ah Jesus christ...

ok long story short

I met this girl,

with the best personality, great looks, and jokes that can make me laugh for days!

but their is a problem, she's married

oh and i forgot to mention she has a kid...

Now i was wondering why is she trying to hook up with other guys if she is married.

well i find out that she has been married to her husband for 1 year and 4 months; he treats her like shit, he doesnt allow to do anything, he hates the fact that she wants friends, and he treats her like a kid instead of a wife.

Well he is 35 years old and she is just 19 i know...wtf am i doing talking to her. But everytime i talk to her i get this feeling that i cant really explain. i know it cant be like this something is totally wrong here. why am i feeling this way?

and i dont want to interupt in her marriage. If i would have known before hand i would have stayed away and now im starting to get involved! He has also threatened to kill her due to a arguement!

ok now should i just walk away from this situation here or should i continue to help her out?

If you actually care about her I'd just try to help her get out of the marriage. That of course is if she wants to get out. Since you said she was trying to attract other guys I'm thinking she is. Hopefully she'll also learn the lesson that its not too bright to marry a guy twice her age.

If her husband is treating her like shit and she's not just making that up to develop friendships out of boredom then she's looking for something or someone to give her more fulfillment in her life than a verbally/mentally abusive significant other.

It doesn't mean she's looking for sex (you didn't mention anything indicating this). It's always a bad idea to encroach on someone's marriage. Being there as a friend could lead to something later down the road if the marriage is fizzling but having or trying to have sex with her while she's still in her current commitment isn't a good idea.

You know what they say about being someone's "sounding board", if that's what it looks like I'd stay away under your circumstances. She needs to deal with her problems, not compound them. With her being 19 and him 35 I give it less than a year. In the meanwhile there's plenty of opportunities for you elsewhere whilst she figures out where she's going in her little abusive relationship. Good luck!

-Extant

quote:and i dont want to interupt in her marriage

I would want to in your place. And it doesn't have to be for selfish reasons. You see, women don't necessarily have to be sexual material. It wouldn't be like stealing her. It's for her own good, given the fact that he is abusive towards her. Maybe you can be more than a friend later on, but right now I'd say stick to it. Well if you play the friend role a bit too much, you will no doubt be one for the rest of your life. Hmm, well do what you think is best, but consider the fact that she may not be happy in her marriage and probably only the suggestion of divorce would get her to do it. If you do, just don't make it sound like you'd like to be next.