Aight I'll try to keep this as short as possible.

I just got back from the U.S. and I had sort of had this romantic agenda with a girl(T) here (in germany) but we never got anything done since the conditions were just fuckeed (met her 2 weeks before i left etc. etc.)

Well, I've seen her on numerous occasions since and I must say I still have feelings for her. At the same time I think she still feels for me.

I also met one of her close friends(M) and got her number and stuff, just because at that point in time I wasnt sure about T and all that.

Well, M is totally into me, and she's gorgeous and fun to talk to and all those things. Like I said, i felt that T still had feelings as well. So now I was torn between the two (and yes i do realize its fucked up to step between to friends)

I talked to T a little bit and she told me to go with M. Now usually I would say 'aight thats fine, I was wrong, she doesn't feel shit' but it seemed like she didn't mean it. You know? She was like 'it will be the best for YOU' and stuff like that.

There's also this other guy that she used to like (or still likes, not sure really) I met him the other day and, surprise surprise, I don't like the guy. But anyway, I suppose my questions are these.

1. What do you think about the whole scenario

2. Do you think I should just lay shit on the table with T even though I'm risking rejection from M after that (noone wants to be second choice)

3. How do I make T understand that I don't have any interest in going out (she calls) with her and this other guy I mentioned that she likes/used to like without coming off as an asshole.

Sorry this was so long. For those that actually want to help, thanks.

too long to read sorry

I'm thinking your problem is that you can't read...

yeesh Geenie....thats hard!

hmm

i say you go with M, actually. from what you've said, T isn't the one "going" for you right now. and M seems too good a girl to pass up for one that's already passed you by...in spite of whatever lingering feelings there might be. If there really IS something special between you and T, then i wouldn't worry about it lasting through a fling with a great girl who she TOLD you was ok to be with. and about the other guy...you DON'T have to proect her. she'll make mistakes, yeah, like everyone else. So while she's figuring that out (or not, by just having a good time with this guy you don't like), you'll be having a great time with a fabulous girl. win-win.

quote:Originally posted by TrueJackass:

too long to read sorry

if you're too lazy to read it, why dont you just shut up and move on?

Thanks nirgo, I really appreciated your opinion on this.

I've decided not to call T for a while (like a week or two) to wake her up, if that's going to happen at all. I was sort of hatin on her on the phone cause she kept calling and wanted me to come to this party and bla. So when I saw her the next time she was really cold. Eh, votes for just fucking m?

murder/suicide

thanks for gracing my thread with your standardized message... dumb fuck

Go for a challenge, go for T.