Well there isnt much backstory here when I was in the gifted program throughout middle school we had the same peer group and teahcers for all three years so I became good friends with most everyone. I took a liking to one girl inparticular...Britney {no need for last name} shes brilliant, sexy, charming....you know the whole bit. Anyways On the eve of 9th grade I was on the verge of telling here how I felt but a series of events prevented me from doing so. Now Im in 10th and I have several classes with here in my AP american class she sits RIGHT beside me. A normal person might think...great what a good oppurtunity, but no not me. Even when she talks to me I feel physically ill and end up stuttering or something similar. Now that might not seem so out of the ordinary except I am usually very calm and collected around girls....except for her. I know Im not ready to ask her out yet, I figure I have one chance, I want to build up a relationship with her first without just jumping into a place where our friendship could be ruined. Also, I am very shy about asking girls out for I usually get the "want to be friends...." deal so try as you might Im not walking into APA tomorrow and asking her out. I just dont know what to do or say, should I try and get closer with here friends first {her friends were part of my middle school gifted class so it shouldnt be that hard} or what.

heh, its stan marsh the darsh!

...Britney Spears?

Ask her out, being 'just friends' with her is a bad thing because then she won't want a relationship with you. I cant be bothered explaining any further, hope this helped.

thats exactly what Im worried about I dont want to blow my chances at a realtionship by over extending a friendship.

dude i have had a lot of experience with friends that are girls, actually i would suggest being friends with her first for a lil bit (yes a lil bit, there is a point where it will click in her head and it will just be a friendship from there on out), but see if you really want to date her, then just call her up and be like wanna go see a movie or something and hang out, and since u are friends nothing weird about that, at the end of the day if things went good, just be like, you know i had a great time today, i have been interested in gettin to know u a lil bit deeper than just friends, would u like to go out on a date? it works trust me, just gotta be confident with it and believe it will work

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Quit fucking around and man up. You need to ask her out before she starts talking to you about guys that she likes.

Also, what´s up with the "here" shit?

You stutter because you like her too much.

The way to beat it is to get her to like you

before you like her.

It works for me anyway.

Being totally comfortable and confident in any situation with a hot girl is the biggest turn on for them.

First off you have to find a way to get less fixated on that particular chick. Until then you can just stay put, you will do no more than fuck up. Look for a chick that can split your attention, convince yourself she's not that perfect, whatever, just as long as it works in getting you more confident around her and not so afraid to lose her. Be her friend at first, but make sure you act like a man and stand up for yourself, or else you'll end up with blue balls. Don't be nice, be cool, so you don't get looked at as a friend. And you don't have to ask her out for that, just a bit of witty talk and mild rudeness(keyword:mild, show a willingness to turn her down, don't always do her bidding; also don't act like you're offering dick). You know what to do next. It takes a bit of timing though.

EDIT: Oh my God, and don't state your damn intentions, just go with the flow. Basically saying "I'm interested" may work with some, but I reckon it doesn't with the hot ones. You don't want to hunt, but rather, be hunted.

[This message has been edited by Local Hero (edited 08-13-2004).]

quote:Originally posted by Local Hero:

You don't want to hunt, but rather, be hunted.

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Quite right there hero.

C'mon eagle, your a pimp, let the juices flow. Thats all I have to add, I don't know anyway.

thanks you everyone for the very helpful advice today in APA I wasnt really as nervous so the conversation flowed much smoother, and in fact she initiated the conversation. Wether I should have let that happen or not it still boggels my mind. Again thanks and I will keep posting updates

Little pea- wtf are you talking about?

Well tkae everyones advice plus this, this is to make sure you don't ruin your relationship. Say somthing like this to her. "britney, I've known you for a while and I really love you, and i want to know if you'd like to be my girlfriend (or go out with me, how ever you want to say it), but no matter what you say i wont get mad." and if she does say no, make sure to say "now this isn't gonna come in between our friendship right." so basically say somthing like this and you should be alright.

quote:Originally posted by Silentassault:

heh, its stan marsh the darsh!

That was fuckin funny, reminded me of Cartman peeing on and giving Butters a hitler, in that asspen episode.



quote:Originally posted by stiletto:



Well tkae everyones advice plus this, this is to make sure you don't ruin your relationship. Say somthing like this to her. "britney, I've known you for a while and I really love you, and i want to know if you'd like to be my girlfriend (or go out with me, how ever you want to say it), but no matter what you say i wont get mad." and if she does say no, make sure to say "now this isn't gonna come in between our friendship right." so basically say somthing like this and you should be alright.

Does your mommy let you play on the computer at your age?

quote:Originally posted by eagle17:

Well there isnt much backstory here when I was in the gifted program throughout middle school we had the same peer group and teahcers for all three years so I became good friends with most everyone. I took a liking to one girl inparticular...Britney {no need for last name} shes brilliant, sexy, charming....you know the whole bit. Anyways On the eve of 9th grade I was on the verge of telling here how I felt but a series of events prevented me from doing so. Now Im in 10th and I have several classes with here in my AP american class she sits RIGHT beside me. A normal person might think...great what a good oppurtunity, but no not me. Even when she talks to me I feel physically ill and end up stuttering or something similar. Now that might not seem so out of the ordinary except I am usually very calm and collected around girls....except for her. I know Im not ready to ask her out yet, I figure I have one chance, I want to build up a relationship with her first without just jumping into a place where our friendship could be ruined. Also, I am very shy about asking girls out for I usually get the "want to be friends...." deal so try as you might Im not walking into APA tomorrow and asking her out. I just dont know what to do or say, should I try and get closer with here friends first {her friends were part of my middle school gifted class so it shouldnt be that hard} or what.



Kan they spel in da gifted porgram?



jk I remember you're not a retard. You aren't puking in her face, I take it? Just go for it, you've got more to gain than lose. Regret will burn you 100 times more than rejection.

If you spend too much time waiting for 'the right time' or the 'perfect moment' to ask her you'll blow your window of opportunity will close.

you: 'you know that stanlie kid? He was such a dick in the cafeteria today'

her: 'oh yea? I think hes sorta cute hihihihi'

you: 'fuck! Geenie was right. You whore!'

Prove your love to her, tomorrow at noon, on the K-13! *cue random stranger* The K-13! But that's the most dangerous run in all of America!" She's not chicken, are YOU, Darsh?

[This message has been edited by Demon_Shoe (edited 08-14-2004).]

quote:Originally posted by WolfinSheepsClothing:



Kan they spel in da gifted porgram?



jk I remember you're not a retard. You aren't puking in her face, I take it? Just go for it, you've got more to gain than lose. Regret will burn you 100 times more than rejection.



As my 8th grade gifted english teacher so eliquently put it "you couldnt wite your way out of a paper bag"

anyways thanks for the advice