i dont know what to do.. she says she has the worst kind and that it can get passed on just by kissing me.. we havent kissed yet soo.. what should i do? i told her i still love her

Shoot the bitch. Naa, I'm kind of shure that you can't get herpes just from kissing...?

*pukes*

get her on creatine. no im nt kidding. it suppresses better than most prescription drugs, nd shortens outbreaks. drink plenty of water.

You can't get herpes by kissing you idiot. But I wouldn't have anything to do with her. Condoms are ineffective against herpes and the desiese will go through the latex. Also, if she has herpes, shes probably a whore. How can you love a slut?

Get rid her her, tell her to leave you alone.

As for the kissing to get herpes, you can get cold sores from oral sex with an herpes infected person. STD's are bad. Stay away.

Try googling before you come here to get flamed... http://www.herpes.com/Transmission.shtml

What u should do is dump her...

Sometimes you just have to know when to cut your losses. Apart from exposing you to the herpes virus, this girl is forcing you choose between a normal, disease-free life and one where you are committed to a woman who obviously has unprotected sex with strangers. You shouldn't even consider a person like this to be a girlfriend anyways, as a true friend would never expose you to herpes, or wait until you have formed an emotional connection with her. That is nothing more than a case of emotional blackmail, and YOU are the one being victimized no matter how much she tries to tell you that she is the victim..

Kill her and dump her body in the ocean, it'll be like she never existed.

Dump her.

Normally I wouldn't say that, but you have to ask yourself; "Is it worth it when we break up for me to have an incurable STI, just because I didn't want to break up with her?"

I hope that answer is no. Plus, just look at all these replies. Do you want that to be YOU they're talking about, when a girl comes on saying, "my boyfriend has herpes! what should i do?"

Think about it. Don't ruin your life.

Break it off gently, but don't burn that bridge just yet....you never know when you might wanna inflict the dreaded herpes on thine enemies.

Hey, herpese people need love too .

Not by me, though. I got tested: disease free, that's me!

Chibi is right. Even when she is not there any more, the herpese will still be.

I bet she is just lying and wants to break up with u but doesnt know how

If you were 30 and have been through all the motions of relationships and knew she was "the one", I would say stay with her.

My friend has had herpes for over 8 years now. When she's over an outbreak, she has sex with her husband WITHOUT A CONDOM. He gets tested every so often and is still clean.

With the help of medicine, people with herpes can lead fairly normal sex lives. They've come up with everything for it but a cure.

But you are young. You shouldn't need to have to make that kind of commitment. I know she may be special to you but you're too young to drastically hinder your life for someone else's. But if you think it's the right thing to do and you love her, who am I to say sleave her?

What's her reason for not telling you sooner? How long has she had it? If she just found out and you've been with her for a while, don't break up with her right away. If you're willing to abstain from sex, stay with her. Speak with a doctor for information about transmission and the precautions you should take if you decide you do want to develop a physical relationship. Being with her could be a very good learning experience: Relationships do not depend on sex to survive.

[This message has been edited by MrMojoRisin (edited 07-31-2004).]

quote:Originally posted by Nirvanawannamarijuana:

i dont know what to do.. she says she has the worst kind and that it can get passed on just by kissing me.. we havent kissed yet soo.. what should i do? i told her i still love her



that filthy little whore, kill her, kill her and burn her underwear... you nasty fuck off how the fuck could you be in love with a bitch with herpes...

quote:Originally posted by Nirvanawannamarijuana:

we havent kissed yet

dump the bitch. what kinda girlfriend fucks other guys and gets herpes, but won't kiss her own boyfriend?

wait....how old are you? you love a girl but you haven't kissed her yet? you must have been dating her for all of a week or two..

Drop her like a bad habit

quote:Originally posted by paintballprep:

You can't get herpes by kissing you idiot. But I wouldn't have anything to do with her. Condoms are ineffective against herpes and the desiese will go through the latex. Also, if she has herpes, shes probably a whore. How can you love a slut?

Get rid her her, tell her to leave you alone.

As for the kissing to get herpes, you can get cold sores from oral sex with an herpes infected person. STD's are bad. Stay away.

cold sores are herpes,idiot,just a different strain.and who said they were genital herpes?you lot jump to conclusions,he could mean cold sores...*listens and hears the penny drop*

quote:Originally posted by crimsonsmoke:

Shoot the bitch. Naa, I'm kind of shure that you can't get herpes just from kissing...?

could it depend on what you kissing?



i told her i still love her

damn. even though i dont know you im realy fealing for you right now.still love her but she got severly contagious herpes? im sorry dude.majorly blows.i cant realy give any advice on what to do cuz if it was me i wouldnt know. only thing i can say is go with what feals right. i wish you the best of luck



Joe

aka Harry Potter

quote:Originally posted by paintballprep:

Also, if she has herpes, shes probably a whore. How can you love a slut?



dude, thats love. shes "probably" a whore? not neccesarily.for all he and we know she may have only slept with 1 other dude and he had herpes.it only takes that one person.

quote:Originally posted by midgeymonkey2:

cold sores are herpes,idiot,just a different strain.and who said they were genital herpes?you lot jump to conclusions,he could mean cold sores...*listens and hears the penny drop*



No shit, jackass. Learn to space after your sentences and why are you saying I'm jumping to conclusions when everyone else is talking about sex lives, fucking and unprotected sex? How bout you stop scanning through the topic, looking to call someone an idiot which is something you can never do in school cause you would get your little ass kicked and then butt fucked. Go away loser.

Look, you haven't even kissed her yet. You're not involved.

Cut and run like a motherfucker.

You don't want herpes, and if you stay with the broad, you WILL get it. You haven't even kissed yet, so I doubt she's the love of your life.

If you'd already been sexually active with her, I'd say go ahead and marry the bitch, but you haven't. Dump her and never look back.

Fuck sake, there are far too many of you who automatically think genital herpes.

Calm down, think slowly. There are many types of herpes and she may have not deserved to have it.

She may not even be a slut even if it is genital herpes, she may have only had sex once or twice and she got the bad end of the bargain.



Anyway. Mate, think long and hard.. it's gonna be fairly difficult no matter what. See what the doctor can do and if you can have contact and stuff without it being too contageous, then go with that. If you don't care and love her so much you'd die for her, then fuck her brains out - you can over look the contageousness.

Congradulations, you landed yourself a skank.

quote:Originally posted by ZeroMalarki:

Fuck sake, there are far too many of you who automatically think genital herpes.

Calm down, think slowly. There are many types of herpes and she may have not deserved to have it.

Yeah. I'm sure he's bugged out because his girlfriend has fucking shingles.

It doesn't matter if she deserved to get, or how she got it- the point is, she got it, and you don't want it. You'd have to really love her to voluntarily expose yourself to ANY kind of disease, let alone herpes.

quote:Originally posted by paintballprep:



No shit, jackass. Learn to space after your sentences and why are you saying I'm jumping to conclusions when everyone else is talking about sex lives, fucking and unprotected sex? How bout you stop scanning through the topic, looking to call someone an idiot which is something you can never do in school cause you would get your little ass kicked and then butt fucked. Go away loser.

fuck you,i read his post and a few others,so shut the fuck up.and no one fucked with me at school cunt,or they got the shit kicked out of them.retard.

Dump her right now!

I can not stress enough how much you do not want herpes, take it from someone who has it. I suffer from severe oral herpes which are busy enough to almost constantly grace me with thier presence. Effectively I am totally untouchable, sounds sucky huh? Its even worse living with it. But my story gets more FUBAR, I had them since before I could speak. Most likely I contracted them from a parrent or reletive as a child who thought nothing of it to kiss me with a cold sore. Thanks alot asshole, it turns out I am innefective at fighting a disease that only occures a few weeks a year for most people. Now this is a horrible existence for most people alone but what they don't tell you online is that you are emotionally insane and sometimes physically ill during severe outbreaks. It effects your entire body and will never be cured in our lifetimes because its a virus.

And thats just oral, genital herpes would be even worse.

No matter how much you love this girl and don't want to hurt her feelings its not enough to risk subjecting yourself to this kind of life.

Everyone that's calling her a whore, slut, etc., fuck off. I feel for the poor girl. Someone I am very close to got the genital version, and against her own will. Rape will fuck you over, for life. And when she found out she had it, she'd already been in a relationship with her b/f. He had a decision to make. He read up on the subject online and found that if you don't have sex with her while she's having an outbreak, the chances of him getting it are basically, if you have sex every single day, at least once, 1 in 200...and that's if you do EVERY SINGLE DAY. No, it's not fun to have, and it is a lifetime thing, but the guy chose to stay with this girl, they have had sex almost every single day (except during outbreaks), without a condom, for a year and a half, and he just recently got tested, and STILL DOESN'T HAVE IT. Completely clean. And it's much worse on girls than guys, the first outbreak is always the worst, and they get milder and less often as time goes on. He decided to stay with her, he cared about her more than that, and if he got it, so be it, he planned on spending the rest of his life with this girl anyways. There are daily supressive pills she can take to lessen or stop the outbreaks altogether, and all she has to do is ask the dr. So you fucks that are saying all of this shit about the poor girl, READ UP BEFORE YOU TALK SHIT. It's not the end of the world, just an annoyance, and it's made out to be much worse than it really is. Don't call her any names, cause it could've happened from one guy, and he may not have even known he carried it when he passed it onto her. It's not unheard of. She may have been raped, you never know what may have happened. Give the girl a break, don't look down on her for this, and give this some serious thought before you make a decision. And make sure that decision is one you plan to stick with. You may stick with her and never get it yourself, or you may. This is a big risk to take, but herpes will not kill you. You can live a normal, happy life with it, and noone will be able to tell you have it unless you tell them. Just don't listen to the ignorant, pre-pubescent fucks on here that haven't experienced anything, or know anyone that can give then the info on it firsthand. Listen to your heart, you'll know what to do.

And if you want to read up on it a little more, try going here: www.plannedparenthood.com (http://www.plannedparenthood.com)

It doesn't matter how she got it. That's not the point.

The point is that he doesn't want it. You'd be out of your fucking mind to expose yourself to ANY kind of herpes voluntarily, unless it was your wife or something.

What if you knew you wanted to spend the rest of your life with her, marry her eventually, but you two were just not ready to get married just yet?

That would be the "or something."

I even mentioned that earlier in the thread. If you were really fucking certain that she was the love of your life, then maybe.

But what if it doesn't work out? Now you've got herpes, and you've got to tell that to any future prospective mates.

Yes, but it's not the end of the world. It is your conscious decision to make. If you really love the girl, you could take that risk, because herpes is not deadly. It's just an annoyance. Besides, there are prospective mates out there that will be and/or are accepting of it. It is possible to find someone that will accept you for who you are, and not see you as just another statistic. And if you read up on it, your chances of getting it are slim to nil. And condoms DO protect from it (whomever said that they don't: you are wrong.), it is possible to marry the girl and never contract it. It's happened before.

quote:Originally posted by chuckNrambo +:

*pukes*

hmm dump her! dont risk your health with her!

quote:Originally posted by midgeymonkey2:

fuck you,i read his post and a few others,so shut the fuck up.and no one fucked with me at school cunt,or they got the shit kicked out of them.retard.

Your a fucking moron.

You didnt read the posts

You cant user grammar and sentence structure

You brag about being tough over the internet

Stop tryin gto be cool mr. monkeyfuck. Whats your deal with monkeys anyway? queer

and no, you couldnt kick anyones ass...ever, pussy

quote:Originally posted by Nickums:

Yes, but it's not the end of the world. It is your conscious decision to make. If you really love the girl, you could take that risk, because herpes is not deadly. It's just an annoyance. Besides, there are prospective mates out there that will be and/or are accepting of it. It is possible to find someone that will accept you for who you are, and not see you as just another statistic. And if you read up on it, your chances of getting it are slim to nil. And condoms DO protect from it (whomever said that they don't: you are wrong.), it is possible to marry the girl and never contract it. It's happened before.

1). This is a KID. While its possible that this IS the one he's meant to be with [assuming you believe in that stuff, anyway], its a lot more likely its a phase. WHat if they break up? It's not worth it.

2). You, sir, are a giant dumbass. you can definately get herpes even when you use a condom. It's transmitted through skin-to-skin contact, NOT bodily fluids. My mother is a nurse.

You suck at life, Nickums.

Dumping her would be mean. Especailly since she was nice enuff to tell you instead of just getting you sick. You can cure her herpes through total cell regeneration. For this you will need a replicator.

hmm well I have herpes of the mouth so ummmm I wouldnt mind

quote:Originally posted by Nickums:

Yes, but it's not the end of the world. It is your conscious decision to make. If you really love the girl, you could take that risk, because herpes is not deadly. It's just an annoyance. Besides, there are prospective mates out there that will be and/or are accepting of it. It is possible to find someone that will accept you for who you are, and not see you as just another statistic. And if you read up on it, your chances of getting it are slim to nil. And condoms DO protect from it (whomever said that they don't: you are wrong.), it is possible to marry the girl and never contract it. It's happened before.

Fuck you asshole, stop telling this kid to even consider staying with her. Aside from not blaming this girl pretty much everything you have said is complete bullshit and its obvious you have not suffered personally. It is by no means mild for everyone, and there is no possible way to live a normal life after you get it. I would know.

Try finding a mate with herpes, "hi I like you (but I'm not telling you about my herpes yet, I would rather wait until you have an emotional conection to me and be a selfish asshole)"

or

"hi I like you and I have herpes, wait... where are you going?"

Do no stay with this girl, even if you were maried to her the physical pain and emotional stress is incredible and not worth it. There is absolutly no reason to stay with her and in the long run it will be better for her when she accepts responsibility for her disease and making sure no one else gets it. She may not have deserved it but she still has a responsibility to save others from the same suffering.

quote:Originally posted by Chibi Shinigami:

1). This is a KID. While its possible that this IS the one he's meant to be with [assuming you believe in that stuff, anyway], its a lot more likely its a phase. WHat if they break up? It's not worth it.

2). You, sir, are a giant dumbass. you can definately get herpes even when you use a condom. It's transmitted through skin-to-skin contact, NOT bodily fluids. My mother is a nurse.

You suck at life, Nickums.

Fuck you. If you're wearing a condom, your skin is NOT touching her skin. And women only get the sores on the inside or on the labia. Therefore, a condom (male or female) would cover, and prevent skin-to-skin contact. Your mom may be a nurse, but that doesn't make you an expert on the matter. I have pamphlets about herpes right here. I was there for my friend when she was diagnosed with it, and HEARD what the doctor told her. I went with her boyfriend when the doctor told him his risk. Almost 2 years later...he STILL does not have it, AND they don't use condoms, AND they have sex almost every single day. And by the way, I am most definitely NOT a sir. Thanks.

quote:Originally posted by syphon detonator:

Fuck you asshole, stop telling this kid to even consider staying with her. Aside from not blaming this girl pretty much everything you have said is complete bullshit and its obvious you have not suffered personally. It is by no means mild for everyone, and there is no possible way to live a normal life after you get it. I would know.

Try finding a mate with herpes, "hi I like you (but I'm not telling you about my herpes yet, I would rather wait until you have an emotional conection to me and be a selfish asshole)"

or

"hi I like you and I have herpes, wait... where are you going?"

Do no stay with this girl, even if you were maried to her the physical pain and emotional stress is incredible and not worth it. There is absolutly no reason to stay with her and in the long run it will be better for her when she accepts responsibility for her disease and making sure no one else gets it. She may not have deserved it but she still has a responsibility to save others from the same suffering.

No, fuck you. I haven't suffered from this personally? Wanna bet? The person I am very close to that has it? Yeah...that's me. I've had it for over a year now, not by my own choice, but by being RAPED. So FUCK YOU. It was not my choice to get it, yet I'm stuck with it. I DO know what I'm talking about, it's not complete bullshit, and MY BOYFRIEND was the one that had to make a decision of whether to stay with me or not. What choice did he make? He wants to spend the rest of his life with me anyways, so he could care less if he gets it or not. I feel bad for putting him at risk every day, but he tells me not to, because it was his coice, and he really doesn't care, IT DOES NOT CHANGE WHO I AM. But he was just recently checked, and after having sex almost every day, without condoms, for a year and a half, he STILL has nothing. So fuck you. YOU obviously have not dealt with this personally. I have to deal with this every day for the rest of my goddamn life. So I feel for this boy's girlfriend. Noone should ever look down on her for this, she can't help it. It's like flaming someone for having Cancer. Would you do that? I sure hope not. So FUCK YOU, and think before you flame.

So, Chibi Shinigami, syphon detonator...feeling a little stupid, are we? I know what I'm talking about, I'm trying to give this kid honest advice. What he decides to do with it is his own decision. What I say is not the final word in his decision. Everyone has their own opinion...the only difference in mine is that it actually comes from personal experience on the subject, NOT from simple-minded fucks who THINK they know what they are talking about, according to what they've "heard." So, don't flame me for who I am and what I know, 'cause I guarantee I know more on this subject than anyone else who has written on here so far. Thanks.

quote:Originally posted by syphon detonator:

Dump her right now!

I can not stress enough how much you do not want herpes, take it from someone who has it. I suffer from severe oral herpes which are busy enough to almost constantly grace me with thier presence. Effectively I am totally untouchable, sounds sucky huh? Its even worse living with it. But my story gets more FUBAR, I had them since before I could speak. Most likely I contracted them from a parrent or reletive as a child who thought nothing of it to kiss me with a cold sore. Thanks alot asshole, it turns out I am innefective at fighting a disease that only occures a few weeks a year for most people. Now this is a horrible existence for most people alone but what they don't tell you online is that you are emotionally insane and sometimes physically ill during severe outbreaks. It effects your entire body and will never be cured in our lifetimes because its a virus.

And thats just oral, genital herpes would be even worse.

No matter how much you love this girl and don't want to hurt her feelings its not enough to risk subjecting yourself to this kind of life.

Yes but, you don't have the same immune system as the population at large. I mean, i sympathize for you- that really sucks, but most people get oral herpes at some point in their lives, it's a lame cold sore and then it's gone (actually dormant but not affecting them).

I agree with the person who said that she most likely just wants to break up with him and doesn't know how to say it.

Because this wasn't about sex, it was about kissing.

For everyone else who knows someone with genital herpes or has been affected personally by it, i also sympathize and commend your strength in dealing with it.

^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^

Thanks. Appreciate it.

quote:Originally posted by Nickums:

[B]Everyone that's calling her a whore, slut, etc., fuck off.

I second that. My wife has genital herpes, got it before we met and told me straight up about it before we ever did anything. Gotta admire honesty. She wasn't a whore either, her ex boyfriend was.

Like Nickums said, if you just use common sense and don't mess around while she's having a break out you'll be fine. I've been married for 8 years and I'm fine. She's even gone a few years at once with no break out at all, we actually thought it 'went away' by itself but it didn't Anyway it's barely even an aggravation since she only breaks out a few times a year, if that.

Anyway the case you're talking about sounds more serious than what my wife has.



[This message has been edited by LutherX (edited 08-04-2004).]

Get a fleshlight.

And keep the girlfriend. Read up on buttsex.

Nirvannawannamarijuana said on another thread that it wasn't herpes, it was some sort of skin disease that wasn't an STD

So I guess it doesn't matter.