ok heres the situation. i asked this girl i know out and she said she wasnt intersed in anyone right now and would rather just stay friends (same as we where). i'm trying to think up things i could do to sort of "nudge" her twords what i was aiming for. i havent had any luck so far. Have any suggestions? im trying to nudge her into somewhat liking me at least acnologing my efforts,but i dont want to come on to strong and scare her off. please, any advise is apriciated and wanted no matter how small. if you dont have a serious comment i ask that you not post.this is very important,at least to me anyway.

Joe,

aka Harry Potter

go to kiss her, if she lets you its all good your together, if she pulls away you have no chance

quote:Originally posted by Auron547:

ok heres the situation. i asked this girl i know out and she said she wasnt intersed in anyone right now and would rather just stay friends (same as we where). i'm trying to think up things i could do to sort of "nudge" her twords what i was aiming for. i havent had any luck so far. Have any suggestions? im trying to nudge her into somewhat liking me at least acnologing my efforts,but i dont want to come on to strong and scare her off. please, any advise is apriciated and wanted no matter how small. if you dont have a serious comment i ask that you not post.this is very important,at least to me anyway.

Joe,

aka Harry Potter

You spelt interested, advice, towards, acknowledging, and appreciated* wrong.

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On a more serious note.. Be supportive and understanding of her situation. Some people don't feel comfortable with the whole dating scene, or maybe something happened to her to make her not want a relationship right now. Anyways, to nudge her into something she doesn't want, isn't right. If she doesn't do it of her own free will, then she shouldn't be doing it at all.

Just tell her that you like her, and would like to get to know her better (if you don't already) and if she doesn't want to get involved in that area right now, you understand, and are willing to give her time. In my experience, women appreciate a man who's understanding, and won't push the woman into things like that. But thats all assuming you are a patient man like myself, if not, I suggest you drop this attempt and move to something more attainable.

I'm pissed off at the moment, so here's my angry 2 cents.

You're the type of person who makes it hard for friends to have fucking relationships, you here about all these friends that are never the same after someone suggests going further, it's because some people can't except a NO!! If you want her, but she's said no, then tough luck buddy. Quit bitching about it and move on fuckass, that shit just pisses me off.

Peace out Harry

both suggestions where pretty good.the second one was a little harsh but i see where you coming from.i am a patient person so i will most likely try to get to know her better and get closer to her but not soo close that she feals uncomfortable.Then if all things go right and i dont fuck up she may give me what my friends call "the look". they claim that when she decides to give you a chance to make a move she gets close to your face (about a foot) and stares deep into you eyes and theres you chance. well thanks for the advice. i would still appriciate more suggestions and advice.

Harry Potter

Well Harry m'boy, I suggest you use ye wizard's secret potion to push her towards your view of things (Rohypnol).

quote:Originally posted by VladimirIllyichLenin:

Well Harry m'boy, I suggest you use ye wizard's secret potion to push her towards your view of things (Rohypnol).

rrrriiiigggggghhhhttttt....just a nickname buddy. what the fuck is rohypnol?

It's a potent benzodiazepine, commonly used a s a date rape drug.

If you like being friends with her, that's all you're going to be unless she comes to a point where she feels differently. I have yet to see that happen as a result of anything a guys says.

I have seen this change happen when the guys decides he doesn't want to just be friends with her, and distances himself altogether. No need to be mean or rude, but don't be the hang-out buddy, don't be the study friend, don't be the favor-doing schmuck. The saying "why buy the cow if the milk is free" goes both ways.