hi dudes

(might be a bit long, sorry :/)

ive know this chick for like 3 yrs but i havent seen her for about 9 months or so (although we used to chat on msn alot). the reason i havent seen her for a long time is that she has gone away to college and left the place where we used to work together.

any how a bit of history.. as far as i know we almost hooked up with each other but i was too dumb and waited like a pussy to see if it was the real thing. we used to text message each other / chat on msn / see each other every weekend and just chat to each other and no one else. she also made it a little obvious that she liked me but i realised this too late.

so then it eventually happend - when bitches turn cold on you ( guys know what i mean here ). i was like wtf? why doesnt she talk to me anymore / text message me / call/ etc etc...

i figure she lost interest and stuff and moved on :/

she wouldnt talk to me on msn, infact she would ignore me and had not text messaged me in months

so i said "let it be" and stopped communications aswell. ( deleted her numbers,messages, blocked + removed her from msn and eventually erased her from my memory , it took alot of time and weed though )

i was gonna go shopping in the city her college is in ( nice shops there ) and she told me to give her a call when i was there. but i never did.

so anyway its been one whole month or so since i spoke to her ( fone , text msg , msn) and thank god its been 1 month at least since ive thought about her ( it was really hard to stop thinking of her ).

about this chick...

she is hot and she knows it. before she left high school she won "best dressed individual" , everyone liked her, and she really knows how to play guys. im sure she has a few guys chasing her, i know of atleast one.

anywayz ....

last nite while i was asleep i recieve a text message from someone.

suprise suprise its her

"hi there,what you doin love?,kim"

damn this has me confused :/

after completey cutting me off for months and ignoring me and shit, why the text message out-of-the-blue?

could it be

1.) she is just saying hi

2.) she came back from clubbin kinda drunk and didnt know what she was doing

3.) she really wants a hot sinful rubberry monkey sex butt-fuckin from me

4.)some other shit.



my question to totse pimps / pimpess's is

what is my next step... usually i wud message her back straight away and be like "good doggie" with my tounge waggin out

:/

but not no more, my balls are grown

i also know that it really cuts her up if you dont reply to her text messages.( iv done this to her in the past )

my question to totse pimps / pimpess's is

why did she do this? what does this text really mean?, what do i do next?

im not really bothered if i get with her now, but then again this bitch is hot so my mind is open.

next step please

id say its maybe 1 and/or 2.

i doubt shes come to any realizations bro. i wouldnt get excited, and personally id strongly urge against contacting her.

she [rudely it sounds like] exited you out of her life for a reason. i doubt, if there was anything to rekindle, that its happened.

let it pass, and move onward.

thx for the nice reply dude

yeah fuck it, forget messaging her back.

like method man said in make-ups to break-ups "Like you want somfin from meth / i hope it aint love girl / cos i aint got none left for you, plus u miserable. "

i wasnt sure if i should contact her, now i definatly wont.

'I havent thought about her in well over a month..'

And then you proceed to write a painfull long thread aaaaaall about her.



You're smitten,arent you?



If she means this much to you,text her back,try to get the relationship together again.



When you're older, it's not the things you did you you'll regret,but the things you didnt.

quote:Originally posted by yoyobek:

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When you're older, it's not the things you did you you'll regret,but the things you didnt.[/B]

I hate that saying, there are a million things I'v done and regtered, and alot less things I regret not doing. Oh and, I COULD KICK YOUR ASS!

quote:Originally posted by PagetoPageIsBack:

I hate that saying, there are a million things I'v done and regtered, and alot less things I regret not doing. Oh and, I COULD KICK YOUR ASS!

How's it feel to be a moron? Do you really get to have a shit-eating grin all the time? It sounds like you have a fun time being blissfully ignorant.

quote:Originally posted by yoyobek:

'I havent thought about her in well over a month..'

And then you proceed to write a painfull long thread aaaaaall about her.



You're smitten,arent you?



If she means this much to you,text her back,try to get the relationship together again.



When you're older, it's not the things you did you you'll regret,but the things you didnt.

damn yoyobek, you got it in one. yes i was very smitten with her. lovesick even. id be lieing in bed looking at the ceiling thinking of her. id think of her 24/7. she had totally owned me.

but i dont think i will text message her back. if she really is interested she will do something else to get my attention.

like nihlism said i should not contact her,maybe move on, i dunno, fuck it i dont care :/

what would you think if you text msged a guy u were close with at one point and then he didnt reply? i mean from a chicks point of view

quote:Originally posted by unl0ved:

what would you think if you text msged a guy u were close with at one point and then he didnt reply? i mean from a chicks point of view

What if that's happening from her point of view? Since you didn't text her back, or call her when you were in town like you said you would. All out of a desire to avoid the possibility of being hurt.

Look at it this way, you say you guys have already sort of lost contact. In that, you don't talk all the time like you used to to the point of not speaking to her for a month. There's a chance that she's into you and not wanting to be to forward since you didn't reciprocate when she thought you would and doesn't want to be rejected (just like you don't want to be rejected). So if you take a stab at it, there's a chance that she's doing the same thing as you in the name of uncertainty and will be glad you took initiative and start a sweet relationship with you.

Besides, even if the feeling isn't mutual and you don't become involved with her, you'll be in the exact same situation that you are in now. What have you lost? Nothing.

quote:Originally posted by I_Like_Traffic_Lights:

How's it feel to be a moron? Do you really get to have a shit-eating grin all the time? It sounds like you have a fun time being blissfully ignorant.

What? I missed that...

I know how confusing this must all be for you unl0ved.

You've got 2 options, when it comes down to it.

As said already you should probably move on. You grew apart and got over her once,trying to revive the relationship now will do nothing but hurt. Alot



But then....

You could try to contact her again, because you really dont know if she's feeling the same way about you or not.

And how will you know untill you talk to her?

quote:Originally posted by unl0ved:



what would you think if you text msged a guy u were close with at one point and then he didnt reply? i mean from a chicks point of view



This has happened to me many times more than I can bear to talk about.

I remember getting the courage to text someone I'd been obsessed with for months, and then sitting on my bedroom floor staring at my phone waiting for him to reply.

And waiting.

And waiting.



And it's not true, ' if she really is interested she will do something else to get my attention.'.

No.

Getting the courage to text someone from the past is hard.

If you dont reply, she'll assume you've lost interest,got a new phone, fallen in love with someone else, moved house,moved town, dont want to know,dont care.

And she'll feel hurt and sad.

And then she'll put on her nice clothes, go to a club, and try to get over the pain, and in time she will.

But she'll never forget you totaly.



This is why I say do the things you want to while you can.

Yes perhaps you'll regret some of the stuff you did in the past, perhaps going fishing in Bristol Docks wearing 6inch heels wasnt the best of ideas,

but where love is concerned, you just have to do what your heart tells you.

If you dont Text her now, consider the relationship the two of you had to be utterly over. And then move on.

^

amen, yoyo

thx for the reply yo.

damn i never thought of it that way.

time to hit the bong, i can think straight then heh

this chick had no problems ignoring him and letting him slip away, and all of a sudden shes gonna do a 180? not likely.

bro, life is not a fucking after school tv movie special. forget these guys, theyd damn near tell you to walk in front of a swat team for love.

let sleeping dogs sleep.

true true.

i didnt reply to her.

fuck it , if she wants to get in touch she will. otherwise im not bothered no more.