I was just deleting the things ive searched google for, clearing my web history etc (dont want parents finding out about totse addiction!) and i found about 5 different google searches i hadnt made.

They were all things like 'missed period, aged 44, could i be pregnant?' and '44 years, missed period, pregnant?'.

Now i am TOTALLY freaked. My mum is 44. She and my father reguarly go to the bedroom and have 'quiet time'. My mum uses my computer a couple of times a year because my connection is faster.

It doesnt take a genius to work out that my mum is worried shes pregnant. But i am TERRIFIED. I have an older brother who is 18, i am 14 (15 in one month) and i have a 4 year old sister. My sister was enough trouble to handle, now shes just about allright... ...but another baby????? I dont think i could cope, my life is hell enough as it is.

The question is, what the hell am i meant to do??? Should i confront my mum? Or should i wait for her to tell ME something like last time she was pregnant?

Please please please i need some advice, i am TOTALLY freaked out about this.

tough shit, man... im sorry, hope it all turns out well-

but what you should do is just tell your mom, really. say, hey i was looking at my computer the other day and *poof!* up came this list of past searches and you'll never believe what i found...

can you tell me what's going on?

besides the fact that she might be missing a period due to menopause, she has every right to be freaking out. so, instead of letting her state of chaos creep into your life, just confront it. then she can't/doesn't have to take it out on someone/something else in a bad way

or u can just ignor it like u never seen the damn things in ur history and let ur mom tell u whatever she wants to.

Ask your Mom. It will be for the best.

My sisters had to deal with that with me...I was born 13 and 8 years after them.

Do your best to mind your own business.

First of all, you're not sure what's going on yet. And perhaps she isn't, either. Having another thing to worry about (you) isn't going to make things any easier for her. She's likely to become addled and not be in her right mind to make any sound and logical decisions.

What exactly bothers you about a possible pregnancy? Your mother's health? Family finances? Family dynamics? You say "I dont think i could cope, my life is hell enough as it is."

Think about your specific concerns. If you absolutely must say something, start a conversation with, for example, "I've been worried about how I'm going to pay for college" if finances are the concern. Make your own concerns about you; don't make like her problems are all about you.

Your mother is a grown woman. She will handle the situation as she sees fit. It wouldn't be your place to confront her about it. I would keep my mouth shut if I were you.

Besides, who knows how long ago she was on your computer. This might have been a few months ago and it was just a scare. Or perhas early menopause, or a number of things can deal with a woman's health.

This is more a of a privacy issue than anything. You were deleting your computer history so no one else wll know. How would you like it if peeople snooped around?

What your mother decides to tell you is her decision. Until then look the other way and mind your own business.

[This message has been edited by MrMojoRisin (edited 08-15-2004).]

What if you confront her to only findout that she is going through menopause? That would suck. Pretend like you never saw the searches.

menopause. relax.