Yesterday "aug 11" my GF told me that she would met her old bf today to talk some things with him.

so I sayd ok cause I trusted her.

Well shit is

She called me about 2 hours ago and told me

"I am sorry I could not resist it I had sex with him." So ok I Talked calmly to her asked her to explain. she told me that she could not resist it cause she really needed him. So for my mind I said "its ok she did not really loved me thats all" well fuck it after telling me that. And after talking for about one hour of different things. She told me that she loves me, would like to be with me and don't want to lost me.

At that moment I felt extreme anger inside me but I managed to keep myself tranquil. And told her "I love you too, I need to hang up my Sis needs the phone" So I hanged and now. I am here

I feel total emptiness on my heart I don't even feel anger now. my mind tells me that I want to cry but I can't feel any pain not the needs to doit either, It feels really strange.



I don't know what to tell her. Its like she can feel something for someone then for some momments forget about it then again feel it ?

What can I do ?

How can I make myself feel better?

What the hell happened with my emotions ?

I need some help.

youre not alone man. the feeling will eventuall subside though. Don't be a chump though man. Tell her straight that she really hurt you and that you think it was really fucked up. After that you have 3 possibilities

1. dump her ass

2. fuck her, jizz all over her face and then tell her that she just got used and walk out.

3. Give it another shot, even though you'll be risking more emotional hurt.

I really hope you pick one of the first two. Don't be a wussy.

I agree. Fuck her, dump her, tell her "That's how it feels", then find someone better. You CAN do better.

What the hell happend with your emotions?

Thing is, you want to be a good person, you are a good person. The very fact that you trusted her right away to go and "talk some things out" with her old boy friend shows this, the fact that you calmly and tranquily went through the conversation about her old man boning her shows you are a good person. The problem with that is she did something extremely fucked up to you, and it should hurt, you should be pissed off, you should want to kill this girl. Every emotion you feel should be going in this direction of pain and hate.

But you're a good person, so you've got emotions of humanity, love, etc. confusing the mix. Probably a bit of denial as well, this girl wouldn't do that to you. That's why you feel empty. Well, she did. And since she "couldn't resist" like that makes it ok, then you really shouldn't be able to resist fucking anybody you want to know.

Forget her man, that's some cold hearted shit, I'm almost pissed for you.

I say you take her back man...She sounds really sincere and all...Then cheat on her and tell her about it!

I hate that shit...Like "I just fucked this guy...I'm really sorry" will make it all better...But as soon as you look at a chick on TV she's bitching!

Take her back and pretend like nothing's changed...Keep getting your end away with her...Then when the chance arises, cheat on her and say "I couldn't resist her...I had sex with her...I'm so sorry"

Notice the difference if and when that happens...Pound to a pinch of shit she won't take you back...But what does that matter?...You got a new person to fuck!

To be honest I can't do any of those things to her. Cause I still do care about her.

I think that I have 3 options.

1- Getting out of her life completely without saying anything to her.

2- Be only her friend from now on. Just talk to her and give some advice when she needs it

3- Telling her how she made me feel and saying good bye.

the third one is out cause it would hurt her

it would be like a hit on her face.

so its no longer an option.

So I am left with option one and option 2

Which one would be the best choice?

When my last girlfriend cheated on me, I felt the same way. I knew I should have been angry, but I really wasn't. It was like I just didn't care.

My advice, break up with her. If she hooked up with her ex once, there's a good chance she'll do it again. Don't let her think she can get away with sleeping around on her boyfriend.

damnit man! Don't let this chick fuck you up. You're letting a girl fuck up your dignity here pal. Option 3 is a choice. It's a good choice too. Even if you DO take her back I sincerely feel that you have the obligation as a man to tell her how that made you feel (in a calm and 'tranquil' way if that is how you do) and tell her that shit like that don't happen twice.

No matter how much you've convinced yourself you love her some things you just can't take.

You can't tell her how she made you feel because it would hurt her? BECAUSE IT WOULD HURT HER??? Correct me if I'm wrong, but didn't she just hurt you. Hurt you a hell of a lot more then words could. She said she couldn't resist like it makes it better, not being able to resist her old boyfriend's cock would make it worse in my book.

And you want to be her friend?? GIVE HER ADVICE!?

wake up man, you don't deserve this pain.

The bitch deserves pain. How you go about inflicting it is entirely up to you.

Just talked with her.

told her

"Adi if you ever find yourself in the same situation in wish your feelings are in a struggle betwen one person or another please don't make this error again It can hurt reall bad."

I don't know good english so I will write it also in spanish so someone that know english well can do a better translation of what I told her.

"Adi lo que pasó hoy no permitas que pase de nuevo. Al menos no lo hagas si tus emociones estan en conflicto entre una persona u otra. Porque puede herir muy feo."

She then told me "Pasó algo?" (Did something happened?) So that is really giving me the impression that she didn't even care about me or what I feel.

Shit happens.

Fuck man, that's rough. The least you can do is spread around how big of a cock hungry trollop she is.

hm

Its better to let life and destiny to take care of her actions.

I am tired of being played with.

So i think its better for me to be alone from now on.

Definitely, it's good to get rid of her.

Or you could fuck her and see how she feels it compares to her old boyfriends.

quote:Originally posted by yixil:

Or you could fuck her and see how she feels it compares to her old boyfriends.

Its not worth it

Then she would be allways comparing me with her old BF Its better to be alone.

It´s the freezer for her!

Dump the bitch. She doesn't love you and if anything well only use you.

What 'I_Like_Traffic_Lights' is saying is true... ....except for all the crap about feeling pain and hatred. Hate is a very strong word. You need to ask yourself, 'Do i love her?'.

If 'Yes, i love this girl' then you have two options:

1) Telling her how you feel and ending it for the sake of your friendship, because there is always the possibility of you getting hurt again.

2) Staying with her out of love, and making yourself forget all about the incident. Yeah, she cheated on you, but you should give her another chance, she deserves that if shes good enough to win your heart.



If the answer is 'No i dont love her', you have two choices:

1) Dumping her. She cheated. She doesnt deserve you. You dont love her.

2) Just being friends/taking a break - maybe a little time as friends could help you sort out your feelings for her.



I dont know, im probably chatting shit but there you go, thats my analysis. Good luck with this man, it really is a tough thing to go through.

olvidese de ella

quote:Originally posted by shedding mountain:

olvidese de ella

Seria lo mejor

Would be the best

But it's hard to do

look alfonso... as long as you skeet skeet all over her face I don't care what the outcome is.

This happened to a good mate of mine, well his chick didnt fuck an ex she fucked a work friend. My mate found out on his own so he told her he knew and she still wanted to stay with my friend.

My mate made a deal with her that he could cheat on her with whoever he wanted, and he did, many times, and she couldnt do anything.

My exgirlfriend was a virgin before she was with me and when we broke up she still had feelings for me, she like her new BF but she still came over to see me regularly and we did fuck a few times.

It had nothing to do with him, she just couldnt help her feelings towards me sometimes..

Girls are like this especially if the guy is her first (or really really really good in bed like i was).

quote:Originally posted by aljo39:

Seria lo mejor

Would be the best

But it's hard to do

Ella no te amas. Por que te importa la puta ? Ella te ha dolido, y lo hara' otra vez mas. Si yo estuviera en tu situacion, yo desecharia la puta estupida. Yo no creo que hayan muchos mujeres en este mundo que sean fiel. I don't understand why people cheat all the time !

Sympathy to ya man, I really don't know what to say.

You should just kill yourself dude. Listen, I've been where you are and let me tell you, it only gets worse. Anti-depressants won't help you either, you are already at the end of your rope so why make yourself suffer any more than is necessary. I wanted to kill myself , but I pussied out and now I have to live with that for the rest of my life. No one should live life as a coward. Suicide is the brave thing to do. However, don't do it by cutting (too much opportunity for it to become an "attempted" suicde), use a gun or a noose or a sword. Yes, a sword is the best way to end one's life, and a most honourable one. Simply stab yourself through the heart, it will be fairly painless (and quick). You appear to have run out of options, and I hope you maake the right decision. No person at your age should force themselves to suffer, when all the agony (and ecstacy) can be ended with a good blade. Now, I'm not saying I want you to end your life, but I do feel that it would be the best decision for a person in your situation to make. No one will think less of you if you do it, and you won't even care... because you'll be dead. Don't be a coward, do the right thing (and use a sword if possible

murder/suicide

quote:Originally posted by aljo39:

To be honest I can't do any of those things to her. Cause I still do care about her.

I think that I have 3 options.

1- Getting out of her life completely without saying anything to her.

2- Be only her friend from now on. Just talk to her and give some advice when she needs it

3- Telling her how she made me feel and saying good bye.

the third one is out cause it would hurt her

it would be like a hit on her face.

so its no longer an option.

So I am left with option one and option 2

Which one would be the best choice?



You care about her, right. Option 3. Show her that she cannot just do that to people. Lessons learned the hard way really stick. IMO

quote:Originally posted by Billy Idol:

Ella no te amas. Por que te importa la puta ? Ella te ha dolido, y lo hara' otra vez mas. Si yo estuviera en tu situacion, yo desecharia la puta estupida. Yo no creo que hayan muchos mujeres en este mundo que sean fiel. I don't understand why people cheat all the time !



Yes I know.

you know this shit is stupid cause if you are with somebody then Why the fucking hell you cheat to that person. Damn try to respect your own damn self. or at least the other persons feelings.

quote:Originally posted by chortleborp:

You should just kill yourself dude. Listen, I've been where you are and let me tell you, it only gets worse. Anti-depressants won't help you either, you are already at the end of your rope so why make yourself suffer any more than is necessary. I wanted to kill myself , but I pussied out and now I have to live with that for the rest of my life. No one should live life as a coward. Suicide is the brave thing to do. However, don't do it by cutting (too much opportunity for it to become an "attempted" suicde), use a gun or a noose or a sword. Yes, a sword is the best way to end one's life, and a most honourable one. Simply stab yourself through the heart, it will be fairly painless (and quick). You appear to have run out of options, and I hope you maake the right decision. No person at your age should force themselves to suffer, when all the agony (and ecstacy) can be ended with a good blade. Now, I'm not saying I want you to end your life, but I do feel that it would be the best decision for a person in your situation to make. No one will think less of you if you do it, and you won't even care... because you'll be dead. Don't be a coward, do the right thing (and use a sword if possible

Dude I am not sad I don't even feel nothing so why should I end my life ?

Also I have too many Goals for my future

and I want to acomplish em.

jsut do something really mean to her.. let your anger out or you will end up like the jerk who got screwed around by a girl...

she hit you REALLY hard, so hit her again, brake up with her, fuck another girl.. whatever.. i know what i´m talking about.. I´ve tried that too.

Imp

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[This message has been edited by -Imp (edited 08-13-2004).]

quote:Originally posted by psycho_8b:

I say you take her back man...She sounds really sincere and all...Then cheat on her and tell her about it!

I hate that shit...Like "I just fucked this guy...I'm really sorry" will make it all better...But as soon as you look at a chick on TV she's bitching!

Take her back and pretend like nothing's changed...Keep getting your end away with her...Then when the chance arises, cheat on her and say "I couldn't resist her...I had sex with her...I'm so sorry"

Notice the difference if and when that happens...Pound to a pinch of shit she won't take you back...But what does that matter?...You got a new person to fuck!

He is right, as I had an experience with my own ex..Well, she had been all over my "best" friend, and always told me for an ENTIRE month that she didn't have feelings for him, she only loved me, she could only have him as a friend....I followed blindly, but thus we were on a "break" well, I went to a school competition and found a girl who went to the school. We had a thing with each other a couple months back, ended up walking around, and eventually she kissed me. I still had the hots for her, but it was also the fact of staying loyal to my at the time in my mind girlfriend. I was at my best friends house one night, about a week after being kissed. Where my now ex looked me in the eye and said "I could never have feelings for him like that, just calm down." Then she kissed me and said "I love you. I swear on our relationship there isnt anything between me and him." I got to see her and him making out, on video tape. Recorded not even 10 minutes after she fed that pile of shit. So here is the short version:

She was fucking around with my best friend for a month, I find out about it, then have 3 different people each take turns rambling, screaming, and bitching at me over how stupid I am for not just going "Oh well, shit happens" and moving on liek nothing. I did love her after all. Well, she came out, and I told her that the chick I had a thing with kissed me (my ex was exremely jealous for some reason =/) She storms into the house crying screaming "Don't you ever talk to me again you cheating asshole".....She later came in and got him from my friends room to go sleep with her...This is the part where i found out all my friends had known behind my back, and not told me because they thought "It woulnd't be that big of a deal"...I killed a half bottle of whiskey that night, the rest is just a blur...You can do the exact same kind of thing to a chick, and get infinite shit for it, but it's not that big of a deal when we get played for some sick play toy is it? [/pissed rant] I don't know...Just ignore this steaming pile of personal crap as it's off topic and all... Good luck with your love live kids. And to the topic starter? Ditch that cheating whore. I know the thought without her must be hard, but keep in mind, you're only going to get yourself more hurt, and that is NOT the road you want to go down man.

c2

Step 1: Tell her to go fuck herself, or go fuck the other guy again, for that matter.

Step 2: Go get drunk. Live it up! You're single again!

Maybe I will just go to a disco and fuck with some of the player girls. Thats all i can think of right now.

the silver lining here is she told you. thats far better than most get it.

quote:Originally posted by aljo39:

Maybe I will just go to a disco and fuck with some of the player girls. Thats all i can think of right now.

yeah do that

i respect that you dont want to hurt her feelings, and i commend you for it, but for fucks sake grow some balls, walk up to her and explain that she has hurt you and you dont want fuck all to do with her. only spineless fucks slink out of someone's life.

and being "friends" doesn't work.

be an man and fuck her off.

Thanks all of you for helping me get past this thing.

Now I am really myself again.

thank you.