Well should I? Not on myself, Lemme explain.

I am 15 an my girlfriend and I have been having sex quite regularly. She lost her virginity to me a little while ago and we've done it maybe 10 times. I have had many great orgasms, however she has had none. I know girls can be satisfied with sex if they don't have one, and she says she loves it, I guess she does because she always wants to do it. She also does not want me to go down on her, she really hates the idea of it and does not want me to. I really want to give her an orgasm. However just using my manhood doesnt seem to be the right kind of pleasure, and using my fingers comes close but we never quite get there.

Now to my question, Should I buy a vibrator for me to use on her, or should i just keep trying with myself? If I buy a vibrator will she...ahhh fall in love with that and will we stop having sex? I dunno, is it a good idea is my main question?

Thanks, Fridgeseal.

She just lost her virginity, it might take a while for her to actually begin to enjoy it.

My advice, while this may seem far out, is this; go down on her anyway. Head straight for the clit with your tongue before she can stop you or realize what's going on.

Maybe she'll really dig it.

Yeah, I could try that, I have a feeling she would belt me around the head though. I have no idea why she hates it so much, "It's really really gross." *shrug*

Hmmmm this really has me pondering....

Sure, she thinks it's really, really, gross, but has she gotten it before?

No, I suppose I should try. But what about the vibrator question? Is it a good or bad idea The_Rabbi?

quote:Originally posted by Fridgeseal:

No, I suppose I should try. But what about the vibrator question? Is it a good or bad idea The_Rabbi?



Try using your tongue first. If she doens't want you too or doesn't please her then go the vibrator.

My advice: Avoid a vibrator. If she can't orgasm now with your penis alone, she'll get addicted to the sensation of a giant vibrating device shoved up her pussy, especially if you're the one operating it. Although I have never used one, I can imagine it feeling so good that a dick will just never feel the same. Maybe I'm wrong - but I dunno.

As for the oral thing, I think you should go down on her against her wishes. Tell her to stop being such an imature baby about the whole situation, (i.e. Eeeww! Icky poo!!!) and just lick her out. She'll thank you for the amazing orgasm afterwards.

Ok thanks all, I'll take it on board. See what happens I guess.

quote:Originally posted by soul_assassin_girl:

My advice: Avoid a vibrator. If she can't orgasm now with your penis alone, she'll get addicted to the sensation of a giant vibrating device shoved up her pussy, especially if you're the one operating it. Although I have never used one, I can imagine it feeling so good that a dick will just never feel the same. Maybe I'm wrong - but I dunno.

As for the oral thing, I think you should go down on her against her wishes. Tell her to stop being such an imature baby about the whole situation, (i.e. Eeeww! Icky poo!!!) and just lick her out. She'll thank you for the amazing orgasm afterwards.



Haha, you just pwned his woman. To add to it, fridgeseal, kiss her afterwards.

A vibrator isn't going to make you any more capable. It's just going to do what it does: Vibrate numbingly, and desenitize her to your non-buzzing dick for future trysts. It'd be as stupid as buying her a pulsating/detachable showerhead, if you ask me.

I was watching some porn and the woman was using 3 vibrators to get herself off. I was left wondering how the hell i'd compete with that.

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Yes u should use the vibrator......... ON URSELF.

You know, when I first got with my girl, I wanted to get a dildo for her, for me to use on her, for my pleasure, not so much hers.

Well, after 2 years, our sex is so good, I don't even really think of "new" things to try. We both have our own little things we like, and we just do that.

All you have to do is feel the person out, find out what they like, and do it. Simple as that.

Don't get a dildo. Would you want your real job being taken away by a machine? Hell no. Don't willingly give up the honor of making a woman orgasm.

It really is an honor too, because if she is a good woman, it means that she thinks really highly of you to let you do those things.

its funny because your dicks small and mines not

I think its more to do with her not wanting an orgasm. At least if she isnt letting you go down on her, she sounds like a prude to be honest.

If she doesn't want you to go down, she might have some hangups about "down there"...but you should do it anyway.

I'd say never do anything forcibly. However, seductively will work. What I mean is touch, kiss, and lick her whole body. [For me the area just inside the knee is almost orgasmic] For a while just nuzzle around there. Tease there a lot. Then when you notice an increase in responsiveness go in closer. Take your time with it, and have fun. Oh, and have a towel handy, just in case she doesn't want to kiss you afterwards. Some girls don't like the idea of that.

Vibrators - don't care for them much. They do desensitize me whether used internally or externally, but some women really do like them. Tough call.

You know, if you really want your girl to reach a climax, how about holding back a little longer for yourself (if possible) and trying to go longer and see what that does. Ask her if thats her thing. If not, I guess what the others are saying is fine. But don't just think about your orgasm, think about what you have to do in order to get the pther person to feel as good as you. You already did that somewhat by being concerned about it enough to post on totse. But still.. yea. Hope things work out for you.