Ok, if anyone read my other topic on short term and long term, I've come up with my answer... go out with the other girls. Now, I just need to find a reason to break up with my girlfriend. This is what I think I'm going to say. Let's call her X.

X, I've come to realize something. Long term relationships in high school don't work. They're mostly just BS anyway. I'm not sure if I ever felt love, or if I was just confused between lust, infatuation, and love. I don't want to hurt you more, because we both know that this won't last, so I want to end it. I know I said I would try not to hurt you, but I don't want to be pulled into this fear of hurting you. It was going to happen sometime! We wouldn't last past this year at the most.

is that what you feel? dont be a weak prick and say something you dont mean, and make sure you do it in person

It's cool, although personally I'd exclude the bullshit part. You're basically telling her what you've gone through in the last few months is bullshit.

Yes, that is what I feel. I feel that long term relationships in high school don't last and aren't worth it. My proof is the last one I was in. Went out with a girl for a year, fucked her a month before we broke up, then I realized how much of a waste it was. She knows this girl too. She'll get over it, shes not some crazy psycho bitch that'll cut herself or do crazy shit. She'll just stop eating for a couple days, go running, and get over it.

Why is it a waste ? Is there something else you'd rather be doing than fucking your girlfriend ? If she hasn't done anything to you, she really doesn't deserve that. From what it sounds like, you're a quitter and an asshole.

"quitter"? Very (very!) few teen romances are permanent. Teen years are the last time you really get to do what's best for you and you alone. So it's best he realizes this now, and tells her in an honest and straightforward manner.

Plus, everyone has to learn the concept of "greener grass".

It just seems like he has no real reason for wanting to break up. Just the fact that those relationships don't last. What's the point of ending it now ? If it's not gonna last, let it end when it does. In the mean time, this should be a time where he gains experience for when dating is more serious. Besides, I wonder if he's fucked her yet. That might change things if he hasn't. I mean, I understand if you're eing a good boyfriend, and the chick isn't putting out, it makes sense to drop the prude bitch, but I fail to see the benefits of being single, and not getting any. I wouldn't dump a chick unless she gave me a good reason to. If people just passed up opportunities because they weren't "ideal", nobody would ever get anywhere.

Think about it, if you vowed not to get serious until age 25, by the time you're 25, and wanting to get serious, you'll be seriously lacking in relationship skills, as well as skills for coping with break-ups and the like.

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^^Well, you're right in many respects. Keep in mind that people are unique, and not all teenagers take a mature attitude toward relationships.

No offense to Ivoryblade, but some young people need to play the field and learn that the grass is rarely greener in other pastures.

It's a necessary lesson for growth. I get the feeling he won't be much good for his gf anymore, now that he has "the itch". It's not bad or good; it's just that the best thing seems to be to cut commitments and explore, in his case.

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It just seems like he has no real reason for wanting to break up. Just the fact that those relationships don't last. What's the point of ending it now ? If it's not gonna last, let it end when it does. In the mean time, this should be a time where he gains experience for when dating is more serious. Besides, I wonder if he's fucked her yet. That might change things if he hasn't. I mean, I understand if you're eing a good boyfriend, and the chick isn't putting out, it makes sense to drop the prude bitch, but I fail to see the benefits of being single, and not getting any. I wouldn't dump a chick unless she gave me a good reason to. If people just passed up opportunities because they weren't "ideal", nobody would ever get anywhere.

Think about it, if you vowed not to get serious until age 25, by the time you're 25, and wanting to get serious, you'll be seriously lacking in relationship skills, as well as skills for coping with break-ups and the like.

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I said earlier in another topic that I've met lots of othe girls that I could try to go out with. I have been a good boyfriend to her. She always says that I'm too good too her. It seems like I'm turning into the nice guy boyfriend that is pussy whipped. Truth is, I am. I'm a nice guy to girls and do things for them, but I don't let them control me. Plus, she doesn't give out. She says that she isn't ready, but I know she wants to wait for a long time, even until marriage. I'm not a virgin though. Could there be greener grass on the other side? I believe there could be. This will sound egotistical and very vain, but I know I'm an attractive person. I get lots of looks from girls and compliments. With school coming up, I'd rarely do anything with her besides talking during school. I work every day 3pm-10pm, she can't leave her house after 9:30, on Wednesdays we have band camp (not like that...) and then Fridays are football games. We can hang out Fridays, and maybe Saturday. She works long hours on Saturday, then in the winter she has swimming, everyday, even weekends (meets), and I'll still be working. It just would be us seeing each other at school.

And about being single and not getting any. I know lots of girls at my school, and ones I've met other places that have already had sex. Not whores, but at least their comfortable with it. She isn't AT ALL.

I have skills in being in serious relationships. I held, what seemed to be to other people, as the "perfect" relationship. We fucking got along with each other like we were married. But, she got way too attached (to the point of jealously over any other girl talking to me) and I got rid of her.

Breakups? I went out with one of the hottest girls in my school for 2 weeks. It was cool, until I found out why. We were friends at school, that was it. Found out later that she felt sorry for me, so she went out with me; that's the only reason why. I know how to deal with break ups now after having my heart carved and served to me on a platter.