tonight my girlfriend of 15 months was over. everything was going fine as it usually does. we were kind of joking around and kissing and stuff. i then hear my dad call me, he needed help carrying a new shower he bought into the house. when i came back to the basement, i found my gf snooping through my internet history. there were a few porn sites in it, and she went crazy. she told me i was a disgusting pervert and stormed out the house and walked all the way home in the snow.(i chased her with my car, but she would not let me drive her) i found out later that she cut her arm up and stuff. i just wondered if going to porn sites is really that bad? if it is i am going to stop immediately. or is she just crazy?



[This message has been edited by FatChicksDoAnything (edited 12-01-2004).]

neither. girls dealing with guys and porn is something most girls have to learn...they don't normally just know what all is involved and how it affects them.

Heh, man if i where you i would give that bitch the boot. Not only is she cutting her self, she is going crazy over a normal thing. now those are signs of someone being NOT normal. There really ins't much for me to say here, but if you still wanna keep someone like that, tell her it is a natural thing. Now if this porn was like scat fetish, then yeah i could see why. but if it was only lesbians or somthing, your must have some jelousy issues, or is really insecure (sp?) about the relationship.

im normal? thats great. ill have to talk to her about it, but i feel dirty/weird if i defend my porn habits

You reacted in just the way she hoped you would.

Firstly, she was snooping through your personal computer files. What do you think she was looking for? Evidence of course.

And she found some. And got pissed. And left.

She shouldn't have been looking through there in the first place, you have every right to be pissed off that she did that, so maybe you should be the one to tell her that what she did was wrong.

God, never chase after her trying to make things alright again. Let her get over it - this is her problem with porn, not yours. If she wants to talk about it with you then let her; otherwise just live your life the way you want to.

This should teach her a lesson. Sometimes it's best not to look to hard at what someone does when they are alone. The results are damn near always what you don't want them to be.

she sounds overly high-maintainance and really out there to me...



I mean it's one thing to be a bit disturbed over your BF getting off over something other than you, but those kinds of drama-queen antics are a bad sign.

If she pulls that shit over something that minor god help you if you ever really fuck up.

What a melodramatic priss. She needs to calm down.

Ask her to explain in her position and then tell her why she's a dumbshit.

quote:Originally posted by Somniak:

You reacted in just the way she hoped you would.

Firstly, she was snooping through your personal computer files. What do you think she was looking for? Evidence of course.

And she found some. And got pissed. And left.

She shouldn't have been looking through there in the first place, you have every right to be pissed off that she did that, so maybe you should be the one to tell her that what she did was wrong.

God, never chase after her trying to make things alright again. Let her get over it - this is her problem with porn, not yours. If she wants to talk about it with you then let her; otherwise just live your life the way you want to.

This should teach her a lesson. Sometimes it's best not to look to hard at what someone does when they are alone. The results are damn near always what you don't want them to be.

Excellent response, I find that in alot of situations women do stuff like that just to fuck with men. You responded in the "typical man" way she was expecting you to; you went out on a big macho, romantic chase to hopefully make up with your girl. Bad decison. Next time if the bitch wats to walk home, let her. The next day phone her and tell her If she really want to continute this relationship she'll have to accept me for who you are. Which includes a "disgusting pervert" (something every man is if looking at porn consitiutes perversion)

If i had a girlfriend that wouldnt let me look at porn i would either hide it from her or dump her.

WOW, off porn, she thinks SHE is not good enough for you.

and the reason why she cut herself is because its ,"Pain on Pain"

my girlfriend has done it a couple of times.

Jesus, that's over the top. She was probably looking for attention, which she received.

I watch porn with my bf, it isn't a big deal to me. I know he watches it regularly, I know he masturbates regularly too. Oh Fuckin' Well.

She just wanted attention is my theory.

how did that one guy say it?

....yours is defective, get a new one.......

some girls may find it offensive because it hints that they're "not enough"

especially girls with low self esteems

i don't particularly mind it, however if that's all he wants and none of me, then i'd be upset too

doesn't sound like that's the case here

let her know it just relieves some pressure and stress. heck, maybe even mention her trying it sometime

you never know

quote:Originally posted by Saline Colors:

Jesus, that's over the top. She was probably looking for attention, which she received.

I watch porn with my bf, it isn't a big deal to me. I know he watches it regularly, I know he masturbates regularly too. Oh Fuckin' Well.

She just wanted attention is my theory.

that's like me, i actually find interesting porn and sent it to my bf, not big deal, guys are guys, if they like porn, fine whatever. this girl though... damn, i think you should explain it to her like other people said, so that she understands. i don't understand how you went out for 15 months without this ever coming up in anyway. :/

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typo.



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quote:Originally posted by FatChicksDoAnything:

tonight my girlfriend of 15 months was over. everything was going fine as it usually does. we were kind of joking around and kissing and stuff. i then hear my dad call me, he needed help carrying a new shower he bought into the house. when i came back to the basement, i found my gf snooping through my internet history. there were a few porn sites in it, and she went crazy. she told me i was a disgusting pervert and stormed out the house and walked all the way home in the snow.(i chased her with my car, but she would not let me drive her) i found out later that she cut her arm up and stuff. i just wondered if going to porn sites is really that bad? if it is i am going to stop immediately. or is she just crazy?



[This message has been edited by FatChicksDoAnything (edited 12-01-2004).]

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thanks for the great replies. made me feel a little better about myself. i think its time for me to get a new woman...

Yeah man find a new girl. I had a girlfriend that would flip out, say for instance if she was at work and I went to hang out at a friends house and there happened to be another girl there even if it was someones girlfriend. wow that was a long sentence, but anyway she had a low self esteem, would cut herself for attention, and come to find out she had borderline personality disorder. My guess, guess being the operative word, is that she may have BPD because cutting is a major characteristic. Anyway them bitches is crazy. Good Luck on finding another girl

Put it to her this way; if you weren't jerking off, you'd be having sex. And if you can't have sex with her, you'd get it elsewhere. Therefore, masturbation is helping to keep your relationship alive.

Thar's just a suggestion if you want to try to salvage this. Which I would recommend aginst.

If my boyfriend never looked at porn, I'd be kinda scared

But he does, so I'm safe

I watch it with my girlfriend...

quote:Originally posted by FatChicksDoAnything:

tonight my girlfriend of 15 months was over. everything was going fine as it usually does. we were kind of joking around and kissing and stuff. i then hear my dad call me, he needed help carrying a new shower he bought into the house. when i came back to the basement, i found my gf snooping through my internet history. there were a few porn sites in it, and she went crazy. she told me i was a disgusting pervert and stormed out the house and walked all the way home in the snow.(i chased her with my car, but she would not let me drive her) i found out later that she cut her arm up and stuff. i just wondered if going to porn sites is really that bad? if it is i am going to stop immediately. or is she just crazy?



[This message has been edited by FatChicksDoAnything (edited 12-01-2004).]

She cut her arm because you looked at porn ok she is fucking crazy and second porn is not bad you fucking mormon.

kill her

Jeeze, I don't think I've ever met a guy who has never seen porn. It's natural for guys (especially teenagers) to be intersted in such things. She has major issues if she cut herself because you looked at porn. And after 15 months she didn't expect a thing? She sounds like she's got a area missing where the IQ department should be. God, all the chicks I know know I look up porn and watch it, that's because I'm an open guy. I've only gotten "Eeew! That's disgusting!" twice and I was even told (by a fanatic christian) "You know watching porn will make your penis fall off?" and this is from about 25 chicks. 22 of them didn't even care and about 5 of them wanted to know some good sites.

She's crazy......I wouldn't stay with someone like this.

quote:Originally posted by MrMojoRisin:

What a melodramatic priss. She needs to calm down.

Ask her to explain in her position and then tell her why she's a dumbshit.

/grins

That last sentence is fucking gold. I fucking love you, Moj.

is it some kind of sick porn?

Guys, do you ever feel like you just don't understand chicks? Well, that's because you don't. You don't get chicks, and guess what... they don't get you either.



Young girls especially don't understand guys. Your girlfriend stormed out because, in her little mind, you've been with another woman. Girls that haven't had a lot of experience with guys think that you've gotta be in love to get a hard-on, so you must be in love with those pornstars, right? Eh, take this opportunity to teach this girl a thing or two about how guys work. She needs to know that she isn't the only girl worth looking at in the world, but she also needs to realise that you're probably dating her for a good reason and that she doesn't need to feel so threatened just because you happen to be a normal male with a normal male sex-drive and a normal male attraction to visual stimulation.

quote:Originally posted by k.hallenbeck:

is it some kind of sick porn?

nah just regular straight stuff. im not really into that weird crap

quote:Originally posted by Saline Colors:

I watch porn with my bf, it isn't a big deal to me. I know he watches it regularly, I know he masturbates regularly too. Oh Fuckin' Well.

umm... sexy

In love to get a hard-on..HAH! Hell, it takes the majority of us a strong breeze at most.

And when that breeze comes along you know hich way it's going by the opposite direction the guy is facing

I'm confused, is she a fat chick?

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