if someone did this to you. Also, your going to get raped if you try anything anyway, it's not like most guys don't fight back.

Don't do anything until they split, actually don't even hang out that much until they do. For the good of her boyfriend. If he's in rehab the poor guy is obviously trying to get his life back on track. If he comes home and finds out that his women has been cheating on him, he's not really going to stay on track is he. If the girl sees how bad he gets because of what she did, she won't be too happy either, and you as her boyfriend (if you last) will have to put up with her going around to see him and looking after him and possibly cheating on you with him because she may still have feelings. It creates a mess that noone needs. Plus anyone that cheats or takes part in cheating is scum. That means you'd be scum for doing something with her, and you'd have scum as a girlfriend because she cheats. Hell, I think you're scum for hanging out with her and wanting her when she has a boyfriend. Theres plenty of single girls, stop being a baby and wanting the most expensive toy for your birthday. You can find a single girl that is better than this girl, I gaurantee. If you don't try, your scum.

Run away little man, run far into the hills.

quote:Originally posted by Fridgeseal:

Don't do anything until they split, actually don't even hang out that much until they do. For the good of her boyfriend. If he's in rehab the poor guy is obviously trying to get his life back on track. If he comes home and finds out that his women has been cheating on him, he's not really going to stay on track is he. If the girl sees how bad he gets because of what she did, she won't be too happy either, and you as her boyfriend (if you last) will have to put up with her going around to see him and looking after him and possibly cheating on you with him because she may still have feelings. It creates a mess that noone needs. Plus anyone that cheats or takes part in cheating is scum. That means you'd be scum for doing something with her, and you'd have scum as a girlfriend because she cheats. Hell, I think you're scum for hanging out with her and wanting her when she has a boyfriend. Theres plenty of single girls, stop being a baby and wanting the most expensive toy for your birthday. You can find a single girl that is better than this girl, I gaurantee. If you don't try, your scum.

Run away little man, run far into the hills.



Ah, perfectly said. Hang out with single girls, don't fuck with this guy's g/f.

It seems like you're both uncomfortable about how you both feel.

If she really means this much to you, you have to go for it.

you could fill your life with 'what if's' and live a very regret filled life,

or you could try it now and be able to live with yourself for not being totaly gutless.

Alright well I guess I should elaborate. Her boyfriend isn't in rehab due to choice or necessity, hes just a fuck up who got sent there because he got in trouble with the courts for failing a drug test. He also is probably one of the biggest scum bags I've known, and hes definitely fucking this girl up.

If he's a scum bag, then go for it. I was off thinking he was a nice guy and all, but he still might beat the shit out of you if you try anything. Messing with a drugged up scum bag isn't the greatest of ideas. But if you really like this girl enough, then do it.