This is just great. How about some background info, on yet another long rant to the fellow members of totse. It's a periodical thing, we all do it every so often, because it feels good to let it all out to strangers.



Anyway, last year I was fat. 40 pounds overweight, I had long greasy hair, and had just gotten out of a relationship with a stupid slut who I tricked myself into thinking was wonderful.

Basically, I was getting nothing. No girls were into me, despite the fact that I played guitar, listened to interesting music, read, watched interesting movies, was smart, and had an imagination. So, I figured it was the appearance to an extent.

Therefore, I lost 40 pounds. Did it healthy, and did it right. I did it for me and for my self confidence. After the big drop, I cut my hair, which really pissed some people off. It was such a big thing with the guys, and the new people I would meet that I was kind of known for it. But it needed to be done. And, wouldn't you know, I was hot.

Girls started saying it, and when I'd walk into the room, my one friend(a chick), would go "John is officially the hottest guy in the room right now". I look good now, and it's the first time I've been able to say that all my life so shut up.

But, still nothing. So, I started to communicate more, I went out more, I talked on the computer with people. I couldn't find anyone though. I guess my type just isn't what you typically find among 16 year olds. Ya know, an imaginative girl who's at least somewhat smart and good looking. But, as I talked more, I began to ask people.

"if you see someone who might look good for me, tell me"

or I'd talk to someone about relationship troubles and I started getting "I'm unnatainable", I'm "too good for everyone". And, not in the way I act, just that I'm "hard to get". Now, I'm very open to a relationship and I fucking hate myself 90% of the time, so I just don't get it.

Nobody sees me as an option, and that's why I don't get the same amount of attention from all them as a lot of other guys do.

But, it's still my fault I think. I don't whore myself out, I look for the right girl and don't just go for anyone. But, even after finding a girl with all the qualities I wanted, she didn't fit.

So here I am, a year since I've had any relationship(and it was a short one with a stupid whore), and I'm fucking lonely.

Every girl seems to be catching my eye, and it's just because I'm desperate for someone, which isn't a good thing. I don't want to wake up one day feeling different about someone than I did the night before. I don't want to hurt people, but I just feel that it's what I really need right now.

Bleh, cry me a river.



How do I become more attainable, and find more girls better suited for me?

Go somewhere you wouldn't usually go, find a nice girl, and strike up a conversation. Do this often. If by the time one of you is going to leave you are ready to ask her out, then you should.

You need to diversify your experiences. If you aren't finding what you want, go somewhere else. Get to know people and find out what you REALLY want as opposed to what you PERCEIVE you want.

The only way you'll ever get a girl is by going out and looking for one. If you let them come to you they won't be what you're wanting, so instead you need to take the initiative.

You say you're hot, well good, that's a nice start. Have some self-confidence, not too much, and use that to make yourself more attractive.

Relax, just go out and meet people. You'll learn more about yourself through these interactions, and you'll be able to find new girls to be around.

Try it and see how it works.

quote:was a short one with a stupid whore

thats your problem kiddo, right there.

change your attitude

Well she was, but I was desperate and stupid back then and never realized it until it was too late. I don't feel that way about all women, and I accept that none are perfect. I guess I'm kinda picky though, not too much. I'll take the first person's advice(thanks).

Maybe yours if you can elaborate.

quote:I don't feel that way about all women, and I accept that none are perfect.

thats mighty generous of you...

damn i just can't understand how any woman could resist such a charmer.

I didn't mean it like that. I thought you meant that I was too picky. I was just stating that I'm not, and that was an exception.

The girl screwed me over big time too. So all guys who say that about an ex are bad?

Well, as the unfair stereotypes go, women are 'arrogant', so they may not get what you mean. Because, although you have perfectly fair reasoning, don't ever say "I accept all women are not perfect" to a woman. It's uncharming, and, although blatantly true and fair, not what a person likes to hear. I'd recommend the thing about meeting new people, and you could always try just asking someone out on your own initiative.

no cookie i was'nt saying you were too picky. i was saying that if you look average ok and wash at least once a week then the reason you are still alone is that your attitude/personality sucks.

and if i understood you aright then that 'stupid whore' still slept with you when you were a fat grease ball.

Ahem. I'm a virgin. She didn't sleep with me, and I wouldn't have wanted her to.

I get what you're saying though. I just wonder what it is about my personality, and it seems to be that I just don't come off as very open towards the whole dating scene. So I guess I'll go meet some new people.

you need confidence.

Confidence is a must. Also, it sounds as if your waiting for a girl to just walk by and ask YOU out. Like said above, take the initiative and go meet some people.

No, you are UNATTAINABLE...

...moron.

Oh, I'm sorry. Didn't realize that spelling a word wrong made you an idiot. Not to mention that word isn't exactly common. Stop being a jerkoff.



Thanks for any advice given in this thread.

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