I've been with my girlfriend for about 4 months now, she broke up with her old boyfriend right before we started dating. She wanted to break up with him, so she kissed me, which gave her an excuse to end it with him, and they did. Well like I said its been four months, and her ex is still stuck on her. He calls her pretty much every single day. I know sometimes he complains like "I dont wanna know how your out with your new boyfriend (me) and how great things are." So he will stop calling for awhile... Then he will start up again, and do it all over again.

He just recently wrote her a poem and mailed it to her house cause he is away at school; coming home in a week. She let me read it and the cover letter just as long as I promised not to get mad, it was all about how their relationship first started, all the way till it ended. In the cover letter he explained how hard its been for him, and how he can see them together later but the timing has to be right, and he doesnt know how long they can last as just friends. He still calls her like everyday, and I know they talk for awhile.

When I ask her how she felt after reading the poem and note she replied "Note or no note doesnt matter to me, I honestly dont care. I just dont get why he cant still be my friend if he finds someone else." So Im not to worried about it now, but I know he is going to stick around to always try and weasel his way in, its such an annoyance. The other troublesome part is the fact that she calls him often, like after I drop her off or she gets home, I get the goodnight call and so does he. Or the "on the way home from work call" we both get it. Its almost like she is dating him too cause off all the effort he has to put in, and I know he is trying to get her back.

It’s the only guy I worry about, just because of the circumstances. What If anything can I do about this? Its not like I can tell him to back off really, because the fact remains that she kissed me right before they broke up. And he is coming home for break next week so Im sure its gonna get worse.



[This message has been edited by djhypnotic (edited 12-10-2004).]

[This message has been edited by djhypnotic (edited 12-10-2004).]

Sounds like he's needy and your girlfriend's a whore.

I wouldn't worry about it. Probably nothing will come of it. You might want to kick his ass just for fun, though.

OK, I have to...

@the title of the post: get a crowbar and some vaseline.

well, id say get his number and call him up. dont act all macho faggoty, just tell him the situation, that you have anal sex with her on a regular basis, and she is pregnant by you. then its simply a matter of kicking his arse really good and thorough when he comes to town, to hammer the point in that final notch. then hopefully he'll commit suicide, and you can have greiving sex with her. also, take photos of his beating.

oh, and i realize you cant get a chick up the duff with anal sex, so jsut throw in some orgies in your story.

If your girlfriend is calling the other guy, she's a slut and she's banging him on the side (or planning to). Deep six her and find another bitch.

Obviously still likes him eh?

It's got to be ultimatum time.

Him or me?

If it's you, then she has to stop calling the other guy, who will soon get the message.

If not, lose her quickly.

Easy.

Here endeth the lesson.

I've been there mate, believe me.

quote:Originally posted by Doug:

Obviously still likes him eh?

It's got to be ultimatum time.

Him or me?

If it's you, then she has to stop calling the other guy, who will soon get the message.

If not, lose her quickly.

Easy.

Here endeth the lesson.

I've been there mate, believe me.



I dont know about doing the "him or me". Do what I do, I am in the same situation. If you read my "Women are Evil" thread you know I just got fucked over, but I got a girl now who just dumped her bf to be with me, and she still talks to him and hangs out with him as friends, and I act like I couldnt care less. Infact when I call her up and she is like he calls me, wants to hang out, Iam like go for it, I dont expect you just cut him off after dating for 6 months. And she gets all mad, and like why dont you care about me, you dont care if I hang out with him. I say I care but Iam not going to control you. And I think it makes her not wanna hangout wiht that guys, cause I just dont care, and instead she wants to hangout with me.

My dad gave me this analyge(cant spell)that women and men are like magnets. The closer you try to get the further shes ganna push aways, if you pull away shes going to pull towards you.

So act like you dont care, call up an X of your own and chill with her, make sure your girl finds out. If she throws a fit tell her shes doing the same shit. But when you push away, make sure you dont do it to much where she thinks you dont care about her at all.

Good luck.

quote:Originally posted by Tikolx333:

I say I care but Iam not going to control you. And I think it makes her not wanna hangout wiht that guys, cause I just dont care, and instead she wants to hangout with me.

Nice! She's trying to test you, to see if she can get you to be jealous. You did the right thing.

They were going out for a year and a half before they broke up, and I guess I cant expect her to cut off all ties. But he is pushing so hard for them to get back together, I know he will try anything. I m not quite sure how to instill the fact that I dont like her talking to him as much as she does, cause she'll just play it off as if she just wants to be friends with him (which may or may not be true). And If i act like it doesnt bother me, I know she will still keep talking to him cause he will still keep calling her.

Also I wanted to add, that everytime he says he doesnt wanna talk to her anymore like when he found out about me, she does not call him. It takes him about a week and he calls her back.

I've already told her that "I'm a guy and I know what he is trying to do speech," Ive alreadya acted disinterested, and the problem still persists.

I guess the biggest thing that is she talks to him way to much, and quite frankily I dont trust the other guy one bit. What to do, what to do?

[This message has been edited by djhypnotic (edited 12-10-2004).]

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i like to keep in touch with my exs too. so i cant fault her there, but...

the goodnight phone calls, the calls on the way in to work or whatever. him pushing so hard to get back with her.

these are things that would test anyone. and they are constant. it sounds to me that shes an attention whore. shes loving all this attention, and i dare say she likes the attentin more than either one of you.

it doesnt look good. do i think shell fuck him? could easily happen.

do i think that this will continue to be a problem in your relationship? an unqualified yes.

anyone who rings her bells and pays attention to her.... they have a good to likely chance of nailing her. ive been down this road bro, im not just talking out of my ass.

i would suggest strongly, that you evacuate the premisis when it comes to her. but, dont drop her till after her sicko ex is gone. no reason for him to get windfall pussy on your back so to speak.

i can promise, this will not end well.

Well thats definetly not a ray of sunlight type answer, but its your opinion and I understand given the scenario it makes sense.

I like it think me and her are going to last, and regardless of if we do or not, I know this is going to be an ungoing problem in our relationship. Is it something I can address with her, or If I choose to stay with her, I have to just deal with?

I can see why you're worried about it, it'd be a lot of things to take on board.

Perhaps though it's best to not become insecure about it, maybe you could become a friend of the guy, really make attempts to hang out with him all the time - perhaps it would chase him off the scene or give him the idea that you aren't so bad and that he was doing the wrong thing to steal her away.

Though, I don't like the sound of this girl. Sounds like she loves attention more than she's letting on.

quote:Originally posted by djhypnotic:

Well thats definetly not a ray of sunlight type answer, but its your opinion and I understand given the scenario it makes sense.

I like it think me and her are going to last, and regardless of if we do or not, I know this is going to be an ungoing problem in our relationship. Is it something I can address with her, or If I choose to stay with her, I have to just deal with?

lets go about this logically:

i think we can all agree shes all about the attention. she might like drama too, that i dunno. but she LOVES attention.

so, lets say she nothing happens with this guy. there will be someone else who catches her eye. all he has to do is flirt with her a bit, give her some attention, and shell be bent over the nearest chair or table in no time.

you have to look a bit far into the future. itsbetter to get out while the gettings good, than hang around and get your teeth kicked in.

yu might have to learn this one the hardway. but trust me, women driven by a need for attention dont care about anyone but themselves. and that fits this chick to a tee.

quote:Originally posted by The_Rabbi:

your girlfriend's a whore.

You might want to kick his ass.