When having sex who has the harder job? I'd admit I don't have much experience on this issue. Is the burden to provide pleasure on the man, while all the woman is required to do is go along with it all.

The man has the harder job, women just whine that you weren't good enought. http://www.totse.com/bbs/Forum4/HTML/009027.html

Karma balanced that one out by making women have to sit down to pee and bleed every month.

men are always working hard to try to get women to orgasm, the woman doesnt have to do much to get the man to have an orgasm. id say the man has to do most of the work.

yes we have to do the most work, and then there is that thing that the see'er teresias got punished for when he told the world that makes it even more unfair

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quote:Originally posted by Gala:

The man has the harder job, women just whine that you weren't good enought. http://www.totse.com/bbs/Forum4/HTML/009027.html

Just wait till 'she' gets hold of this thread!

I agree that it is harder for the man only when women do not take sexual responsibility. However, I'm sure that every effort is greatly appreciated.

Given the actual act of sex its self, it is the man for the most part. Look at sexual positions. Unless the girls is on top, the man is doing most of the work. Girls aget lucky this way. Plus, it takes a lot more time (for the most part) to satisfy a woman than it does a man. So again more man work.

quote:Originally posted by aloneandbroken:

Given the actual act of sex its self, it is the man for the most part. Look at sexual positions. Unless the girls is on top, the man is doing most of the work. Girls aget lucky this way. Plus, it takes a lot more time (for the most part) to satisfy a woman than it does a man. So again more man work.

Try laying side by side with the woman facing away (spooning - personally preferred). It allows for more freedom and less work (for both) because it is much more relaxing. IMO

This has been known since ancient Greece. A character in one of Homer's stories is called upon to settle a dispute among Hera and Zeus about which gender gets more out of sex (as the character in question had been turned into a woman and then back into a man years later). When he agreed with Zeus, that women get more out of love than "our poor sex did, ever", Hera blinded him for disagreeing with her (bitch!). Zeus, in order to make up for it, gave him the power of prophecy.

My wife works a lot harder in bed then I do. She is pretty easy to please, even though she doesn't get off from fucking at all, but when I go down on her I can get her off in 10-15 minutes. But me, I'm a bear to get off. Sometimes I take too long and she gets tired out. Not good...

quote:Originally posted by LutherX:

My wife works a lot harder in bed then I do. She is pretty easy to please, even though she doesn't get off from fucking at all, but when I go down on her I can get her off in 10-15 minutes. But me, I'm a bear to get off. Sometimes I take too long and she gets tired out. Not good...



Yes I agree, not good. I tend to lose interest after I have an orgasm so it's best if he has his right before, at the same time, or right after I do. The spooning position makes it easier for clitoral stimulation during intercourse so that can be timed quite nicely. (And either he can do that or I can.)

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I'd say women have it easier; men have to worry about not being able to get it up, premature ejaculation, not lasting long enough, all kinds of things. And I'd say that going down on a woman is harder because you actually have to know what you're doing; going down on a guy is pretty self-explanatory.

quote:Originally posted by outcast:

Try laying side by side with the woman facing away (spooning - personally preferred). It allows for more freedom and less work (for both) because it is much more relaxing. IMOTotally gotta go with this!!! props man props

I think it depends who's on top, and whose turn it is to pleasure the other (note though, that my b/f and I do the whole BDSM switching thing, so we both take responsibility for pleasing the other).

quote:Originally posted by Huff 'N' Puff:

Originally posted by outcast:

Try laying side by side with the woman facing away (spooning - personally preferred). It allows for more freedom and less work (for both) because it is much more relaxing. IMOTotally gotta go with this!!! props man props



Yeah. I like it slow and easy, it shouldn't be 'hard' work.