Im up at college.. and im supposed to come back friday.It seem's I can't make it but I have a date with this girl who I like alot and have gone on two dates with already..The problem with her is she takes everything to hurt and seems to have to have her things her way always! Im not sure how she will take me not coming back into town and taking her out..whenever she asks what I did the night before shes always like ''hung out with so and so.. i bet theres alot of hot chicks there''

Now what should I do with this situation??

She's insecure and lacks self-esteem. She makes those "you must've seen a lot of hot chicks" cracks because she:

-Doesn't think she's hot

-Is afraid you'll dump her for the first "better" chick you run into

-Is competitive with and jealous of other chicks, when it comes to these things (like all the rest)

-Probably really does think you're a nut because you like her

Part of this is normal teenage chick-angst, but the other part is likely something deeper-seated. She most likely spent her formative years being teased a lot for her looks and otherwise denigrated and made to feel inadequate, and thus she gives other people the ability to compromise her self-esteem and make her question herself on many/all levels. This is likely why "everything hurts her" and why I'd wager she's usually a depressive, unreasonable wreck of a woman who you really have a hard time relaxing around and who likely ends up depressing you as well.

In short, she needs to learn to love herself before she can love someone else, and if you think I might be right about her, I suggest you seriously reconsider things with her, because you likely won't be the thing that changes her; the person that somehow finally gets her to understand herself and find her way out of the darkness. Hell, that person might not be anyone but her. Or it could be a guy named Jerry that manages to charm his way into her pants and make her feel as if he sees her as anything more than a fucktoy (by saying the right things). Her and Jerry will fuck and your heart will be broken, but later, your girl will crawl back to you and tell you you were right about him and that you're what she was looking for all along (maybe). Even so, don't you DARE take her back. That is, if any of this even happens - hopefully you guys will work things out and be happy together instead of killing each other inside thanks to the various pathological aspects of yourselves and the way you effect each other.

Good luck, man.

quote:Originally posted by TheTroubleMayn:

Im up at college.. and im supposed to come back friday.It seem's I can't make it but I have a date with this girl who I like alot and have gone on two dates with already..The problem with her is she takes everything to hurt and seems to have to have her things her way always! Im not sure how she will take me not coming back into town and taking her out..whenever she asks what I did the night before shes always like ''hung out with so and so.. i bet theres alot of hot chicks there''

Now what should I do with this situation??

She just broke up with her b/f of a year like a month ago.Also she told me she had sex with him but later recanted saying he only got it 1/4th in then it hurt.. so they never tried again...

What's your point?

quote:Originally posted by TheTroubleMayn:

She just broke up with her b/f of a year like a month ago.Also she told me she had sex with him but later recanted saying he only got it 1/4th in then it hurt.. so they never tried again...

*erhem* rebound guy

Best to treat her gently.

Be kind, although not a complete lap dog, and then leave the ball in her court. Let her chase you.

If she wants it, she'll come calling.

Deffo.